I pray to God in earnest that I will never have to find out how I would react if I were facing a similar situation.
My young teenage son has been asking me some weird questions lately like "If I were a Nazi, would you disown me?" So far I've answered him by saying things like "Are you being a shock jock? Why?" I asked him if he knows what he is saying and to explain what being a Nazi means to him. Then, of course, I tell him he'd be better off not finding out. By the way, he likes to ask me this stuff in front of his friends for their reaction (he thinks he's funny - ha, ha). He'll test me about race, gay issues, sexual diseases, etc. I tell him the facts - how you get herpes for instance, and say that if he does not do that, he will not "get" that. If he does do that and gets that, then he made that choice - he took that risk. What else can I do. I won't be with him when he makes his decisions. He yanks my chain and I try to turn it into a verbal lesson and not react to the shock factor.
With that said, I'm thinking were do kids get this stuff these days? The boys play war video games all the time. Not my cup of tea but I want him to be aware and skilled if he should ever have to face an enemy. Protecting kids from realty, imo, is not a service. Sweeping things under the rug is not a service. You do this (unprotected sex) and take your pick a, b, or c could happen. You do this (steal) and a, b, or c could happen. Are you willing that to your life, son? Why would you do that, son?
If he makes choices that are criminal, he has been advised that he will pay the piper. Momma cannot and will not be able to save him. So, son, realize your choices are yours alone and please, I beg of you, choose to make your mamma proud.
After reading the remarks on this thread, I thought of the perfect answer the next time I'm asked a questions such as "Mom will you still love me if I become a drug dealer?" My answer will be, "The question is, son, will you still love yourself."