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Gord, the title of this thread is "Madeleine's Favorites" and so that's what we are discussing here. If you'd like to discuss how to find Madeleine or her abductor(s), you might try visiting other threads. I started one very much on the topic of finding Madeleine. It's called "Could this be used to find Madeleine?" Have you visited that one and contributed any thoughts?
Kate said, "There is a good Madeleine and there is a naughty Madeleine."
That makes her sound like a schizophrenic!
Where did you get the idea that Kate stopped loving Madeleine? People show love in many different ways.
Kate said, "There is a good Madeleine and there is a naughty Madeleine."
That makes her sound like a schizophrenic!
If Madeleine was exceptionally naughty then I can see a clear reason why that would be, she was most probably craving attention from two callous parents that never loved her!
Kate said, "There is a good Madeleine and there is a naughty Madeleine."
That makes her sound like a schizophrenic!
Does she carry Cuddlecat in her coat pocket? Or clipped to her stethoscope, or what?
I think you can say that about all children, sometimes they are good and sometimes they are naughty.
schizophrenic? Oh brother!
You said it better than I ever could - such a great post, Texana! :clap:Texana said:I think that Kate very much wanted children, but the reality of three under five was much more than she ever imagined. And as older parents, they had had plenty of time to imagine how their children would be, and of course, form opinions about that as well. (The "if I had children they would never..." line of thinking.)
At the heart of all this is a kind of denial, I believe. A denial that they were not perfect parents (because they've both always been perfect at whatever they tried to do) and a denial that they might have either put her in danger ("a mistake, if you can call it that..." "Naive, at worst.")
So my question is at this point: How much are they denying? IIf they cannot admit or recognize even the slightest bit of responsibility for leaving Madeleine and her siblings alone that night, even to the point of saying "Definitely a mistake in hindsight" not "If you can call it that" then to where does that denial stop?
My kids were rowdy when they were little. My daughter was precocious and noisy, and liked to sing at the top of her lungs. She and her brother liked to do cartwheels across the living room before supper. All three of my kids liked to crawl under the table, and play hide and go seek all over the house. My older son cried every time he had to brush his teeth, and often would not stay in bed. My youngest was much more quiet, but he liked to bounce on the couch cushions and play sword fighting.teacherbees said:Superlatives such as you've never heard would be coming out of my mouth. Because, let's face it, every child can be "naughty" but mothers are the ones who are most likely to gloss over the bad side and call up a thousand details to support claims that their child is the most wonderful little person ever to grace the planet.
Or...she was a special needs child. I have a 7 years old son who has special needs, he was the only child for 6 years so he always got all the attention he could possible get and more...but because PART OF his special needs is constant attention, it continues up to this day and it's very draining. It really leaves you "drained" physically and mentally because no matter how much attention you give, in the end, it is never enough.
I wonder if Maddie had special needs, I had the feeling based on her mother's account that she did.
Having said that, I love him just the way he is, specially because I know his attention problem is NOT his fault and is UP TO ME, to deal with my frustrations and tiredness and be the best mother I could possible be. I see it as a blessing, despite the challenges.
Bless you Sleuth, I have no doubt that you are a wonderful mother. I was a teacher of children with special needs, I know the strain but you always try to do your best for them.
I have always wondered was Madeleine a child with special needs partly because the coloboma can be associated with other problems & she was definitely small for her age which I have said over & over again they should have been emphasising for the media campaign to find her!
You keep trying and NEVER give up on them. Every night before going to bed, I lay down on my son's bed and we talk, particularly about his behavior (VERY strong-willed as Maddie)...people may think I am mad because I keep repeating myself over and over every night but I KNOW somehow, someday that will enter into his mind and he will understand. You never give up on your kids.
Based on what I read, I really think she had special needs, a lot of parents are in total denial of this and they end up blaming the child when in fact is not their fault. Because I know how frustrating sometimes can be to deal with a child with special needs, I won't be surprised if someone gave a fatal blow to Madeleine and killed her. Specially if someone (Kate?) has been dealing with the kids by herself. I have a very supportive husband who takes my son out quite often for me to get breaks, otherwise I would go insane. If she got little or no help from Gerry, I won't be surprised in the least if she accidentally killed her.