I am often on the same page as Chilly Willy especially on this topic.
Enabling children is very prevalent in the US. I know I personally see it in probably 1/2 of my friends. A few even to the extent of CA and Casey. I remember it in friends growing up. I see it in some of my relatives. What I have found that enabling encourages is lying. Lying lying and more lying.
Quite honestly, to get personal, if my husband were raising my girls alone...they would probably grow up to be liars 'cause he is a big enabler...the same as his parents enabled his sisters. His sisters are now 29 and 30 and still do not completely support themselves. They make up stories to how they got into car accidents (oh feel bad for me and buy me a new car, etc.) and why they need to find new jobs, etc. It is so infuriating.
My friends who enable their children have little kids that sneak behind your back to smack another kid and then innocently look at their parents like...I don't know what happened? They get in trouble in school and the parents are "helicopter parents" just like CA.
Sorry, I am rambling...the point is...these parents (and we all know them) are not being judged and trashed and blamed for their children's actions. No one is digging into the backgrounds of these children to figure out why they are as they are. Of course, I understand that they don't have a dead/missing grandchild on their record, but THAT IS MY POINT! Not all enabled children grow up to be killers!!! Not even the majority grow up to be killers!!! It isn't CA's enabling that made her a killer! It IS CA's enabling that made her a LIAR! The blood of Caylee is NOT on CA's hands.
Not all enabled people are murderers.
Not all murderers were enabled.
And sure, CA's media appearances, her own lying, etc. do not create a sympathetic character. I wouldn't be her friend my any means. But I also don't feel the need to judge because I can not possibly understand what she is going through. But, by constantly bashing CA and trying to find some way to place even partial blame on her for KC's actions, you are falling right into KC's trap. Couldn't you see her smug face in jail saying to her mother, "YOU made me kill her, mom. YOU made me kill her!"