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Day 101- 08/12/2007 (Sunday)
My brother and his family left early this morning. It was great having them here for a few days, particularly for the twins to be able to play with their ‘big’ cousins. They also were a great help to us especially during these very busy last few days.

We went to mass this morning, which was extremely busy with all the holidaymakers who are here. There was also a lot of media outside but the village is starting to return to normal again after the events of last week leading up to the 100 days since Madeleine disappeared.

A couple of other friends and their daughter have come out to stay with us this week, which really helps. We had a fairly quiet afternoon, spent with the kids who remain very happy. They speak about their big sister frequently and seem to want to look after cuddle cat as much as mummy!


Day 102 - 08/13/2007
Praia da Luz is slowly returning to normal. The number of TV crews has reduced dramatically and we have been able to get back to more of our normal routine here. There is still a large media presence particularly of print journalists who are waiting, like everyone else, for the next development in the police investigation. We are still optimistic that there will be a breakthrough. In the meantime however, little has changed for Kate and I. We will not give up hope until Madeleine is found and we will not stop searching for her.

The campaign, as planned, will enter a quieter phase again. We have always envisaged that media attention focussed on Madeleine and us would quieten down and just occasionally we would try to remind people that Madeleine is still missing and that we are still looking. There cannot be many people who do not know these facts after the events of this last week. As well as the find Madeleine campaign we will be working closely with ICMEC and it is heartening to see so many visitors to the YouTube don’t you forget about me channel for missing children.

Kate and I would also like to thank the thousands of people who have sent us messages of support over the last few days. It really does help and we know that you will keep looking for Madeleine.


Day 103 - 08/14/2007
Relatively quiet day. This allowed me to catch up with e-mails, phone calls and some administration. No major news on any front.

The weather has been unseasonably cool over the last 2-3 days. I have had a long sleeved top on for the first time in over 2 months and it is more pleasant overnight, making sleep easier.


Day 104 - 08/15/2007
It is the feast of the assumption today, which is a holiday in Portugal. This morning we attended mass, which was very busy and again many of the local community asked after Madeleine and said the word ‘force’, meaning strength.

This afternoon Kate and I did a combined interview for the Liverpool Post and the Leicester Mercury this afternoon. We said a big thank you to their readers for all their support and good wishes.


Day 105 - 08/16/2007
As well as the huge number of messages of support we have had a large increase in letters of support. We did some photos of us opening the mail and we received some lovely messages and a few symbols of hope. Afterwards I made a lot of phone calls and managed to catch up with all my e-mails.

Late afternoon we were invited round to a friends house with a pool which the kids and I really enjoyed. We stayed for dinner and the kids fell asleep on the way back to our house. Our accommodation is a very modest family home and, most definitely, not a luxury villa, as was reported in one of the Portuguese newspapers yesterday. I can confirm that it does not have a swimming pool, 2 storeys and in fact was amongst the cheapest accommodation available, at short notice, in Luz in August. I would also like to point out that Madeleines fund has not paid for any of our accommodation in Portugal.


Day 106- 08/17/2007
Relatively quiet day. We are looking at what other avenues we ca explore which might help us find Madeleine. Obviously we are desperate for a breakthrough in the investigation and we always try to look forward and ask what can still be done? The official PJ Spokesman Olegario da Sousa did an interview for Portuguese TV the other day and we will add the text of this interview to the news links so everyone can read the full interview.

I still have lots of e-mails and phone calls to answer every day. We spent quite a bit of time opening and reading all the mail that arrived which generally encourage us to keep going and not give up hope.

Late afternoon we took the twins to the beach for a couple of hours. The weather has become warmer again but the kids are still reluctant to get into the sea, which is pretty cold. They love playing in the sand and like most kids, building sandcastles but especially knocking them down.

This evening we had another vigil for Madeleine and other lost children. The priest who married us and is a good friend led the service that was conducted in English and Portuguese. The church was almost full but there was a calm serenity and sense of peace, which I find, helps me achieve an inner calm despite the turmoil in lives.


Day 107 - 08/18/2007
Kate took our friends to the airport early this morning. Otherwise it was a quiet family day. We have met some incredibly lovely people in the last few months. Today we caught up with a fantastic couple that met in London and lived there for 35 years before retiring to the Algarve. They have been incredibly kind to us and the twins very much enjoyed the apple cake we had with them.

This afternoon we had a British visitor ho came to offer us a different type of support. He has been through an ordeal similar to ours involving one of his family. It was good to talk about our emotions, the pressures and different coping strategies that we use in an ongoing trauma, with someone who has experienced a tragic event like ours.
 
Day 108 - 08/19/2007 (Sunday)
I went to the airport this morning to pick up one of Kates friends who has come out to help for a few days. Kate went to church this morning as usual. We spent a couple of hours reading mail and answering e-mails.

Donations to Madeleines fund have topped £1million pounds. We would like to thank everyone who has donated to the fund and we will ensure that no stone is left unturned in the search for Madeleine. I will also ensure that the donations figure on the website is officially updated! The establishment of the fund, which was created in response to so many people offering financial assistance, lifted a huge weight off our shoulders. Madeleines fund allows us to make decisions regarding our search for Madeleine for the right reasons- with the boards approval of course- and not out of financial necessity. We did hope that the main objective of the fund would have been fulfilled long before now.

Tonight Kate and I went for a run together. It was the first time I have been for 10 days and I definitely feel better for it. I have made a mental note to get some form of aerobic exercise in at least 2-3 times per week as it does help me both physically and mentally.


Day 109 - 08/20/2007
I had a predominately quiet but productive day. I spent most of it at the computer or on the phone. We keep in regular touch with both the Portuguese and British police but there has been no major news in the last couple of days.

We did not do any exercise today but plan to run tomorrow morning- especially as I am off to bed for an early night!


Day 110 - 08/21/2007
We did manage our early morning run today although not quite to the top of the hill due to time limitation. After dropping the twins off at the kids club we did interviews for the 3 biggest selling Spanish newspapers. The message was that we still believe there is a reasonable chance Madeleine is still alive and we are still looking for her.

We were also asked about what is being written about the investigation and pointed out how much of this is pure speculation. We directed them to the official Portuguese police statements that are very sober in comparison. A statement was released this evening through the Portuguese news agency LUSA. This is the translation of what was reported on Portuguese TV station SIC:

The news that points to the existence of an English suspect, close to the couple, connected to the disappearance of Madeleine on the 3rd May in the Algarve, “does not come” from the PJ and has no “logic whatsoever”, according to what the inspector Olegário Sousa told Lusa.


Day 111 - 08/22/2007
I had another early morning drive to the airport- I could almost do it with my eyes shut. After dropping the kids off we had some photos taken with the results of a survey of UK and European parliament MP’s. The survey results, commissioned by the find Madeleine campaign, will be published tomorrow and demonstrate strong support for changes in European legislation following Madeleine’s abduction.

Kate is keen to get in touch with a very nice mum, who she spoke with at the toddler pool in the Ocean Club on Sunday 3rd June. She is sure you will remember the conversation and Kate would be grateful if you could get in touch at with her at campaign@findmadeleine.com


Day 112 - 08/23/2007
Another early morning start but this time for a series of radio interviews to discuss the survey of MP’s and MEP’s. The survey shows overwhelming support for the introduction of a Europe wide sex offenders register. There is also support to implement a child rescue alert, using local media to inform the community when a child has been abducted and felt to be at serious risk.

There have also been calls for changes in the way child abduction cases are handled in Europe to provide the best expertise available, quickly to the investigating police force. We are uncertain if these measures were in place if it would have made any difference to us finding Madeleine. Kate and I do hope that future changes in legislation and practice will help prevent cases of child abduction and also increase the chances of successfully finding missing children in such circumstances.

Although very serious cases like Madeleine’s (stereotypical kidnapping) are rare, it is very difficult to determine the scale of the problem, as there is no consistency in data collection across Europe. We agree with two leading British Charities (PACT and missing persons) that such data have to be collected with greater accuracy so that the frequency of serious crimes against children can be reliably documented- ideally such data should be available across the EU. Europe is probably 25 years behind the USA in such regard. Change has been driven by the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) and by families who have suffered high profile child abductions.

Travelled back to the UK tonight to attend to a few personal matters before heading to Edinburgh. I have just heard about the shooting of 11-year-old Rhys Jones in Liverpool. This murder is such a tragic waste of a young life and our heartfelt sympathy goes out to Rhys family


Day 113 - 08/24/2007
I started the day early with a pooled telephone interview for the press to talk about the media coverage of the campaign to find Madeleine in advance of my interview at the Edinburgh International TV festival. We touched on the coverage of the investigation and of course the wild speculation and innuendo being reported in some quarters. Although Kate, our friends and myself would love to correct much of the inaccuracy we will not divulge information publicly which might help the perpetrator of Madeleines abduction cover his tracks.

Travelled to Edinburgh this afternoon and managed to keep up the aerobic exercise with 25 minutes in the gym. I then met up with one of our friends who has been instrumental in distributing images of Madeleine and who produced the DVD of her to ‘Don’t you forget about me’. We had a bite to eat and took the chance to update each other on what has been happening in the last few weeks.

Off to bed for an early night after speaking to Kate, who has some family staying with her in Portugal whilst I am in the UK.


Day 114 - 08/25/2007
Kirsty Wark interviewed me at the Edinburgh International TV festival this morning. It was very well attended, especially considering the 9.30 start on a Saturday morning. It is difficult to explain why Madeleines disappearance has generated so much media coverage and why it has been so sustained. I am certain that the coverage would not have been nearly as great if this had happened 10 years ago. The use of mobile phones, the internet, low-cost airlines and 24 hour news channels have changed the world we live in- making it seem smaller. No doubt Madeleines physical appearance also captured the publics imagination as well as the highly unusual circumstances of a foreign child being abducted on holiday.

Our family decided to try and make as many people as possible aware that Madeleine was missing quickly. Family members did frequent TV interviews and friends distributed images of Madeline to news outlets. My sister started the electronic campaign proper by sending a chain e-mail with a poster of Madeleine, which was quickly advertised by Sky and downloaded by thousands of people. Celebrities, sporting stars and ordinary people wanted to help, almost certainly because they felt the same feeling of helplessness that we did. After the first few weeks we fully expected the media attention to die down but this has just not happened.

Some sections of the media now question their roles in the coverage of the news story that is Madeleine. Kate and I quickly realised that much of the coverage was pure speculation, which was often negative and certainly unhelpful for us. We decided to rely on information only from official sources and this has certainly helped us remain on a fairly even keel despite some of the lurid headlines.

I left Edinburgh early afternoon but spent most of the day travelling as I had to fly back to Portugal via Luton. I managed to get some work done and write my blog on the way back. It was great to see Kate and the kids again after 2 days.
 
Day 115 - 08/26/2007 (Sunday)
I attended mass this morning but Kate did not go as she went to the English speaking service last night. It was good to see the local parish priest, father Jose back after a couple of weeks on retreat.

This afternoon was spent with the twins who remain very happy and help Kate and me keep looking forward.


Day 116 - 08/27/2007
No major news to report. Most of my day was spent on e-mails and telephone calls.
Kate I went for a run together in the early evening along the waterfront and then we popped into church for 10 minutes to pray for Madeleine. We had dinner with Kates family who are over here just now. Sean and Amelie are particularly enjoying having some older kids around.


Day 117 - 08/28/2007
We, like everyone else, await the results of the forensics from the recent searches. We do not know who has taken Madeleine or why. Sometimes people do things for reasons that even they cannot understand. An act of madness, an accident or sudden impulse can lead to consequences that people may never have imagined or intended. Faced with such a situation we believe any human soul will ultimately suffer torment and feelings of guilt and fear.

If you have done something you regret, if you find yourself in a situation you never intended, it is not too late to do the right thing. Please come forward, return Madeleine, leave her in a place of safety. At the very least, help us by letting us know what has happened to our beautiful little girl.


Day 118 - 08/29/2007
Relatively quiet day. Kate and I did one interview in the morning for a newspaper- that I managed to finish, probably because the journalist stuck to questions that I am allowed to give answers to!

This afternoon and evening was mostly spent at my computer and a couple of hours with the kids. Their constant chatter with each other is quite entertaining.


Day 119 - 08/30/2007
Kate and I managed an early morning run, finishing by running up the steep hill. It got a difficult day for us off to a good start.

Madeleine was due to start school today. It has been hard not to imagine how excited she would have been and how she would have looked in her school uniform. Kate and I would like to thank the pupils, parents, teachers and headmistress for their continued support and prayers. We would like to wish all the new pupils much happiness and we hope pray that Madeleine will be able to join her fellow classmates soon.

Day 120- 08/31/2007
Those of who you that read the blog regularly know how difficult it has been for us not to respond to many of the slurs against our behaviour leading up to Madeleines disappearance. We have consistently stated that we will not put new information into the public domain that might jeopardise the investigation and in fact, we are constrained by Portuguese Law as witnesses from doing so.

There has been some wild speculation reported in the press about what may have happened to Madeleine. Most of the innuendo regarding Kate and me has died down in light of the statements from the official Portuguese Police spokesperson. However last Friday, a Portuguese newspaper published a front-page headline ‘PJ believes that the parents killed Maddie’. We firmly believe that the report was speculative, defamatory and published despite official statements to the contrary.

As well as damaging our personal and professional reputations, such allegations smear the investigation, the campaign to find Madeleine and cause great offence and anxiety to all our family. This is why, after careful consideration, we have issued a writ against the newspaper for defamation. Our focus has, and always will be, on doing our best to help find Madeleine. This lurid allegation is so serious and wide of the mark that we feel it cannot go unchallenged.

The legal expenses for the proceedings will not be paid from Madeleines fund.


Day 121 - 09/01/2007
Today was a very quiet family day with just the four of us. Kate’s family left first thing this morning. We took Sean and Amelie to a local zoo that they really enjoyed. I managed to get the blog written early so it is off to bed for an early night.

In Rothley, our home village, there was a meeting this afternoon with the four churches all contributing prayers for Madeleine. We would like to thank everyone who is praying for Madeleine and all those who have sent us messages of support- you do help to maintain our strength and focus.
 
Day 122 - 09/02/2007 (Sunday)
Another relatively quiet family day. My mum and sister arrived this morning after we had been to church. This afternoon we took the kids to a friend’s house with a pool. Kate and I went for a short run and then we all had a swim and a couple of treats brought all the way from Glasgow!.

Several people have been asking about whether they should still be putting up posters of Madeleine since I have said the campaign will be having a lower media profile- especially of Kate and I. The advice of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children is that high visibility of the missing child through posters, car stickers etc increases the chances of finding that child. Kate and I therefore would encourage you to continue taking posters on holiday and ask permission to have them displayed in supermarkets, post offices and shops.


Day 123 - 09/03/2007
After dropping the twins off Kate and I popped into church for 10 minutes to pray for Madeleine. Spent most of the day going through mail, e-mails and I had a number of calls to make. It was good to spend some time with my family and Sean and Amelie certainly enjoyed their auntie’s dinner- sometimes it is hard to beat mince and ‘tatties’!


Day 124 - 09/04/2007
Kate and I did our first interview for a French Publication today. Any interviews we do now, of which we only accept a small percentage of bids, focus on the issues that we have faced since Madeleine’s abduction. The French have recently adopted a child alert system with some early success stories. With increasing travel and movement of workers in the European Union, it is also important we standardise the way serious crimes are tackled.

This evening we were invited to a friend’s house with the children for dinner. The twins had a good time with the other kids in the paddling pool and especially enjoyed the banana splits with extra child friendly toppings!


Day 125 - 09/05/2007
We were surprised to find increased media presence in Praia da Luz again today. We were followed down to church, then to the shops and back to our accommodation which is very unusual, apart from the build up to the 100 days. All the excitement seems to be over the results of the recent forensic tests that again have created a huge amount of speculation. There has been no official conformation that the report has been received, or what the tests suggest if anything!

Kate and I went for a run along the coast at lunchtime. It was pretty windy but still warm enough. Later in the afternoon we went to visit a friend of Kate’s who is on holiday in a nearby village with her family. They brought lots of cards from well-wishers at home and we talked a lot about the search for Madeleine. The twins had a great time splashing around in a little inflatable paddle pool, singing songs and being doted on by the older kids.


Day 126 - 09/06/2007
Everyone will know that Kate attended for interview as a witness with the Portuguese police today. This is only the second time Kate has been interviewed and although it was a long day, going on past midnight, this was shorter than my second interview which lasted 13 hours! The suggestion that Kate is involved in Madeleines disappearance is ludicrous. Anyone who knows anything about the 3rd May knows that Kate is completely innocent. We will fight this all the way and we will not stop looking for Madeleine.


Day 130 - 09/10/2007
The last few days have been incredibly busy and of course, unbelievably stressful and emotionally draining.

On Friday Kate and I were made ‘arguido’- official suspects in Madeleines disappearance. We cannot comment on any details of the investigation, interviews or any evidence that has been presented to us. We could never possibly have imagined being put in this unbearable situation. No specific charges have been presented at this point and there has been no restriction on our movements imposed.

Despite the anguish and extreme distress this has caused all of our family, long term no one will be able to doubt how intensely Kate and I have been scrutinised. We have absolute confidence that, when all of the facts are presented together, we will be able to demonstrate that we played absolutely no part in Madeleines abduction. Our primary concern has always been the search for Madeleine and this aspect, that our daughter is still missing, must remain a priority for the investigation.

On Saturday we asked the Portuguese police if they had any objection to us coming back to the UK. We had assured them that we will continue to cooperate fully with the investigation and of course will return as requested and for our own emotional reasons. We decided to fly back on Sunday as we had originally planned and all of our family spent the rest of the evening helping us to pack.

On Sunday we left for the airport at 7am with huge media attention. Camera crews followed us all the way to the airport, and the whole experience, like much of the last four months was incredibly surreal. The flight itself went quickly with Sean and Amelie constantly active and excited about returning to Leicestershire. We always hoped that we would not have to return without Madeleine and could never have imagined the possibility that we would do so as suspects in our own daughters disappearance. The pain and turmoil we have experienced in this last week is totally beyond description. Kate and I are totally 100% confident in each others innocence and our family and friends have rallied round unflinchingly to support us. We would like to thank everyone else for the support we have received since we came home.

We have had very mixed emotions since coming back to our own home. It is very comforting to have such familiar surroundings and our own belongings and the twins have settled straight back in as if they have never been away. We have had numerous visitors with friends and those in official capacities. We have appointed solicitors to advise us and assist our Portuguese lawyer in preparing our defence against any possible charges. The sooner this is done the sooner we can concentrate fully on trying to find Madeleine, which is the most important thing through this unending nightmare.


Day 131 – 09/11/2007
The advice of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children is that high visibility of a missing child through posters, car stickers etc increases the chances of finding that child. The friends and family of Kate and Gerry urge everyone to please keep looking for Madeleine. Our greatest fear has always been that Madeleine would somehow be forgotten about and that our efforts to bring her back safely would run out of support. We know in our hearts that Madeleine is still out there, alive, confused and aching to be returned to her family where she belongs. Whatever happens, please don't forget that. Don't forget about Madeleine. http://www.youtube.com/user/DontYouForgetAboutMe



Day 136 - 09/16/2007 (Sunday)
Sorry for not updating the blog for such a long time but obviously we have been incredibly busy during this last tumultuous week. The entries will probably be every few days or if there is a major development in the future.

Thank you for all the cards, letters, flowers, gifts and messages of support. It means so much to us to know that so many people have not been deceived by rumour, innuendo and wild speculation. Most importantly the search for Madeleine carries on and our family have not given up hope of finding her.

Live in Rothley is still a long way off normal with the large media presence but it is beginning to settle down somewhat. We all managed to go to mass today and it was comforting to pray for Madeleine with friends and family in our local church.
 
Thanks for posting that. Day 24 raises some questions:

The couple of Sunday articles we read did not cover much of what we talked about and seemed to get some of the other stuff wrong! We stated that Sean and Amelie are sleeping in our room (in separate cots) because of other family staying with us and that we were trying to treat them as normal and not be overprotective. This came out that we were so protective we have to have them sleeping in our bed! These inaccuracies are not important in our search for Madeleine and the next phase is being planned currently.

Was there any sort of police guard for them? If not, why are they so nonchalant about the twins' safety if they think Madeleine was kidnapped by pedophiles? What's to stop anyone from coming back for the twins?

And any time anyone raises either the leaving the kids alone issue or the mere possibility that the McCanns had anything to do with this, the writing turns extremely defensive such as Day 80 and various other entries.
 
Day 80

We were essentially performing our own baby listening service although we have talked of the guilt we felt at now being there at the moment Madeleine was taken.
 
Thanks Calikid for posting the journal entries. I am reading them with great interest.
 
You know what, bottom line is I would just not be blogging on the bloody internet if my daughter was missing! & I wouldn't have the energy to run up a steep hill either (day 119) especially on a day when I would be breaking my heart that my little girl was not setting off for her first day at school in her cute little uniform with her other friends!
 
what ever happened to "we miss our little angel and beg those who took her to please bring her home safely. We need her. Please just drop her off somewhere she can be found. Our hearts are breaking." etc etc etc. I certainly wouldn't be able to even THINK effectively enough to blog. It's as though life just went on, their hearts never broke, and this is nothing more than an inconvenience to them. I get more emotional than this when my kids are gone for the weekend with their grandparents!!!!
 
One big inconsistency I found between the blog and the cadaver dog is explanations about Kate being around dead patients. Gerry says that all Kate had with her was holiday clothes, so she had to go shopping for something to wear when meeting the Pope. How could holiday clothes get a cadaver smell since she took nothing else, had to buy something new for the meeting, surely didn't wear holiday clothes to work, and wouldn't have taken a labcoat or covering mixed in with her other things on a holiday.
 
One big inconsistency I found between the blog and the cadaver dog is explanations about Kate being around dead patients. Gerry says that all Kate had with her was holiday clothes, so she had to go shopping for something to wear when meeting the Pope. How could holiday clothes get a cadaver smell since she took nothing else, had to buy something new for the meeting, surely didn't wear holiday clothes to work, and wouldn't have taken a labcoat or covering mixed in with her other things on a holiday.

Exactly.

A significant point.
 
It's taken me several hours over the past 2 days to read Gerry's blog. I came away asking one question.....why was the blog actually set up?
It's one thing to have an internet site for a missing loved one set up like Laci Peterson's.
But this blog bothers me...... it isn't a missing persons blog per se....it's more Gerry's personal journal.
 
On Day 26 Gerry states:

"we were surprised to hear they were tucked up in bed by 7.30pm- they must like their new beds!"

Hmmm. It didn't seem like they had a problem getting the little ones off to sleep early during the nights before Maddie's disappearance.

It may be just that the twins were out of routine with visitors and family being around but found his comment interesting anyway.

Been reading these forums for some time and finally decided to join and post. Love the intelligent and insightful, super-sleuthing that goes on here. Well done. :D
 
The blog is just so very casual and matter of fact, like someone said - it's like life just went on....like "oh, well, no big deal". They've actually been blogging (probably unintentionally) about how they've been enjoying life as usual for the most part - Dinner with friends, kids splashing in the water, attending church, play time, happy exclamation pointed sentences, jogs while God knows what is happening to one of their babies by some "predatory abductor" - I'd be huddled in a corner rocking and screaming and crying uncontrollably and it would get worse as days went by not better as my imagination went wild wondering what kind of torture my child was suffering! There's no way I'd be up for "blogging" or dining and laughing with friends I'd be in a mental ward or on my hands and knees outside looking EVERYWHERE for my child until I dropped dead from exhaustion.
There's something not right about these people. Where's the grief? Where's the devastation?
 
The blog is just so very casual and matter of fact, like someone said - it's like life just went on....like "oh, well, no big deal". They've actually been blogging (probably unintentionally) about how they've been enjoying life as usual for the most part - Dinner with friends, kids splashing in the water, attending church, play time, happy exclamation pointed sentences, jogs while God knows what is happening to one of their babies by some "predatory abductor" - I'd be huddled in a corner rocking and screaming and crying uncontrollably and it would get worse as days went by not better as my imagination went wild wondering what kind of torture my child was suffering! There's no way I'd be up for "blogging" or dining and laughing with friends I'd be in a mental ward or on my hands and knees outside looking EVERYWHERE for my child until I dropped dead from exhaustion.
There's something not right about these people. Where's the grief? Where's the devastation?
Great post lovebites, I feel the McCanns know what happened to Madelaine, so therefore they can move on, the not knowing would kill me, like you I would be in a psych ward or spending every hour of every day and night searching and asking questions. When you know what has happened about anything you can move on, when you dont know something you cant move on till you know what has happened. Its hard to put into words, its the not knowing, your imagination and/or thoughts that would be going through your mind if you didnt truly know what had happened to your missing child would send you crazy.
 
I'm not sure anyone truly knows how they'd react unless they were in their situation. It is sooo easy to make judgments like that. But let's just say that some people would end up nothing but a pile of jello; unable to cope and go mad over their inability to cope. Doesn't mean that everyone would be like that, and, in fact, I think most wouldn't. (IMO)

People are resilient creatures. You would be amazed at what you can deal with if you have to. The McCann's have had professional counseling through all of this, and I'm not sure we want to bash them for coping.

Like the comments about their jogging. Is it health consciousness? Is it fun and games? Or is it healthy channeling? What I mean is, what do you do with all of those feelings of guilt, pain, fear, etc? In the past, I've turned to drugs and alcohol to help me deal with pain. Certainly not a healthy choice. No, positive channeling of those negative feelings would have been a much better choice.

As far as being upbeat, what else should they do? They've got to remain positive, IMO. How else are they going to deal with all of this? They have two children that need them, that need as normal a life as possible. Have none of you ever put on a brave face for your children?

If they behaved as some people expected, I'd be concerned with their mental health and that of their remaining children.
 
I'm not sure anyone truly knows how they'd react unless they were in their situation. It is sooo easy to make judgments like that. But let's just say that some people would end up nothing but a pile of jello; unable to cope and go mad over their inability to cope. Doesn't mean that everyone would be like that, and, in fact, I think most wouldn't. (IMO)

People are resilient creatures. You would be amazed at what you can deal with if you have to. The McCann's have had professional counseling through all of this, and I'm not sure we want to bash them for coping.

Like the comments about their jogging. Is it health consciousness? Is it fun and games? Or is it healthy channeling? What I mean is, what do you do with all of those feelings of guilt, pain, fear, etc? In the past, I've turned to drugs and alcohol to help me deal with pain. Certainly not a healthy choice. No, positive channeling of those negative feelings would have been a much better choice.

As far as being upbeat, what else should they do? They've got to remain positive, IMO. How else are they going to deal with all of this? They have two children that need them, that need as normal a life as possible. Have none of you ever put on a brave face for your children?

If they behaved as some people expected, I'd be concerned with their mental health and that of their remaining children.

Yes, everyone deals with stress differently. I think, from what I have been reading these past months, alot of posters are frustrated. With the seemingly NON EXISTENT remorse the McCann's are showing.

Life does go on, but does it go on so obviously, "In a happy kind of family way" for the McCann's. Even though quite obviously Maddy HAS NOT BEEN FOUND!

Counseling takes YEARS not months to show some effect. When you absolve youself with guilt to the Pope, then yeah, I guess they would feel alot better now!!!

IMO/Bumping for Maddy!!!
 
Txsvicki, good point on the clothes.

IrishMist, for me the jogging's not an issue, I think exercise can be a very healthy outlet for stress. And I can see why they'd try to keep things normal around the twins. As I've mentioned before, it's more the smiling for the photo ops (posing with a tshirt of Madeleine, meeting dignataries, before an interview) that seems be odd & inappropriate. And the blithe tone of the blog. And someone else here, forget who otherwise I'd give credit where credit is due, raised the point that if Madeleine has indeed been abducted the abductor could be using those smiling photos to reinforce a lie that her parents don't want her anymore, which is one way they are known to manipulate and brainwash children.

In contrast, whenever the issue of the children being left alone (Day 80 of the blog) is brought up, we do do see emotions such as anger, etc. And even earlier this summer before they were named suspects, when a German journalist speculated on their involvement (Day 34), we saw those emotions. And it's not just the blog, it's been that way in video & print interviews as well. Now, if the experts are advising them to stay calm for Madeleine's sake, why not stay calm then as well? Maybe there's another reason for it. As I said, I'd love nothing more to be wrong on this one as it would mean there's still a chance she's alive.
 
I think Gerry is just completely narcissistic and thinks that, since he and his family (his REMAINING family) are famous, they must be celebrities and their every move is fascinating to people.

Why can't he get it through his head that it's Madeleine who people are interested in and concerned about? The only reason anybody is interested in Gerry or Kate is to see what efforts they are making to find Madeleine and/or scrutinize them to see evidence of guilt.
 
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