concernedperson said:
This kind of stuff makes me crazy. Someone always knows but does nothing. I can see when you are a kid and all you have known is abuse but not as an adult even if you know abuse. This case is one like Shasta that just gets to me. Ocean, if you have anything to redeem us I would appreciate it. I am failing as a human and I need support.I really need your intellect and your input.
Hi sweetie Happy New Year!
Yes, there are always those who are the keepers of the secrets, who turn away from what they know and pretend it isn't there.. they too are a part of why this little child died such a senseless cruel death. I hope they see his little face every night in their dreams.
Adults who were abused as a child have the unfortunate 6th sense to recognize when something is very wrong. Many of them DO report such crimes. Most adults who were severely abused in their childhood would slit their throats before they would harm any child. But what cannot be denied is there will always be the ones who repeat the pattern or the new type of abuser who sees the child as a burden only instead of a gift from God. We have so many grave issues in this country we love. If one dwells on it they walk with such a heavy heart.
Even in the darkest times we must not forget the good that is in so many hearts. Evil will always be near and it strikes like lightning and it rips our hearts out.
What we must do...what we HAVE to do is keeping marching toward the light. We cannot save them all. I so wish that we could but we can help many children, one child at a time.
Our world seems to be plummeting into some dark hole where little children are being swallowed up. IMO, we are seeing a moral breakdown in our country. It isn't getting any better as more and more of these poor babies wind up dead by the hands of their parent(s) or someone known to them. To go forward we have to face reality. Not how the politicians feed us by cracking down just on strangers (5% are stranger abusers) who harm our children
but the very ones that do more harm than anyone and that is the parents themselves. Until we are willing to face that reality the abuse will continue in great numbers imo. In so many homes there is no interaction with the child other than to chastise, demean them, or get them out of their hair and there are no hugs, kisses or "I love you". Nurturing seems to be dying. What has happened to a mother's instinct to protect her child?
As I go to "The Bridge" every week to work as an Advocate for abused/battered women and children, I say a prayer .. praying each woman or each child will learn how to have a new life. One filled with self-worth, happiness, security and where they dont have to fear the one that professes to love them. When I first began, I naively thought I could save them all but after many years I have come to the stark realization that I just couldn't save them all. It was such a hard adjustment for me, I just wanted at times to scoop them up and take them home with me, especially when we lost them back to their abuser who had made their lives hell.
So I say we open our hearts and arms like we have always done, there are so many good decent caring people in this country that really do care. No we cant save them all but we sure can give it everything we have got in us and it WILL make a difference. There is nothing more rewarding than to see the happy face of a child in their new place living a safe and healthy life.
Each child we save is one that will not wind up like this poor little baby boy. That is what each of us must strive for as we reach out to make a difference.
Sorry for the lengthy post but you know my heart is always with the children. I was once one of them.
Take care my friend.
IMO
Ocean