Silver Alert CT- Jennifer Dulos, 50, New Canaan, 24 May 2019 #10 *ARRESTS*

[MemPat]

See: IMO

Sorry.

 

[DeFoSaLRgione]

Two interesting take aways on intimate partner violence (domestic violence):

- CT happens to be home of one of the landmark cases for IPV legislation in marriage. We have come a long way since 1985 in shifting cultural beliefs and increasing safety for victims but there is SO so much more work to do (MOO): http://www.ncdsv.org/images/CaseBrief_ThurmanVCityOfTorrington_1985.pdf

- Here is an (old school) assessment & screening tool for victims/ survivors of intimate partner violence. It “scores” escalation leading to potential lethality in relationship. Far from perfect but a useful metric for advocates, LE, criminal justice field, victims/ survivors of IPV. The scale scores incidents of dangerousness (eg partner has access to gun, history of strangling, cyberstalking / stalking):
http://ncdsv.org/images/DANGERASSESSMENT.pdf

(I am a New England based licensed mental health clinician and volunteer as a hospital advocate for victims of IPV, sexual assault & hate crimes.

MOO-glimpses of what we are learning of FD sync too well with known patterns of escalation and perpetrators exerting power and control. As we know anecdotally from our own life experiences and media’s portrayal, these perps are often charmers. They are able to shake the self identity of the sturdiest most secure humans- slowly chipping away at self esteem, self-love and deteriorating mental health (gas lighting, isolation, doubt). JD moving to new home with children and story to FD about visiting fathers grave with children is all too familiar to me. We call this “safety planning” in the field. These kind of plans are often suggested by IPV/DV advocates, lawyers and mental health clinicians and often set up in place MONTHS before it’s time to “go.” It is conjecture but the armed guards and quick trip to NYC with the kiddos that fateful night also feels like a “safety plan” to me. These are the steps and hypervigilance victims of domestic violence have daily to protect their lives. JDs access to resources and support system were instrumental in this plan. I would imagine there is likely much more JD and her children witnessed and endured that we will never know. Court and LE require such high levels of documentation that is often impossible to capture the day to day intricacies of living with a perp- tone of voice, scowl, “he said she said” threats, small things around house to make feel crazy.

My heart breaks for JD and those sweet children. I know victims like her so well, so intimately, and I cannot stop refreshing this forum. I wish I had her ease with words to describe the level of grace, strength and bravery she had. My heart goes out to the friends and family of JD as they desperately tried to protect her and navigate a complicated criminal justice process for the past two (probably many more) years. For the unimaginable trauma they have experienced this last month, well there are no words for that, either.

 

[curiousjo]

Been away a while ... Drove through much of CT today, visiting my hometown and a few other areas I lived in as an adult. We drove thru Farmington and our route happened to take us by the Farmington addresses at Jeff Crossing, Mt. Spring and Olcott. Standard CT mansions if that's what floats your boat ...
But what continues to strike me more and more after my travels is the question of why FD would dispose of evidence in Hartford, where cameras are literally everywhere (see Crime-busting Technology -- Security Today ) and as I recall he had his phone next to him tracking his every move.

He'd be much better off disposing of evidence much closer to his own own in Farmington, where swamp land/wetlands, even just off major highways like 8, are abundant ( Shade Swamp Sanctuary, "The Abandoned Zoo," Farmington ).

Or even the swamp land near New Canaan, where JD mostly recently lived. IMO, FD, as a developer, KNOWS the lay of the land, particularly where the land is not inhabitable and where a body may quickly decompose whether or not it is in one piece (see Inland Wetlands To Prospective New Canaan Homeowners: ‘Buyer Beware’ ).

Which IMO (all of this), leads to three main possibilities if we are to assume JD is dead (which I think is a safe bet):
1. This was an angry, spur-of-the-moment attack on JD by FD---leading FD & MT to desperately and foolishly dispose of evidence of JD's body in Hartford, where IMO, they know they could blame it on a random act by a person of color.
2. FD planned JD's demise and something went very wrong--which could still lead to the above.
3. Or, #1 or #2 occurred and FD disposed of JD's remains somewhere in these wetland/swamp land areas. In this case, FD & MT still disposed of evidence in Hartford, but ONLY to try and throw off investigators.

Obviously, this is ALL MY OPINON and conjecture. I cannot get my mind off off that wetland off of the highway ...

Someone posted that he chose Hartford because they incinerate trash, so no evidence.

 

[MemPat]

The contrast between his beautiful wife and the girlfriend are unbelievable. Some sort of drug use makes sense now because the images I’ve seen of the girlfriend tell a story. She looks much older than the wife despite the fact she isn’t and looks rough sround the edges. One never knows what choices people make but to me it’s believable there was drug use between him and his lady friend...
ETA I’m speaking of the girlfriend amd his drug use. Certainly not Jennifer’s!

It never fails that a guilty person will assign his own faults to the innocent spouse.

FD may be doing it through Pattis but this accusation of Jennifer's drug abuse tells us a lot about him and what he has ingested.

Actually, when he goes to prison it will help that he can tell his fellow inmates he was high when he and girlfriend paraded through Hartford throwing bloody sponges to the crowd!

 

[clearskies1]

NP's words about a woman who is not here to defend herself are meaningless. What matters is an arrest for premeditated murder.

 

[MemPat]

Two interesting take aways on intimate partner violence (domestic violence):

- CT happens to be home of one of the landmark cases for IPV legislation in marriage. We have come a long way since 1985 in shifting cultural beliefs and increasing safety for victims but there is SO so much more work to do (MOO): http://www.ncdsv.org/images/CaseBrief_ThurmanVCityOfTorrington_1985.pdf

- Here is an (old school) assessment & screening tool for victims/ survivors of intimate partner violence. It “scores” escalation leading to potential lethality in relationship. Far from perfect but a useful metric for advocates, LE, criminal justice field, victims/ survivors of IPV. The scale scores incidents of dangerousness (eg partner has access to gun, history of strangling, cyberstalking / stalking):
http://ncdsv.org/images/DANGERASSESSMENT.pdf

(I am a New England based licensed mental health clinician and volunteer as a hospital advocate for victims of IPV, sexual assault & hate crimes.

MOO-glimpses of what we are learning of FD sync too well with known patterns of escalation and perpetrators exerting power and control. As we know anecdotally from our own life experiences and media’s portrayal, these perps are often charmers. They are able to shake the self identity of the sturdiest most secure humans- slowly chipping away at self esteem, self-love and deteriorating mental health (gas lighting, isolation, doubt). JD moving to new home with children and story to FD about visiting fathers grave with children is all too familiar to me. We call this “safety planning” in the field. These kind of plans are often suggested by IPV/DV advocates, lawyers and mental health clinicians and often set up in place MONTHS before it’s time to “go.” It is conjecture but the armed guards and quick trip to NYC with the kiddos that fateful night also feels like a “safety plan” to me. These are the steps and hypervigilance victims of domestic violence have daily to protect their lives. JDs access to resources and support system were instrumental in this plan. I would imagine there is likely much more JD and her children witnessed and endured that we will never know. Court and LE require such high levels of documentation that is often impossible to capture the day to day intricacies of living with a perp- tone of voice, scowl, “he said she said” threats, small things around house to make feel crazy.

My heart breaks for JD and those sweet children. I know victims like her so well, so intimately, and I cannot stop refreshing this forum. I wish I had her ease with words to describe the level of grace, strength and bravery she had. My heart goes out to the friends and family of JD as they desperately tried to protect her and navigate a complicated criminal justice process for the past two (probably many more) years. For the unimaginable trauma they have experienced this last month, well there are no words for that, either.

Thank you for a lovely post to help us empathize with the many people in this world like Jennifer. And thank you for the work you do.

 

[MemPat]

Someone posted that he chose Hartford because they incinerate trash, so no evidence.

Oops! Should have remembered that holiday!

 

[isabella88]

Someone posted that he chose Hartford because they incinerate trash, so no evidence.

Fortunately, the trash was reported to have not yet reached the incinerator when it came time to look. It's in tiny pieces, though. That accounts for how long (and nasty!) that trash search may end up.

 

[spaz1959]

Two interesting take aways on intimate partner violence (domestic violence):

- CT happens to be home of one of the landmark cases for IPV legislation in marriage. We have come a long way since 1985 in shifting cultural beliefs and increasing safety for victims but there is SO so much more work to do (MOO): http://www.ncdsv.org/images/CaseBrief_ThurmanVCityOfTorrington_1985.pdf

- Here is an (old school) assessment & screening tool for victims/ survivors of intimate partner violence. It “scores” escalation leading to potential lethality in relationship. Far from perfect but a useful metric for advocates, LE, criminal justice field, victims/ survivors of IPV. The scale scores incidents of dangerousness (eg partner has access to gun, history of strangling, cyberstalking / stalking):
http://ncdsv.org/images/DANGERASSESSMENT.pdf

(I am a New England based licensed mental health clinician and volunteer as a hospital advocate for victims of IPV, sexual assault & hate crimes.

MOO-glimpses of what we are learning of FD sync too well with known patterns of escalation and perpetrators exerting power and control. As we know anecdotally from our own life experiences and media’s portrayal, these perps are often charmers. They are able to shake the self identity of the sturdiest most secure humans- slowly chipping away at self esteem, self-love and deteriorating mental health (gas lighting, isolation, doubt). JD moving to new home with children and story to FD about visiting fathers grave with children is all too familiar to me. We call this “safety planning” in the field. These kind of plans are often suggested by IPV/DV advocates, lawyers and mental health clinicians and often set up in place MONTHS before it’s time to “go.” It is conjecture but the armed guards and quick trip to NYC with the kiddos that fateful night also feels like a “safety plan” to me. These are the steps and hypervigilance victims of domestic violence have daily to protect their lives. JDs access to resources and support system were instrumental in this plan. I would imagine there is likely much more JD and her children witnessed and endured that we will never know. Court and LE require such high levels of documentation that is often impossible to capture the day to day intricacies of living with a perp- tone of voice, scowl, “he said she said” threats, small things around house to make feel crazy.

My heart breaks for JD and those sweet children. I know victims like her so well, so intimately, and I cannot stop refreshing this forum. I wish I had her ease with words to describe the level of grace, strength and bravery she had. My heart goes out to the friends and family of JD as they desperately tried to protect her and navigate a complicated criminal justice process for the past two (probably many more) years. For the unimaginable trauma they have experienced this last month, well there are no words for that, either.

Thank you for your post.

 

[nina318]

Bankers would have laughed FD outta the bank if he came in wanting to borrow a pile of money to build a large home on spec,
with NO Experience under his belt. they woulda shown him the door.
New builders have a very hard time getting financing without a
high percentage of their own equity into the project. It's just
smart business from the bank's perspective.
Most large homes in the prices he built are rarely built on speculation. They're almost always custom builds. Why?
Because if you can afford a 3 or 4 million dollar home, you want
your own personal input on design, layout, finish materials, appliances, roof materials, etc. Again, he just didn't know what
he didn't know. A novice with a pile of money to spend.

BBM. Indeed! In my area, this is true. Multi-million dollar homes are built according to the homeowners specs. I believe "Fore Group, Inc." was a front company. JMO.

 

[Inthedetails]

It is conjecture but the armed guards and quick trip to NYC with the kiddos that fateful night also feels like a “safety plan” to me.

Snipped by me.

Whoa. I think you might be on to something. I have thought it odd that the kids were going to spend the night in NYC when they were going to spend the holiday weekend with FD on visitation hours. On one hand, it was a short school day so maybe the trip to NYC and back again was no big deal..but on the other hand, it seems sort of a hassle with 5 kids to go to Grandma's apartment for an overnight and then back home for FD to pick up the next day.

I wonder if a safety plan was in action? Had something spooked JD into getting out of CN? And she was right?

I'm not totally sold on this, but will consider it. I got shivers when I read your post about safety plans.

Thinking aloud, pondering with the group, jmo.

 

[isabella88]

Two interesting take aways on intimate partner violence (domestic violence):

- CT happens to be home of one of the landmark cases for IPV legislation in marriage. We have come a long way since 1985 in shifting cultural beliefs and increasing safety for victims but there is SO so much more work to do (MOO): http://www.ncdsv.org/images/CaseBrief_ThurmanVCityOfTorrington_1985.pdf

- Here is an (old school) assessment & screening tool for victims/ survivors of intimate partner violence. It “scores” escalation leading to potential lethality in relationship. Far from perfect but a useful metric for advocates, LE, criminal justice field, victims/ survivors of IPV. The scale scores incidents of dangerousness (eg partner has access to gun, history of strangling, cyberstalking / stalking):
http://ncdsv.org/images/DANGERASSESSMENT.pdf

(I am a New England based licensed mental health clinician and volunteer as a hospital advocate for victims of IPV, sexual assault & hate crimes.

MOO-glimpses of what we are learning of FD sync too well with known patterns of escalation and perpetrators exerting power and control. As we know anecdotally from our own life experiences and media’s portrayal, these perps are often charmers. They are able to shake the self identity of the sturdiest most secure humans- slowly chipping away at self esteem, self-love and deteriorating mental health (gas lighting, isolation, doubt). JD moving to new home with children and story to FD about visiting fathers grave with children is all too familiar to me. We call this “safety planning” in the field. These kind of plans are often suggested by IPV/DV advocates, lawyers and mental health clinicians and often set up in place MONTHS before it’s time to “go.” It is conjecture but the armed guards and quick trip to NYC with the kiddos that fateful night also feels like a “safety plan” to me. These are the steps and hypervigilance victims of domestic violence have daily to protect their lives. JDs access to resources and support system were instrumental in this plan. I would imagine there is likely much more JD and her children witnessed and endured that we will never know. Court and LE require such high levels of documentation that is often impossible to capture the day to day intricacies of living with a perp- tone of voice, scowl, “he said she said” threats, small things around house to make feel crazy.

My heart breaks for JD and those sweet children. I know victims like her so well, so intimately, and I cannot stop refreshing this forum. I wish I had her ease with words to describe the level of grace, strength and bravery she had. My heart goes out to the friends and family of JD as they desperately tried to protect her and navigate a complicated criminal justice process for the past two (probably many more) years. For the unimaginable trauma they have experienced this last month, well there are no words for that, either.

Awesome info! You may want to consider becoming a verified expert. This type of knowledge is so crucial, IMO. Thank you for sharing!

 

[HopeForTheBest]

While I know how to post links in general, I don’t know if I am doing this correctly for this site or if it’s already posted but since I didn’t see any comments yet on NP seeming to say that FP and MT have broken up, I’m posting it:

https://nypost.com/2019/06/22/lawye...orchestrated-her-own-gone-girl-disappearance/

Also comments reported from friends of JD.

Forgive me and delete if I’ve violated a rule in some way.

 

[nina318]

Two interesting take aways on intimate partner violence (domestic violence):

- CT happens to be home of one of the landmark cases for IPV legislation in marriage. We have come a long way since 1985 in shifting cultural beliefs and increasing safety for victims but there is SO so much more work to do (MOO): http://www.ncdsv.org/images/CaseBrief_ThurmanVCityOfTorrington_1985.pdf

- Here is an (old school) assessment & screening tool for victims/ survivors of intimate partner violence. It “scores” escalation leading to potential lethality in relationship. Far from perfect but a useful metric for advocates, LE, criminal justice field, victims/ survivors of IPV. The scale scores incidents of dangerousness (eg partner has access to gun, history of strangling, cyberstalking / stalking):
http://ncdsv.org/images/DANGERASSESSMENT.pdf

(I am a New England based licensed mental health clinician and volunteer as a hospital advocate for victims of IPV, sexual assault & hate crimes.

MOO-glimpses of what we are learning of FD sync too well with known patterns of escalation and perpetrators exerting power and control. As we know anecdotally from our own life experiences and media’s portrayal, these perps are often charmers. They are able to shake the self identity of the sturdiest most secure humans- slowly chipping away at self esteem, self-love and deteriorating mental health (gas lighting, isolation, doubt). JD moving to new home with children and story to FD about visiting fathers grave with children is all too familiar to me. We call this “safety planning” in the field. These kind of plans are often suggested by IPV/DV advocates, lawyers and mental health clinicians and often set up in place MONTHS before it’s time to “go.” It is conjecture but the armed guards and quick trip to NYC with the kiddos that fateful night also feels like a “safety plan” to me. These are the steps and hypervigilance victims of domestic violence have daily to protect their lives. JDs access to resources and support system were instrumental in this plan. I would imagine there is likely much more JD and her children witnessed and endured that we will never know. Court and LE require such high levels of documentation that is often impossible to capture the day to day intricacies of living with a perp- tone of voice, scowl, “he said she said” threats, small things around house to make feel crazy.

My heart breaks for JD and those sweet children. I know victims like her so well, so intimately, and I cannot stop refreshing this forum. I wish I had her ease with words to describe the level of grace, strength and bravery she had. My heart goes out to the friends and family of JD as they desperately tried to protect her and navigate a complicated criminal justice process for the past two (probably many more) years. For the unimaginable trauma they have experienced this last month, well there are no words for that, either.

This is very insightful and such beautiful, heartfelt words at the end (BBM). Thank you for sharing!

 

[Bulldogs2]

Two interesting take aways on intimate partner violence (domestic violence):

- CT happens to be home of one of the landmark cases for IPV legislation in marriage. We have come a long way since 1985 in shifting cultural beliefs and increasing safety for victims but there is SO so much more work to do (MOO): http://www.ncdsv.org/images/CaseBrief_ThurmanVCityOfTorrington_1985.pdf

- Here is an (old school) assessment & screening tool for victims/ survivors of intimate partner violence. It “scores” escalation leading to potential lethality in relationship. Far from perfect but a useful metric for advocates, LE, criminal justice field, victims/ survivors of IPV. The scale scores incidents of dangerousness (eg partner has access to gun, history of strangling, cyberstalking / stalking):
http://ncdsv.org/images/DANGERASSESSMENT.pdf

(I am a New England based licensed mental health clinician and volunteer as a hospital advocate for victims of IPV, sexual assault & hate crimes.

MOO-glimpses of what we are learning of FD sync too well with known patterns of escalation and perpetrators exerting power and control. As we know anecdotally from our own life experiences and media’s portrayal, these perps are often charmers. They are able to shake the self identity of the sturdiest most secure humans- slowly chipping away at self esteem, self-love and deteriorating mental health (gas lighting, isolation, doubt). JD moving to new home with children and story to FD about visiting fathers grave with children is all too familiar to me. We call this “safety planning” in the field. These kind of plans are often suggested by IPV/DV advocates, lawyers and mental health clinicians and often set up in place MONTHS before it’s time to “go.” It is conjecture but the armed guards and quick trip to NYC with the kiddos that fateful night also feels like a “safety plan” to me. These are the steps and hypervigilance victims of domestic violence have daily to protect their lives. JDs access to resources and support system were instrumental in this plan. I would imagine there is likely much more JD and her children witnessed and endured that we will never know. Court and LE require such high levels of documentation that is often impossible to capture the day to day intricacies of living with a perp- tone of voice, scowl, “he said she said” threats, small things around house to make feel crazy.

My heart breaks for JD and those sweet children. I know victims like her so well, so intimately, and I cannot stop refreshing this forum. I wish I had her ease with words to describe the level of grace, strength and bravery she had. My heart goes out to the friends and family of JD as they desperately tried to protect her and navigate a complicated criminal justice process for the past two (probably many more) years. For the unimaginable trauma they have experienced this last month, well there are no words for that, either.

Well said. I’m a LICSW in CT and see far too much of this. Well described. Praying for her children and family.

 

[kimch33kim]

NP said MT and FD are broken up but the other day said that FD loves her and her daughter. Well that didn’t last long. Haha

 

[Hazelnutty]

While I know how to post links in general, I don’t know if I am doing this correctly for this site or if it’s already posted but since I didn’t see any comments yet on NP seeming to say that FP and MT have broken up, I’m posting it:

https://nypost.com/2019/06/22/lawye...orchestrated-her-own-gone-girl-disappearance/

Also comments reported from friends of JD.

Forgive me and delete if I’ve violated a rule in some way.

Uh oh.

The thrill is gone?

Trouble in paradise?

Tsk Tsk

 

[LittleBitty]

Framing this for the defense opening statement: “FD shows up at JDs house (forget about the truck switch with the ex-employee that’s incidental) and finds a garage door open! With blood and license plates inside that incriminate my client! He panicked! Given their highly contentious divorce proceedings and the child custody hearing which would occur in a few days, my client did the only think to do was protect himself. He had to hide the evidence. He was scared and frightened. He assumed he would be framed. Can you imagine? He was against a money machine. He had no money. He was broke. His wife threatened to “break his legs.”. She is emotionally damaged and uses drugs and makes up tall tales. She is writer and like any good writer she framed her husband. She has all the money and the power and my client was just an innocent pawn in this. She and her family held and hold all the cards. She is a damaged woman who wanted revenge and she got it!”

 

[HopeForTheBest]

NP said MT and FD are broken up but the other day said that FD loves her and her daughter. Well that didn’t last long. Haha

I wonder what this revelation is intended to do for his client, such as maybe help NP try to color anything MT says about FD as less credible (what a conundrum...) due to the breakup.

 

[SteveP]

Framing this for the defense opening statement: “FD shows up at JDs house (forget about the truck switch with the ex-employee that’s incidental) and finds a garage door open! With blood and license plates inside that incriminate my client! He panicked! Given their highly contentious divorce proceedings and the child custody hearing which would occur in a few days, my client did the only thing he could do, which was protect himself. He had to hide the evidence. He was scared and frightened. All he could thing to do was his the evidence. He assumed he would be framed. Can you imagine? He was against a money machine. He had no money. He was broke. His wife threatened to “break his legs.”. She is emotionally damaged and uses drugs and makes up tall tales. She is writer and like any good writer she framed her husband. She has all the money and the power and my client was just an innocent pawn in this. She and her family held and hold all the cards. She is a damaged woman who wanted revenge and she got it!”

Geez, at least make NP work for the money he isn't getting from FD. Don't do it for him.

ETA: I think you may have nailed it. I can hear him saying exactly this.