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It's a beautiful summer day and Kyron should be at a beach or lake, or maybe off to a special trip to Disneyland. He should be outdoors catching bugs and on camping trips with the boy scouts. He should be picking berries, or maybe building a fort with his friends. He should be sitting around a camp fire eating smores. But Kyron is gone, and most likely forever....
And how are Claire, or Teri, or whatever she calls herself today and her earily lookalike buddy DDS spending their summer? Have they been helping with efforts to find Kyron? Have they been scouring their brains to think of even the smallest detail that could help find him? Do they talk endlessly about him hoping that maybe someone knows anything that might help?
No? No? Why not!? If your step-son, or your best friend's stepson was missing wouldn't you be doing *everything* within your human power to find him?!
What *are* these two doing this summer? Why isn't the media sticking a camera in their faces and asking them again and again and again - "WHERE'S KYRON???"
And most of all, this question should be asked repeatedly of DDS because she knows a lot more about what happened that day than she is telling the public.
One thing I don't understand is why she would ruin her life (she will NEVER lead anything like a normal life until she speaks) for TMH. The disappearance of an innocent little boy is not an occasion to lawyer up and play the silent game, unless you are a guilty party, or aiding and abetting them.
DDS can go from being the oddball sidekick to a woman who repents and accepts God's forgiveness by SPEAKING UP. Time to speak up DDS. Face the consequences, do the right thing, and start sleeping at night.
All speculation and opinion only.
Hi RosesFromAngels,
Your post made me focus on a couple of questions: Why would someone who maintained the appearance of being a concerned mother and step-mother do anything that would hurt a child that she had known from the time he was a baby? What do we know of TH's behaviour that could indicate someone who would serve her own interests without regard to the consequences to other people?
So, I did some digging. 1. In 2010, according to the sources I've found, TH sent James to his maternal grandparents to live, although he continued his relationship with his biological father and step-mother. 2. Kaine denies that he forced TH to send James away. The "proof" that he did, so far as I have found, seems to consist of TH telling her friends at the gym that he did. Why would she lie about this? When I looked into this more, I have found a possibility I hadn't considered before. I think this possibility suggests if TH was a party to disappearing Kyron, it was a premeditated action and part of a larger plan to leave Kaine and go on to another relationship.
First, for myself, I wanted to clarify the context. The relationships within this family are complicated. TH's first husband, Ron Tarver Jr., is the biological father of James. They parted in mutual accusations of infidelity In 1998, TH's second husband, Richard Ecker, adopted James (Tarver gave up his parental rights) and paid child support to TH following their divorce. So, at that time, James Tarver legally became James Ecker. In January of 2010, while married to her third husband--Kaine Horman, TH legally changed James' last name to Moulton. Thereafter, TH's son was known as James Moulton. An interesting choice by TH--she could have asked Kaine to adopt James, if Ecker would have given up his parental rights. Or, she could have arranged to change James's surname to Tarver, which would have made it easier for both Ron and James should he be living with his biological father. Nonetheless, she chose Moulton, a name which belonged to her own family.
Still, Kaine was James' de facto father for eight years, and James continued to like him. Due to the circumstances following Kyron's disappearance, James had not been able to see Kaine for some time when the interview was conducted.
James said he misses his little sister — and would like to see Kaine as well. "He was like a dad to me," James said. "I lived with him for eight years."
A little more context. TH held a B.Ed. and an M.Ed., but had never held a full time teaching position, and had last worked as a substitute teacher in 2006. She did not renew her license from early 2007 until February of 2010. Even so, according to colleagues and friends, TH did identify very strongly as being a teacher. According to DY, during the time just before Kyron disappeared, TH vented about how she should have the job that Kyron's teacher held. Being known as a teacher was very important to her. My speculation is that TH was feeling frustrated at not being able to have a job as a teacher. It's possible that this frustration about her professional life could affected the way TH began to look at her sons--that they were somehow stopping her from pursuing her dream of teaching.
IMO, TH might have become obsessed with her imagined role as a teacher and become overly focused on the way that the classroom behaviour of James and Kyron might reflect on her professional persona. Kaine says that TH went through postpartum depression following their daughter's birth.
. Perhaps it's possible that TH's patience was strained by fairly normal actions of children--inattention in class, poor exam resuls or skipping class--because of her PPD."She would lose her patience with both" James and Kyron.
Kyron's 2nd grade teacher used coloured cards to indicate each child's classroom decorum. TH demanded a daily accounting from the teacher (and THAT should be looked at, IMO) which was not the norm. Kaine says TH used less than stellar colours as an excuse to punish Kyron.
[Kaine] said when Kyron brought home anything but a green card she wanted Kaine to discipline him by grounding him to his room for the evening, eliminating play time or not letting him watch movies. "There was no room for error," Kaine said. The couple frequently argued about disciplining Kyron, he said.
It's my guess that the pressure TH put on Kyron to excel at school must have been very uncomfortable for a little boy. DY bears that out. She described how Kyron wanted to spend more time with her.
(http://www.examiner.com/article/kyr...ri-horman-planned-kyron-s-disappearance-video)“Kyron became increasingly unhappy about not spending time with me. He wanted to come and live with us. Several times he would just break down and just sob because he wanted to stay.”
It was not only Kyron who was not meeting TH's standards in regards to school. James admits that, although he read a great deal, he found school boring and frequently cut classes. I think this put more pressure on TH's image and her need to be seen as a good teacher. According to her former father-in-law, Chuck Ecker, image was important to TH.
Chuck Ecker said he never quite trusted Horman, suspecting she harbored ulterior motives. "She did things to impress people," he said.
To different people TH gave different reasons for sending James away. According to Ron Tarver,
(http://www.wweek.com/portland/article-12165-irreconcilable.html)...Terri Moulton Horman sent the boy to Roseburg in March this year because his grades were slipping and he was acting out at home. “He and Kaine on occasion butted heads, because James is hard-headed,” Tarver says.
JMO, but the head butting sounds like pretty normal teen boy/father relationship stuff. However, given her PPD, perhaps Terri was reading more into it than either James or Kaine did.
It was during this period, IIRC, that TH told her friends at the gym that Kaine was demanding that James leave their home. Kaine and James both deny this. Kaine says that, to the contrary, he did not want James to leave.
In February, Terri sent James to Roseburg to live with his maternal grandparents. "I was on a business trip when she made that decision," Kaine said. "She called me on my first day (in California) and said they had gotten into a fight. She couldn't handle it anymore. She was going to call his dad to talk about other options." Kaine said he didn't want James to move out, but it wasn't his decision.
Very different reasons: to her friends, Kaine is a villain who forces her to send away her son; to her first ex-husband, James was not doing well academically and had an antagonistic relationship with Kaine; to her then-husband, she could no longer maintain a positive relationship with her son.
As I thought about it, the fact that TH had completed all the requirements to change James last name to Moulton in January seemed odd. In the State of Oregon, changing the name of a minor is a complicated process. It involves appointing an adult as Guardian Ad Litem, posting a public notice of the name change for at least 30 days, personally serving the "other parent" (her mother or father?, appearances before a judge, and filling out several forms. (http://courts.oregon.gov/Multnomah/docs/FamilyCourt/NameChangePacket_ForMinorChildren.pdf) The length of the posting process alone indicates to me that TH had decided to move James from the house well before she created any of her cover stories. Perhaps the boys' report cards reinforced her opinion that their work would not reflect well on her as a teacher.
She was making it difficult for both boys to stay. She was creating stories to make people sympathetic to herself. She was upping the pressure on Kyron. IMO, for her own reasons, TH had a plan in place and was carrying it through, step by step.
In addition, TH seemed to be scapegoating Kyron. DY says that emails she received from TH before Kyron disappeared were disturbing.
(http://www.today.com/id/40192620/ns...nts-have-harsh-words-stepmother/#.U6JuOiiYntU)“She blamed a lot of the marital problems between Kaine and herself on Kyron; it was a huge point of contention in their marriage,” Young told Vieira. “She had expressed in great detail her hatred of Kyron.
TH was in direct conflict with Kaine over disciplining Kyron. She was in conflict with both James and Kaine over their behaviour in school. She was in internal conflict between her image of herself as a teacher and her reality as a stay-at-home mom. TH wanted to be seen as caring of her sons, and had the appearance of being a caring mother, so she had to shift the blame for sending away her James and Kyron to Kaine and DY.
I'm hoping that Sushan Sharma was right in saying "Time has it's own ways of revealing truth. Just be patient and live life, you will get answers of all questions sooner or later." For everyone involved in this case, I hope that in this case it will be much sooner rather than later.
Unless otherwise noted, quotes and references come from this source: http://www.oregonlive.com/portland/index.ssf/2010/08/terri_horman.html