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While the actions of the store owner are a bit overboard, she does have the right to refuse service. If she feels that strongly, then I have to support her willingness to stand behind her beliefs, even with the potential of causing herself some loss of business.
I don't see a fine line here. It's all the same to me. Sure she does not approve of gay marriage, and then she denied service because she found out her client was gay.
If this argument is acceptable we could just as well argue that the restaurants banning black people weren't denying service based on skin color, they were just not agreeing with black and white people dining together.
It doesn't fly with me.
We don't know if it did or if it didn't, IMO. Most people can cope with encountering hateful behavior once in a while and one encounter with it won't ruin the rest of their lives but people and situations are different. There are examples of people who have experienced discrimination as very distressing and traumatic, particularly if it's a repeating pattern and not just an isolated incident.
At the very least the joyful anticipation of a warm and affectionate event was somewhat spoiled.
It's not though - any more than not finding a particular size at a store. You go to the next one that meets your needs. There's no trauma, there's annoyance. So why would you want to purchase from someone you would find so hateful?
It's not though - any more than not finding a particular size at a store. You go to the next one that meets your needs. There's no trauma, there's annoyance. So why would you want to purchase from someone you would find so hateful?
I disagree it's similar to the race issue. No one has to be told someone is a different color. Do we even know how the topic came up? was she told before she found a dress no, or during purchase? We only know a little snippet of the story.I am quite certain I won't purchase anything from her if she insists on acting like that. But if a hateful person carried the dress of my dreams I might easily do business with them as long as they keep a civil face and leave their personal feelings out of it.
There doesn't have to be "trauma" in order for there to be injustice. Surely you wouldn't say that it is quite okay not to serve black customers at a restaurant because they have just met with an annoyance no worse than finding out that the restaurant is out of The Fish of the Day would be, and they can just go to the next restaurant, no harm done.
I'm not sure what "It's not" in your post refers to but if you're saying the mood wasn't spoiled I don't believe it. At least, I can only speak for myself, but when I was looking for a wedding dress I did find a lovely one they didn't have in my size and I wasn't distressed at all. But I can promise I would have been very upset if the store owner had been openly judgemental about whatever it was about me that she found she couldn't stand and threw me out of her shop. Most people are likely to be more upset about people and their behavior than dress sizes, I think.
Being denied service because of the business person's narrow mindedness is not the same as finding a store is out of something in your size. I don't think even you believe it is.
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I disagree it's similar to the race issue. No one has to be told someone is a different color. Do we even know how the topic came up? was she told before she found a dress no, or during purchase? We only know a little snippet of the story.
I don't think it's ok to not serve based on color - it's not the same thing - no matter how it's portrayed.
I think you're missing the point on the dress sizes, is it ok for stores to be rude to people who are outside of the size 0-10 range and don't want to serve them? Isn't that a type of discrimination?
Should everyone that doesn't get their way in a particular store be able to sue?
SO basically it's ok to discriminate on size or beauty because it's not illegal to discriminate, but it's not ok to refuse service if one is opposed to same sex marriage. What if a pastor didn't want to officiate based on opposition to same sex marriage, is that discrimination as well?I don't see the relevance of whether you have to be told someone is X to whether you can discriminate on the basis of that. You do sometimes have to be told to learn someone's color if you're not dealing with them face to face, doesn't make it OK to discriminate due to color.
We must agree to disagree, I don't see any significant difference.
No, it's never okay to be rude to customers if you're in customer service, IMO. If I was a bridal store owner and my salesperson was rude to my clients I would be wanting to fire that person. However, not having every dress in every size ready on the rack is not the same as being rude and not wanting to serve someone, IMO. The bridal shops I have gone to have access to catalogs of dresses available in large sizes and if that fails they can order something sewn to fit anyone. Probably most bridal shops keep their shelves mostly filled with items that have the biggest turnover and something in rare sizes has to be ordered. It's just business, not discrimination IMO. Bridal gowns are so expensive the shops can't afford to have everything on the shelves. I had to order the dress I wanted because they didn't have it in my size and it had to be altered to fit my measurements and I never thought there was any discrimination involved with that.
Turning large women away because "we just do business with pretty thin ladies" would be wrong IMO.
No, of course not. Only if their not getting their way is caused by something illegal that the store did.
SO basically it's ok to discriminate on size or beauty because it's not illegal to discriminate, but it's not ok to refuse service if one is opposed to same sex marriage. What if a pastor didn't want to officiate based on opposition to same sex marriage, is that discrimination as well?
How odd. I thought I wrote that it's not okay to discriminate on size and beauty. It was my personal opinion. I don't know what, if anything, the law says about it in various states.
I don't want to make any assertions about what the pastors in various religious affiliations I may or may not know well should do.
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I disagree it's similar to the race issue. No one has to be told someone is a different color. Do we even know how the topic came up? was she told before she found a dress no, or during purchase? We only know a little snippet of the story....