april_showers
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Hi all. I followed this case religiously in the first few years of Maura’s disappearance (before I even knew about Websleuths!). It was just one of those “close to home” cases that struck a chord with me - Maura & I are similar ages, from similar areas etc etc. I just recently revisited things, and have been catching myself up on the discussion here.
I know a lot of this has already been hashed and re-hashed, but one thing that always struck me was the “Maura was fine”stance that her family has steadfastly maintained from the beginning: the continual “all American girl” references on the family website… Fred Murray’s position that nothing prior to the accident bears any significance… etc etc. I am not trying to undermine the family’s statements in any way, it just strikes me as a bit odd.
And, I want to counter that by saying that I completely understand why the family would place a ton of importance on depicting how “fine” Maura was. We all know what happens to interest/attention/resources in a case the second the subject is labeled as “troubled” or “lost” or “in a bad place” etc.
However, why go to such extents to make sure we, the public, are only shown this side of things? Because Maura’s mental state at the time is important -- and, I’d argue,possibly key to cracking the mystery. “Fine” is pretty subjective, but the clues don’t really point to someone in the best state of mind. The drinking (self-medicating?)… multiple car accidents… the breakdown at work… leaving town… And, even perhaps in the broader sense, leaving West Point?
No one close to Maura can point to anything in her life that they believe would have caused these mysterious actions. She didn’t appear to have any large-scale external issues. So what, then, if these issues were internal? She was right at the age where many serious mental illnesses tend to rear their ugly heads. Her uncharacteristic actions in those days leading up to her disappearance could easily be attributed to someone in the throes of a manic episode, or even perhaps someone grappling with the first signs of schizophrenia. I don’t want to play armchair psychologist, but I do think it is important to consider mental illness. If it were, say, a manic episode, it would also explain a lot about how she reacted (irrationally) after the crash on Rte 112. I’d be curious to know why the family circled the wagons so close around her well-being prior to her disappearance. What she really fine? I’d be curious to know if her family has a history of mental illness? Did she show other signs before that? I understand Fred Murray’s position in light of the tragedy, but is someone who drunkenly crashes their father’s car really fine? And, if it were just a “drunken college kid” type of accident, wouldn’t she have been punished? My dad would have killed me if I’d done something like that, not told me it was ok. I know every family is different, but that too seemed really odd to me. It seems to me like the family knew Maura was really fragile before that, and didn’t want to exacerbate that. Why?
Again, I mean no disrespect to Maura and her family, but just wanted to through that out there….
I know a lot of this has already been hashed and re-hashed, but one thing that always struck me was the “Maura was fine”stance that her family has steadfastly maintained from the beginning: the continual “all American girl” references on the family website… Fred Murray’s position that nothing prior to the accident bears any significance… etc etc. I am not trying to undermine the family’s statements in any way, it just strikes me as a bit odd.
And, I want to counter that by saying that I completely understand why the family would place a ton of importance on depicting how “fine” Maura was. We all know what happens to interest/attention/resources in a case the second the subject is labeled as “troubled” or “lost” or “in a bad place” etc.
However, why go to such extents to make sure we, the public, are only shown this side of things? Because Maura’s mental state at the time is important -- and, I’d argue,possibly key to cracking the mystery. “Fine” is pretty subjective, but the clues don’t really point to someone in the best state of mind. The drinking (self-medicating?)… multiple car accidents… the breakdown at work… leaving town… And, even perhaps in the broader sense, leaving West Point?
No one close to Maura can point to anything in her life that they believe would have caused these mysterious actions. She didn’t appear to have any large-scale external issues. So what, then, if these issues were internal? She was right at the age where many serious mental illnesses tend to rear their ugly heads. Her uncharacteristic actions in those days leading up to her disappearance could easily be attributed to someone in the throes of a manic episode, or even perhaps someone grappling with the first signs of schizophrenia. I don’t want to play armchair psychologist, but I do think it is important to consider mental illness. If it were, say, a manic episode, it would also explain a lot about how she reacted (irrationally) after the crash on Rte 112. I’d be curious to know why the family circled the wagons so close around her well-being prior to her disappearance. What she really fine? I’d be curious to know if her family has a history of mental illness? Did she show other signs before that? I understand Fred Murray’s position in light of the tragedy, but is someone who drunkenly crashes their father’s car really fine? And, if it were just a “drunken college kid” type of accident, wouldn’t she have been punished? My dad would have killed me if I’d done something like that, not told me it was ok. I know every family is different, but that too seemed really odd to me. It seems to me like the family knew Maura was really fragile before that, and didn’t want to exacerbate that. Why?
Again, I mean no disrespect to Maura and her family, but just wanted to through that out there….