Frigga
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My thoughts turned to this case last week while I was watching one of those reality ER shows, many of which were filmed in the late 90's early 2000's. One of the ER cases they followed was a young man who had an accident and after a short while he was found to be brain dead. I felt for the poor parents who just couldn't accept that, they kept telling the doctors to do something to get the blood into his brain, to put a tube in or something. Through the whole conversation the doctors just kept telling them that there was nothing they could do because he was dead. They said that over and over, to every argument the parents put up the reply was always he's gone, he's dead, he's not coming back. It reminded me of what this family said how the hospital kept pounding in that she is dead over and over again. The doctor on this show commented later on to the camera that its' something they don't like to do but something they have found over their years of practicing is that answer, telling families that over and over is often the only way family finally gets it, finally accepts it. Watching this whole thing happen let me further understand what others considered callous was simply practiced responses that all to often are needed.
Really great post- thank you.