Well, ninety-nine times out of a hundred - I agree with you, but I just can't on this one. I truly believe both Cindy and George loved Caylee very much and she was The important person in their lives, bringing light finally into their difficult existence. When Caylee was missing during that first month, we read on MySpace how worried she was, and how difficult the separation was.
And she simply could not accept that Caylee was gone forever.
The thing that surprises me is how what we found easy to accept - which was Caylee was dead and ICA murdered - is something we also expect CA to accept. It would never be my first thought - if my daughter told me my grandchild had been kidnapped - never would I immediately think - my daughter has killed her.
And when I faced the LE and the evidence and may possibly accept my grandchild was dead - I would think" there must be some other way this has happened" - I wouldn't immediately link the fact of Caylee's death with ICA. It would be amazingly difficult for me to accept. Despite the evidence, I would hope and pray it wasn't true, until I could no longer deny it.
Why do we insist on believing CA should have accepted this as soon as she smelled the trunk of the car? Why accept both facts - the death and the murder? ICA was telling all kinds of tall tales - if I wanted my grandchild alive like CA did - I'd try to believe her. With all my heart. Look at all the people who have been telling CA that ICA didn't do it. Her lawyers, and those closest to her. And look at the public's horrific outrage at the Anthony family going on at the same time. I would have been tempted to circle the wagons until I sorted things out.
I don't believe CA has been denying Caylee, but has been refusing to believe ICA is responsible. We don't know how she grieves in private. I can only Monday morning quarterback here, because it isn't my grandchild who is dead, and it isn't my daughter who killed her. So I don't believe I can know what it is in the mind and heart of another - so until I do I pray I can hate the sin and not the sinner. All IMO.
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I hear ya logicalgirl and would agree, given the magnitude of this tragedy, that Cindy initially would fight off the idea her Caylee could be dead and that her daughter could be responsible. The mind employs many self defense mechanisms when traumatic events occur, denial being just one of them. But, I don't see this denial lasting very long with Cindy, certainly not past the time Casey was free on bond.
That's because, I see a marked change in Cindy's priorities as early as July 30th. That FBI session was a huge eye opener for me. I didnt see a grandmother desperate to find her grandchild. Should be remembered Cindy set this session up. She inititated this meeting. And from what I saw she wasn't there to talk about her or LE's efforts to find Caylee. On one hand she claims she isnt bothered about where Casey's at, she's safe, yet the majority of that long session is about Cindy trying to deflect suspicion away from Casey and paint her in a totally false light.
If I believed Casey was safe and Caylee was my focus, I would have been asking these seasoned people finders what can
I do to help find my grandchild,
how can I get my daughter to cooperate with authorities. And I would NOT have waited till well into the interview to share the JBP story. My (with hindsight) take on that interveiw was a woman going into coverup mode, a woman who chose her words carefully....not a woman who was putting her grandchild first. There was a clear shift here from the genuinely distraught Cindy on the 911 calls who had no problem turning her daughter in for grand theft and stealing a car.
5 days earlier during a jail visitation, Casey throws her parents a bone. She tells them she would be happy to talk to Appie Wells or anyone they want to bring in. I have no doubt Cindy tried to make it happen. It didnt and Cindy never presses the subject in the subsequent jail visits. During the pm visit, of July 30th, Cindy is very much pushing the protecting the family bull*****.
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Protecting Caylee and the family was in no way condusive to Cindy's numerous tv appearances and press interviews. Neither was Casey creating a myspace page, sporting a missing Caylee t shirt and complaining that the cops wouldn't put out an amber alert.
I dont buy for a second that Cindy didn't grill Casey when she was out on bond for 50 days. Ofcourse I have no way of knowing what further bull*****/new lies, Casey spewed out, but by that point, the Anthonys surely could not ignore that nothing Casey was saying or doing made sense. She was giving them absolutely no help in finding her missing daughter. Not only had she lied to LE, she had lied to Lee. I could make a list of her lies to Lee from the jailhouse, but you get the picture.
Finding Caylee was relegated to meet and greets, fliers, donation jars and futile tv appearances, where Cindy defends her daughter unequivocally but never makes a plea to Caylee's abductor. By the time Casey got out of jail, dialog between the Anthonys and LE had completely broken down. Cindy is well aware at this point about cadaver dog hits on the car and the results of the air sample tests. And I defy anyone to tell me they were looking for Caylee at kidfinder fundraisers or River's gated community. :no:
Huston we have a problem.
