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it just says Los Angeles.

This is just more proof to me that he really does not care for Jaycee.

well back to work, hugs
 
Natal said:
It wouldn't hurt to meet them. If she didnt like them she could go on her way, exchange cards at christmas, whatever, and not have much more to do with them. No damage done. But it is going to be hard to do that once you have insulted them, rejected them and hurt their feelings. It is a stupid thing to do, its burning bridges with people you personally shouldn't have a gripe with for no real reason other than to hurt them. It isn't her sisters fault, they probably didnt even know she existed before she ended up in Garrido's back yard, so why hurt them?
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Jaycee, by involving Ken Slayton in her life, would also allow access by his wife. I am sorry, but take a look at her body language and facial expressions during the news conference. She is one scary "Mommy Dearest" in my eyes. She gave me the shivers!

As for "rejecting" them, don't you think that the appropriate place for blame for that action is on the ADULT Father who made financial and emotional decisions based on his welfare when Jaycee was born?
 
Natal said:
The quote was "does not wish to see Kenneth Slayton or his family, though she reserves the right to change her mind later". If a long lost sister told me that after I had reached out to her, I would tell her to stuff it if she "changed her mind later".
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I hope I did this quote thing correctly. Anyway, based on the sentiment in this sentence about telling someone to stuff it after they changed their mind later. . .
Doesn't Jaycee have the same right to tell someone to stuff it, aka her bio dad, who didn't want anything to do with her but has now "changed his mind"?

He didn't want anything to do with her and now she doesn't want anything to do with him right now. And it is him, apparently, and not his family who is seeking the paternity suit.

Also it has been two hours since when he was suppose to talk to the media. I guess and hope he read all the comments, only one of which was even vaguely on his side. The rest were real damning of him and his attorney.
 
jazerelle said:
I hope I did this quote thing correctly. Anyway, based on the sentiment in this sentence about telling someone to stuff it after they changed their mind later. . .
Doesn't Jaycee have the same right to tell someone to stuff it, aka her bio dad, who didn't want anything to do with her but has now "changed his mind"?

He didn't want anything to do with her and now she doesn't want anything to do with him right now. And it is him, apparently, and not his family who is seeking the paternity suit.

Also it has been two hours since when he was suppose to talk to the media. I guess and hope he read all the comments, only one of which was even vaguely on his side. The rest were real damning of him and his attorney.
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Slayton claimed he heard rumours she had a child, but didn't know more than that. Terry claimed he was aware. The truth is probably somewhere inbetween. In all likelyhood neither is telling the complete truth, rather they are saying what they percieved to be the truth 30 years later based on how they saw things from where they were sitting at the the time, so we will never know what really happened. But that is between Terry and him, the psychology is more a case of them rejecting each other. Jaycee herself never reached out because she was just a little girl and obviously would have known none of that, so it isn't a case of him changing his mind. As far as we know he only knew for sure that she was his daughter when she was kidnapped, and he could only reach out to her once she had been found again, which he did.

There is a link on CNN briefly discussing the interview, you can read it here.
 
SunnieRN said:
Jaycee, by involving Ken Slayton in her life, would also allow access by his wife. I am sorry, but take a look at her body language and facial expressions during the news conference. She is one scary "Mommy Dearest" in my eyes. She gave me the shivers!

As for "rejecting" them, don't you think that the appropriate place for blame for that action is on the ADULT Father who made financial and emotional decisions based on his welfare when Jaycee was born?
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As any adult would tell you, two wrongs don't make a right. Even if he did engage in irresponsible behaviour 30 years ago, it does not make irresponsible counter behaviour OK today. Are these people still in high school where they are getting revenge on their enemies? If he is making the effort today she should at least be prepared to listen to him. It doesn't mean that she has to incorporate him into her life, he has to fix that himself and prove himself worthy. The sisters on the other hand don't have to prove anything, they should be given the benefit of the doubt until such time as they dissappoint or betray that trust. Whatever happened between Ken and Terry 30 years ago is not their fault.

As for Slayton's wife, you know nothing about her. She looks pretty much like half of middle America. Demonizing her based simply on how she looks is, well....you know. In any case, meeting the other side of the family doesn't mean she is going to go and live with them. They would just be talking, getting to know each other and going from there. If Jaycee and the Slaytons really had nothing in common they wouldn't get too involved with each others lives. But if they refuse to even talk they will never know that and in the long term will be poorer for it.
 
It is Jaycee's choice, for whatever reasons, to let this man into her life. She is under no obligation to read his letters or meet him. Attempting to force her to do something she has said she does not want to do is thoughtless and selfish. When and if she is ready, she will get in touch with him. If he is sincere about wanting what is best for her, he will patiently wait and accept her choice.

"I am also a victim of Phillip Garrido because he kept me separated from my daughter and because he inflicted terrible pain on her," he said.
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Well, according to Slayton he only knew Jaycee was his child when the FBI notified him he was Jaycee's father, and, oddly, considering how devastated he is now, he did nothing to help join the effort to find her. So, if she was never kidnapped, he would have never known she was his child. Latterday victim.
 
Natal said:
Slayton claimed he heard rumours she had a child, but didn't know more than that.
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Actually when I saw that comment about Mommy Dearest I went looking for the interview and wow I found it. In that interview his attorney says that Slayton was told that she was preggies. He said "how do you know it is mine" basically calling her a *advertiser censored*. He then said he figured she aborted it. He then said that later from a friend that she had a child. He did not care to investigate further. So he did know about her prior to her birth and just didn't care. He was in that, how do you know its mine since you sleep around mode of denial. So yes he did know she was pregnant and I believe he knew she gave birth but he JUST DID NOT CARE.

So I don't need to read a recap of the interview since I viewed the interview. It is available for all to see. He just didn't want to be bothered. Actually he knew is present wife at the time and I am thinking that they were in fact involved at the time and his little fling with Jaycee's mom was something he wanted to forget.
 
Oh and another thought. Say they got the DNA and wow he is NOT the dad. What happens then to all of his professed love, would it go in the trash with the DNA notice.

And as Openmind pointed out Jaycee is no longer a child. She can make her own decision to see him or not. She doesn't even need to see him in that trial to proof he is the father because that would be between her mom and him. she could supply her hair and never set foot before him. The fool is a definite stalker and barely above the Garridos making unwanted DEMANDS and trying to FORCE himself and his family on Jaycee. Is that not what Phil and Nancy "allegedly" did?
 
Well, speaking as someone who had a "parent" pop into their life as an adult, I can tell you how I felt...

I had my biological mother pop up when I was 17. I knew I was adopted, so that was no big shock, what was shocking was the fact that she assumed, wrongly, that she had the right to force herself into my life.

DNA does not mean anything.

Now, I can't even imagine what poor Jaycee had to go through or what she will suffer through for the rest of her life...

But, try to imagine living for 18+ years of pure torture... Not being able to make your own choices and having NO say as to ANYTHING. Now she is being "told" that she has to allow a strange man into her life, kowtow to HIS needs and basically allow him access to HER daughters. She deserves more than that.

...and to whoever said that if they found a long-lost sister and she told them that she didn't want to involve you in her life, but she would like the option of thinking it over and maybe working on the relationship later... What do you think gives you the right to decide how someone ELSE should react to having some "mystery-relation" pop out of the woodwork?

The FACT is that Jaycee is a 30 year old woman, and as such she has the right to decide who she allow into her life.

On the more personal side; why on earth would theis "man" choose to put all this mess out in the public? Surely he sees that Jaycee has been staying out of the media and instead of honoring her choice, he runs out and finds the loudest most "out-there" attorney in the US, goes on every TV program that will have him and talks about how it's all about him, him, him & what HE wants.

Does anyone else get the feeling that his "sincere desire" to be in Jaycee's life is more about getting a foot in the door so he (or his wife) can sell photos, stories or God knows what else???
 
Everyone is assuming that Jaycee did not know who her real dad was prior to her being kidnapped. She may have known. She wasn't hatched. Anyway, on to what I was going to say.

Slayton has filed the paternity suit apparently last month. He said he wants nothing from Jaycee (yeah right) he wins the suit he gets a confirmed seat at the trial. (Reading comments in very informative). So he does want something from her.

In my opinion the guy is an insensitive slug. He is out for something is so obvious.
 
Oh and I left something out. Either the latest news are misquoting slayton or her is out right lying about not knowing about jaycee because he totally admitted knowing about her in that first interview. I bet now they are wishing they kept their mouths shut or hoping on the short memory of people who saw that interview.
 
Natal said:
As any adult would tell you, two wrongs don't make a right. Even if he did engage in irresponsible behaviour 30 years ago, it does not make irresponsible counter behaviour OK today. Are these people still in high school where they are getting revenge on their enemies? If he is making the effort today she should at least be prepared to listen to him. It doesn't mean that she has to incorporate him into her life, he has to fix that himself and prove himself worthy. The sisters on the other hand don't have to prove anything, they should be given the benefit of the doubt until such time as they disappoint or betray that trust. Whatever happened between Ken and Terry 30 years ago is not their fault.

As for Slayton's wife, you know nothing about her. She looks pretty much like half of middle America. Demonizing her based simply on how she looks is, well....you know. In any case, meeting the other side of the family doesn't mean she is going to go and live with them. They would just be talking, getting to know each other and going from there. If Jaycee and the Slaytons really had nothing in common they wouldn't get too involved with each others lives. But if they refuse to even talk they will never know that and in the long term will be poorer for it.
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While 2 rights dont make a wrong. The attempts to reach out to him in the past and him washing his hands when it really mattered, was basically the backdrop on what her decision was based on. To come out now with his daughters NOW that it is an international case is definitely not coming to her side but coming into the lime light to grab something that is not due him at all. He does not deserve any recognition, he does not deserve to write some book and sell some BS and his Daughters are not the official rain catchers to baste in the money that may fall their way as a result of knowing JC.

There is no family here. no interest on JCs part because she does not feel it.
He could have tried to do things under the radar, not with a GA for an attorney she is beyond barracuda, getting her on board spelled out what his mind was doing. And it had nothing to do with family.

ONE MORE TIME I WAS IMPRESSED WITH JC.
One more time I say you always love to play the devils advocate. Your replies just baffle me as always.
 
jazerelle said:
Everyone is assuming that Jaycee did not know who her real dad was prior to her being kidnapped. She may have known. She wasn't hatched. Anyway, on to what I was going to say.

Slayton has filed the paternity suit apparently last month. He said he wants nothing from Jaycee (yeah right) he wins the suit he gets a confirmed seat at the trial. (Reading comments in very informative). So he does want something from her.

In my opinion the guy is an insensitive slug. He is out for something is so obvious.
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out for some publicity.
there is a saying good PR or bad PR all PR is good.
Maybe he just wants to get paid to hear himself talk? who knows? maybe he plans to write a book? who knows.
but YES he wants something for sure and it has nothing to do with JC.

BUT cant JC request that he not be present at her trial? I wonder and I hope so :waitasec:
 
I would hope so too. Maybe if he gets to obnoxious she can have a restraining order filed against him.

I don't trust him one bit and he has earned that distrust. Anyone who says they are going to do something to someone no matter what they say is whacked in the brain and dangerous.
 
Jenni979 said:
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Does anyone else get the feeling that his "sincere desire" to be in Jaycee's life is more about getting a foot in the door so he (or his wife) can sell photos, stories or God knows what else???
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YES. YES. YES. YES

At that yesterday's press conference, Slayton said this:

I am also a victim of Phillip Garrido because he kept me separated from my daughter and because he inflicted terrible pain on her," he said.
He's also a victim? What do victims do? Perhaps sue?

Last Sept. when Allred was asked if any book or movie deals in the works, she replied no comment. I thought it odd at the time but now................

This just breaks my heart. I think he's only after any money and I believe Jaycee knows this. And damn, that must hurt.
 
nina1441 said:
YES. YES. YES. YES

At that yesterday's press conference, Slayton said this:

I am also a victim of Phillip Garrido because he kept me separated from my daughter and because he inflicted terrible pain on her," he said.
He's also a victim? What do victims do? Perhaps sue?

Last Sept. when Allred was asked if any book or movie deals in the works, she replied no comment. I thought it odd at the time but now................

This just breaks my heart. I think he's only after any money and I believe Jaycee knows this. And damn, that must hurt.
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Considering his methods to force himself into her life, I would agree this is about him and not about her. I don't doubt he will attempt to parlay this into some sort of book, magazine article -- whatever to let the world know how badly he has been abused. To the best of my knowledge, his actual life up until Jaycee was found, was exactly as he wanted it and only now is he suddenly grieving his lost child and the trauma she experienced. Spare me the sob story. He should be expressing his regret that he made no attempt to be a part of her life when it mattered and that he did nothing to help find her. This Johnny come lately act is just wrong.
 
Absolutely false.

Here's what he could have done, if there is anyone here reading that thinks this course of action would be inappropriate and would demonize him in your eyes, I'd love to hear your thoughts:

He sends a message through whatever channel along these lines:



Instead he hires an attorney and tells the world he WILL get to her and it WILL be on his terms. Not cool.



He's fighting for what he wants, period. Jaycee is an adult and gets to make her own decision - finally. Absent some evidence - not conjecture, not that it's a possibility, but evidence - that she is being "controlled" by anyone else I'll take the statements attributed to her to be her actual feelings.

There was some conjecture early on that her children were being "manipulated" in some way to say that they did not want contact with the Garridos when in fact they did. This was proved to be completely false. I look at this situation the same way.
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AMEN !

After all she has been through already, I can not imagine any parent (no matter what the reason) knowingly inflicting more pain on their child...and he KNOWS (imho) that he is doing just that and doesn't care..:furious:
 
A HOLE is grabbing a little more press time.:sick: :furious:
Ken Slayton Hopes To Speak To His Kidnap-Survivor Daughter Jaycee Dugard On Father's Day
http://www.radaronline.com/exclusiv...p-survivor-daughter-jaycee-dugard-fathers-day

Sorry but the moment this narcissistic pig came on the scene I was nauseated by him. :sick: :furious:
nothing about him spells nice man, good man, kind man or father.
On fathers day he wants credit for what????????
 
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