My daughters father in WI was in county jail locked up for a year (multiple DUI) and his father died. He was allowed to attend the funeral unattended. I was living in South Carolina at the time but traveled up for the funeral. The X had like 8 hours free and I was allowed to pick up/return him.
RIP Mr. Caison, I hope that TM feels just an ounce of compassion. I hope the seed has been planted and TM will understand the pain associated with the loss of a beloved. The pain of the Elvis family is multiplied tremendously. The pure loss and not knowing where their sweet Heather is amounts to pure torture and every minute of every day must be beyond the deepest agony. WHERE IS HEATHER? Heather deserves to be laid to rest and given a proper burial.
My father died just over a year ago from the demon disease lung cancer. My heart ache is so deep and the loss hurts over and over, it is such an overwhelming adjustment. It has made me a more compassionate person and has given me a deeper understanding of love and life.
I HIGHLY DOUBT TM IS EVEN CAPABLE of normal human love and do not see her telling the Elvis family where Heather is. I think SM is equally guilty and HOPE that something will touch his heart if even for his own children and TELL where Heather is. FCS, someone needs to talk. JMO
I sure wish I felt they, T&SM, had the capacity to feel empathy but I'm not sure they do, even with the tables taking this karmic turn. They know where her father is, he is whole and being handled with dignity and humanity.
Heather is not.
I'm very sorry for your loss, Wide Open. I was thinking of things earlier today like this and the toll it takes on a family - individual members, those of us left to deal with the fallout, our role in the family dynamics changing in the blink of an eye. I too have had a rough year - after almost 5 years now, adjusting to the 'new normal' life without my mom, also lost to lung disease, I thought I'd finally found 'my place'. She was a family matriarch in a large family of boys/men, myself being the only girl. My how I didn't realize the burden she carried for all of them until the day she was gone, and all their attention turned to ME for strength and support. I wasn't expecting that. I could never fill her shoes.
Come to beginning last spring, Daddy was sick, diagnosed lung cancer; 3-6 mo prognosis. Two months later he was gone, but thankfully not until four days after Fathers Day, which I prayed hard for. Six weeks later, I was sitting on my back porch writing thank you notes (it took me a while!)...my son set up a cookie and lemonade stand in our yard....sun shining...things getting back to where they were supposed to be. I had been 'here' before, I knew the pain would pass. My husband left for the second time that day to go help my brother move; the first time he went he got no answer. This time with no answer, he knew something was wrong....all I want to say is that my brother lived a troubled life.....He is the one I spoke of earlier who could not come to our mothers funeral because he was incarcerated. He did not handle Daddy's death well either.
My husband kicked in his door to find him overdosed. He was gone.
I don't know when, if ever, things will ever be the same/normal again. I have one other wonderful brother, and a loving family of my own. But it's devastating to look around one day and suddenly 3/4 of the family you grew up with are gone.
I know how just the loss I have suffered has affected me, continues to affect me, and again, I had my family to bury.....I've also been pained by having family gone and not able to be there to look in the mothers face who loved him so, so much because of their bad decisions when we lost her. As angry as I was at my brother at the time for his choices, I wished so much he wouldve had that chance. Also he was estranged from his own children when he died, trying to make it up, but he never really could - again, devastated and heartbroken for his children, things left undone. But, he is gone now too, and luckier than I - He finally gets to see Mama.
I really hope this series of events will shine light on the frailty of life, how very brief it really, truly is, and these two, TM&SM, see the pain they have wrought on their family, the Elvis family, the community, their children; EXPERIENCE the pain all those mentioned have felt and confess their sins, allow forgiveness of Christ to wash over them despite what may become of their physical bodies and time left here and allow peaceful healing to begin for so, so many people who deserve it.
If TM and SM knew what I know about pain and forgiveness, their knees should have calluses worn on them starting tonight.
(so sorry to ramble....this entire case is heartbreaking; stirs great emotion)
