This is agonizing.
I have three grandchildren. One of them lived with me from infancy until 3 1/2. I've traveled with her and have done all the grandma things with all of them. I've been on numerous cruises, including on Royal Caribbean.
When this first happened, I told my sister I'd have to kill myself if I had accidentally caused the death of my grandchild. There would be no way to live with myself and the utter anguish I had caused.
When the parents showed up on TV, giving their spin, I thought they were wrong to blame the cruise ship, but I "knew" it was just transferred anger and grief. How could they blame the grandfather when he was so loving and close with Chloe, and it was such an unfortunate and dreadful accident? They'd be losing another loved one, in a way.
When I first heard that charges were filed against him, I thought that was brutal. He'd suffered enough.
Seeing this video has swept me away. He is clearly leaning as far out of the open window as he can, like at a 45° angle. Chloe is somewhere near him on the floor. I thought that even without what was about to follow, he leaned out for too long and wasn't watching Chloe. Everyone with children knows you can't take your eyes off a toddler for a second.
Then he withdraws from the CLEARLY OPEN window, bends down, hoists her up, and we see this little flash of pink and a hat and she is now OUTSIDE the window. And that's it.
What is the conduit between Chloe and the high, high above her, totally open window? Just her grandfather. Now I understand why charges were filed. She was in peril from the moment her little legs left the floor.
My father is also colorblind, but he knows what a window is, so he would not have even thought to insert his children, grandchildren, and eventually great-grandchildren OUT of a window 11 stories high. Or even on a ground floor.
I feel grief for the parents because they lost their child in such an avoidable way, but they should have stopped there. To twist this horror into the fault of anyone else has changed the story, along with the twisting of the truth.
Maybe the grandfather was in shock and truly couldn't recollect what he'd done. I know he can't process it, but with the video, it's time for the family to back down, help their son, and try to find a way to carry on.