cleo612
My reason for waking up each day!
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My granddaughter will sleep 12-13 hours straight and has been doing so since she was about 16 months old--she is now 3 1/2 years old. Before that she would awaken after about 7-8 hours for a diaper change and a bottle.
I kept her in a crib until 3 months ago as the mattress was low enough, and the sides high enough, that she was not able to get out of it on her own. She is now in a toddler bed. The only reason that I didn't keep her in the crib longer is because I moved in September and decided to go ahead and do the transition to the toddler bed--instead of putting the crib together and then having to take it all apart again in a few months to transition to the toddler bed.
When she wakes up in the mornings or after her 3-1/2 hr-4 1/2 hour daily nap, she stays in her bed until she asks me if she can get up. There have been times that I have gone in to check at the end of her usual nap times to find her quietly playing in her bed with one of her princess dolls and only when she sees me will she ask to get up.
I think that every child is different as far as their sleeping habits go. My son would sleep through diaper changes or being carried from the car to home, etc., while my granddaughter would awaken if she heard someone insert their key into the front door lock (seriously!), and if picked up while sleeping, she would then be awake for hours.
My son would sleep anywhere, at any time, while my granddaughter will only sleep in her bed (or occasionally in the carseat on long outings). My son could sleep with other bodies in the same bed, while my granddaughter will only sleep alone. On only a mere handful of occasions has she ever fallen asleep next to me on my bed, and that was only because she was sick with fever--but within a few minutes, she would awaken and want to be in her own bed.
Since I have severe chronic insomnia, I am often up VERY late into the night (or early in the morning, depending on how you look at things), and every time that I go to the kitchen for a drink, or to the bathroom, I check on her to make sure that she is covered up. My daughter-in-law has told me that once she puts my granddaughter down for the night at her house, she NEVER checks on her (a source of great consternation for me).
What might be normal behavior to some parents as far as a child's sleep habits, could/would seem strange/odd/suspicious to other parents. These bedtime or nighttime routines or idiosyncrasies, do not bother me as much as the other relevant information that we have heard thus far.
Reports of numerous injuries to Ayla, a newly filed motion to the court (which, by the way, did not appear to me to include anything about custody, but was about child support and a couple other issues), family members and a FRIEND visiting on the night in question, a loud noise and/or a vehicle arriving at the father's home around 3:30 in the morning that awoke the neighbor(s)--all of these things, to me, are more pertinent than how long this baby was sleeping through the night, or how often she was checked on (even though I would have probably checked on her several times).
That being said, we are only hearing from one parent in this situation--a parent who, by her own account, seems to have "a bone to pick" with the other parent. If this mother knew that there were bruises on Ayla, in addition to the other injuries (sprained leg, broken arm), then why did she not file a complaint with DFCS, or call the police for a welfare check?
I want to know who this "friend" was that was visiting that night, and if his/her whereabouts have been thoroughly vetted for the hours in question. For some reason, just as in Joshua Davis's case, I think those "friends" had a hand in these disappearances.
) she clearly states there was no court ordered custody order???? Says that it was an "arrangement" btwn her and JD.. And that if she "allowed" him to have het while she went to rehab he had to agree to go live with his mom for safety reasons.. I wasn't aware that his mom also lived in that home? I knew there was his sister and her child but didn't know his mom lived there as well??
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