Thank you for the kind words. It might have been brave I suppose, but I went to a cyber advice site and they told me flat out I was an enabler and though I thought I was helping my daughter, I was actually hurting her, and that gave me the courage to do the right thing.
They weren't the first ones who gave me similiar advice, but they were the first strangers to do so. When I asked for input from trusted others, they completely agreed. I was also given hope that in a year or two, she would be standing on her own feet, and even thankful. So I set my eyes on the prize to endure the extreme insults and accusations in the present.
I have learned much with what has happend to Caylee. I don't think CA could have saved Caylee no matter what she tried, and honestly her incredible patience with Casey was what kept her from her ultimate acting out sooner. I personally believe that. CA has incredible love for her family. Casey simply abused that love.
That's just my opinion.
I understand LE has done a good job in this case.
They have been extremely patient with CA.
Let's see, I'm 44 with 6 (yes six) kids, Daughters are 25, 19, 16 and 8, Son's are 18 and 12 and one grandson (7months).
Since it's public record, I'll spill, Oldest Daughter 25, just got out of prison, we thought while she was going to college (btw she was actually going, she got her A.S. in the mail after her sentencing hearing), that she was working as a waitress at a well known chain resteraunt. We had no clue that she WASN'T, she was using this place as her "cover" to sell drugs (trafficking), everyone there knew her and I could call up anytime and if she wasn't there, the employees would let her know that I had called as soon as she came in and she would call me from their phone. I can't even begin to tell you how I felt when DEA and all that goes along with it, show up at my house in the middle of the night to execute a search warrent and a warrent for my daughters arrest. I was mortified, humiliated, angry (actually seeing red), and pretty much screaming at the cops "your wrong" "My daughter wouldn't do that" blah blah blah.
Needless to say, if I had been caught on tape, it would not have been one of my finer moments :crazy:
But (big but here), when they pulled the liner out of her trunk, and the proof was there for me to see, I shut up and handed the cops my copy of the key to her car.
I visited her in jail while she was awaiting trial, I visited her in her 3 year stay in prison, I bought her a bike when she went to Work Release so she could go to and from work.
The point to this? I feel so sorry for Cindy, but I don't feel that it gives her a get out of jail free card, if she has done anything to cover up what KC has done.
You can love and support, without enabling.
I had no choice but to believe, the truth was in the trunk (unlike CA, I shut up as soon as as I saw it).
I couldn't believe this was happening to our family! I was a to say the least "mad".
You know the worst of the whole thing? I went to high school with the cop that arrested my daughter, he was so apologetic (in hindsight it's funny).
The point to all of this, is once your children are adults, the decisions they make have nothing to do with how they were raised, it's all about them at that point.
My daughters bail was 5000, not once did she ask me to bail her out (I wouldn't have btw), she was more worried about how it had affected the younger kids.
I talked to her about this a couple of times, she told me "Mom if I lost a kid, I would sit in jail even if you had bailed me out, I'm more afraid of you than the cops"
She knows me well
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Hi, I am a grandmom and grt.grandmom.I agree with you.I feel the same way.They (the A's) have had more than their share but they know right from wrong.They need to learn truthfulness.KC. made her mistakes and must pay,so do they need to own up.
I am 60, hubby 62, 2 children and 5 grandchildren.......we say CHARGE THEM!
Happy tonight to have the 2 smallest with us for the STEELER game, such a joy to
be grandparents!!!!
Your reaction to both LE and your daughter was admirable.
I'm sure LE appreciated your cooperation in light of the way so many parents insist their child would never do what the evidence so clearly says they did.
But the thing that really stands out to me is your daughter and the way she
accepted responsibility for her actions. Her concern for her siblings, sitting in jail, knowing better than to expect you to bail her out speaks very highly of the way she was raised.
We all make mistakes, some are just bigger than others. Accepting responsibility for and moving past them is the important thing. Your daughter was a very young adult at the time of her mistake, but it sounds like she has behaved in a very mature way. I'm sure knowing she had your love and support at that time in her life was everything to her.
BTW Congratulations on your 6 kids and your new grandbaby.
I am under 40, no kids, no grandkids. I do have nieces though and with that my question is why do people when questioning specific presumed killers of children seem to only agree with someone who has kids(is a parent or even grandparent)...just because you are a parent does not make you a good parent. Also just because you have not had a child does not make you a bad nurturing adult.
Thank you!
I would hope at some point that the Anthony's realize that they aren't doing KC any good at all.
Their behavior has been appalling with what's came out, if it would have been me in the "lost video", I wouldn't have cared if I was being taped, I would have told her to tell me the truth, or she could sit her butt right were it was.
The lost opportunity to get her out would have stayed just that.
i am a 29 year old single mother of 2, i say charge them all
Let's see, I'm 44 with 6 (yes six) kids, Daughters are 25, 19, 16 and 8, Son's are 18 and 12 and one grandson (7months).
Since it's public record, I'll spill, Oldest Daughter 25, just got out of prison, we thought while she was going to college (btw she was actually going, she got her A.S. in the mail after her sentencing hearing), that she was working as a waitress at a well known chain resteraunt. We had no clue that she WASN'T, she was using this place as her "cover" to sell drugs (trafficking), everyone there knew her and I could call up anytime and if she wasn't there, the employees would let her know that I had called as soon as she came in and she would call me from their phone. I can't even begin to tell you how I felt when DEA and all that goes along with it, show up at my house in the middle of the night to execute a search warrent and a warrent for my daughters arrest. I was mortified, humiliated, angry (actually seeing red), and pretty much screaming at the cops "your wrong" "My daughter wouldn't do that" blah blah blah.
Needless to say, if I had been caught on tape, it would not have been one of my finer moments :crazy:
But (big but here), when they pulled the liner out of her trunk, and the proof was there for me to see, I shut up and handed the cops my copy of the key to her car.
I visited her in jail while she was awaiting trial, I visited her in her 3 year stay in prison, I bought her a bike when she went to Work Release so she could go to and from work.
The point to this? I feel so sorry for Cindy, but I don't feel that it gives her a get out of jail free card, if she has done anything to cover up what KC has done.
You can love and support, without enabling.
You are a brave woman. I've met others like you and I have met enablers. Trust me, those like you are the ones who are more able to accept that their wayward children's actions aren't a reflection on themselves. Good parents sometimes have children who do bad things. Once our kids are adults, their actions are THEIR OWN responsibility, not that of their parents'. I have a friend who's an enabler and she has suffered mightily for it, including the violent death of one of her children.
This weekend, a woman was murdered on the street. Today, we're told two of the three criminals are behind bars. Why? Because their mothers (separately) saw the sketches of the culprits on TV and telephoned police, saying, "I think it's my son". Both teens confessed. Those two mothers were strong and brave and it's evident they know right from wrong. Can you imagine how difficult it was for them?
Not all parents act like Cindy and George. It was their responsibility to speak for Caylee since her mother refused to, but instead, they sided with Casey, deliberately. I believe those grandparents should be charged with obstruction of justice.
I do not quite understand this question....I hope it does not mean anything bad about teenage pregnancy because that just gripes at me BIG time when I hear about how bad teen mother's are.
I was 13 when I got pregnant and had Jess when I was 14. I have 3 kids all with same daddy (only man I have ever been with) and I am a RN. So I completed college. I would like to think my children are raised to the best of my abilities and I do take pride in knowing they can all survive in this world (esp now days)
So please if this is not how this question is aimed do tell me what you mean,:waitasec: