AnnieOakley
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In earlier posts, the allegation of sex abuse was discussed. It has been said on here and in comments on the newspaper thread that if the husband had molested his daughter he would have been arrested.
As a child welfare worker, I can say that often times sex abuse cases are substantiated and unfortunately criminal charges are never brought on. This happens for a variety of reasons. For cases to be substantiated by CPS, you only need a preponderance of the evidence, as opposed to beyond a reasonable doubt in criminal proceedings. Often times, there is not enough physical evidence or the victims are too young to testify and it does not get brought to a criminal trial.
Of course, I am not saying this is what has happened in this case....just speaking from a general knowledge that these types of molestation allegations often do not get prosecuted. Both scary and sad, really.
Also, it is VERY common for abusers to accuse their victims of the very things they themselves have done to their victims and as another poster on here said....to claim their victim is mentally unstable, on medications, is a drug user, claim self defense, etc... Yes, men do get abused too, but abusers also use these tactics very frequently against their victims.
Thank you for this post... I have found all of these things to be true also in my work with kids... and divorce doesn't bring out the best in anyone, either. Any problems- real, imagined, lied about, etc- are just magnified, especially when kids are involved...IMO.
No matter what has happened here, I feel absolutely horrible for those two precious lives who are caught in the middle.
PS- Thank you's also to those who have posted in defense (no pun intended) of retaining an attorney. I've met some attorneys that I would rather feed to a pack of wolves than associate with, but I've also met plenty of the good guys... I encourage anyone who is completely innocent to still get advice from an attorney. You can still give LE what they need for their investigation making sure your rights are protected, sad but true, IMO.