Hi there. My little one died from a ruptured aortic aneurysm ( we didn't know he had one). AAs are common in VEDS and the biggest COD. For the first 7 after I used to get really angry and say that there is no "at least" when a child dies. I hated it when people would try to comfort me by saying, "Well at least he..." You don't get that in a child's death-there is no comfort to be found in the early years. Now, however, I can be somewhat thankful that he went in his sleep and didn't suffer, probably didn't feel a thing at all.
I wish I could say the same for Lucas. I wish the story about him dying in his sleep from "natural causes" was the real one. Someone said that he is too old for SIDS. That's true, but children can still die in their sleep from unexplained causes (SIDS is a COD by exclusion, meaning that every other COD has been ruled out and they just don't know). The coding is just different. In older children it's called SUDC (Sudden Unexplained Death of a Child) and it's a COD of exclusion, just like SIDS.
Man, how I WISH that were true of Lucas-that the little guy just went down for a nap and slipped peacefully away. We know it's not, though. It makes me angry. Such a pointless thing to do. There are plenty of people out there who love children and can't have them of their own; there were plenty of people out there who loved HIM and would've taken care of him. So many things about this crime are enraging.