Every time I post about Crimes against Adopted Children I get railroaded.
Adopted Children of Abuse and Murder NEED A VOICE
In my opinion when you adopt a child you have MORE of a responsiblilty than even a biological mother to a child has . Why ? Why would I say that ? Because You are taking that child on the understanding that they can not be cared for by their biological parents but that You can do so. You can provide everything for that child to ensure that they grow up to be a wonderful member of society. YOU take on the responsiblity so therefore you have MORE of a responsiblity.
So when adopted children (or foster) are abused and or murdered it needs to be opened up and talked about
Trouble is for far too long its been swept under the carpet. Think of the outrage when a child that is a biological child dies at the hands of their parent/s (think right now of all the cases on this very site)
But where is the outrage for the adopted children abused / tortured and murdered ?
It's because its all hush hush and made to go away.
Because it hits a raw nerve with Adoptive Parents. They feel slighted when its discussed
BUT WHY ?
I know when biological children of abuse and murder are discussed and the parents attacked and shamed for what they did to their child I DO NOT feel slighted , nor guilty.
So Why do adoptive Parents feel the need to defend themmselves and or adoptive parents in general ?
This case of Adams is a tragic case of which abuse was rife towards the adopted children by all accounts from the other adopted boy.
I believe Adam is dead at the hand of his adopters.
I hope they throw the book at the adoptive parents.
http://blogs.discovery.com/criminal_report/2009/01/boy-missing-10.html
According to the sheriff's office, Adam and his siblings were taken away from their biological parents in 1989. Adam was roughly two years old at the time. Each of the siblings were placed into foster care and later adopted by different families.
I am unsure as to Adam's and his siblings circumstances but I do know that having read up on this case leading to other stories from Kansas that there is also a lot of children that have been removed wrongly.
Im still following that side of things up
http://www.kwch.com/Global/story.asp?S=9620231
It also talks about this family receiving medicaid for Adam (and other children)
With no follow up.. just the adoptive parents word that they require it.
Adoption IS Big Business. The trouble is its one of those *touchy* subjects that people want to have teflon coated.
Its one of the Taboo, not very nice subjects , Like incest, Pedophilia, STD's and any other *icky* subject - people know that it goes on but they don't really want to talk about ......
But it is big business and the foster and adoption systems need to be completely overhauled, because there are far to many corrupt things happening.
ETA
This is from Adams Full Blood Sister
http://www.kansascw.com/Global/story.asp?S=9615148&nav=menu676_1
snipped
Adam Herrman's mom and dad relinquished their rights as parents about 20 years ago, thinking the state could provide them a better home. So Adam and his brothers and sisters were all placed into foster care and then adopted by different families
Bit of a different story to the part where the mother is quoted as saying
I did a bit wrong
and more snipped
A situation that now eats away at Adam's biological father, now living in Indiana, who last saw him when he was only a year and a half old.
"I thought what I was doing for him was in the best interest of the children and evidently it wasn't. I feel that if he would have still been in my custody this would have never happened."
The part that's hardest for Adam's sister is the fact that she says she called his adopted mom several times after 1999 and was assured he was doing just fine.
"It makes me furious. How dare she lie to me? That's my brother, how dare she lie to me when you know he's not fine, or maybe he was fine wherever he was, but he wasn't fine in the home and I had every right to know that."
Both Tiffany and her father have been asked to give DNA samples to help with the case and both say all they can do now is hope.