Oh, I am appropriately embarrassed. I don't know how I missed that, I really did read the posts, but somehow missed the point :slap:. I am really sorry.
I think that EJ can sense desperation. She does seem a bit predatory herself, it's not just the other players. Maybe she contacted couples that she could tell were desperate, but weren't desperate enough yet. If they have since reached the point where they will cross the line to get a baby, and have started some kind of illegal or shady adoption, I can see why they wouldn't come forward.
I don't know, I somehow believe Tammi that they met when Gabe was about a month old. I think that from that point, EJ knew or thought that she had an escape route anytime. She doesn't seem to be real big on the backup plan, so she may have just not bothered to look after finding her out.