katydid23
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OK, sorry....maybe that is so.
I have been used before so I can relate in part...and I hated myself for allowing it and for participating in it. For that, I have compassion.
People here are mercilessly cruel. To say, "Die *****!" is horrible for anyone to say to another human being...especially here at Websleuths. It shouldn't be allowed and I'm horrified. That makes us, in some regard, as no better than those who do these heinous things we see here day in and day out.
I hurt for both families. Its terrible that Travis died as he did. No doubt he used Arias. She let it happen and didn't stop it. Did she kill him out of jealousy? Perhaps. It seems logical. But they had been broken up and she was moving away...so why would she be so jealous at this point? Its very sad all around.
No outcome will fix anything. Alexander cannot come back and Arias will pay with her life...whether alive or dead. I do not think Arias will receive the death penalty....but what do I know...
Its very discouraging to see humanity in this state. I'm more disappointed in the bashing I see here than anything else. After hundreds of posts and countless cases over several years, I have rarely seen such.
I don't think it is fair to say that HE USED HER. I think he really liked her a lot in the beginning. He even counseled her to become a Mormon. And helped her in her career. So it was not just about sex.
But I think as he got to know her better, her sociopathy leaked through. And as the relationship went on, he wanted out of the committed relationship. But they continued on as ' friends with benefits.' Is that the same thing as being 'used' ?
I am not sure it is the same thing. Friends with benefits is a two way street. Also, she gave him proof that she was also seeing other people. She sent him texts meant for other people to try and mask him jealous. But why is it considered 'using her' if she is also seeing other people?
I think they had consensual kinky sex in a 'friends with benefits' arrangement. I disagree that Travis used her. JMO