I'm not sure if it was planned (just jumping off pp I forgot to quote). I think all the changes the last couple of months are directly related to her knowing about the affair (IMO of course). Losing weight, spending more time online, not cooking as much, etc. I can see all of those things easily happening if she were to find out about the affair.
I think it's possible that she was going to stay until after the holiday for her children. Or maybe what GR said was true that *one* time...didn't he say "she begged me not to divorce her a few weeks ago". I'll have to look though my links and see if I can find it. It was in the beginning when he was maintaining she would never leave.
Also I had another thought last night when I was supposed to be sleeping. Maybe up until the day she died Jen didn't know about the affair. Maybe she found out that day. So her friends and crappy BFF can say with confidence that she had no idea. It's not likely GR would tell someone if she found out and then disappeared that very day. He probably wouldn't call up the girlfriend and tell her if he had done something to harm Jennifer. Not sure if any of that makes sense...it does in my head, but I'm typing on an iPad and I don't usually use as many words.
With regard to if and when she knew of the affair, I think she did NOT know about it in late August 2012 -- that's when that photo was taken of her with E, and you can tell Jenn is relaxed and looks happy in the photo -- not a forced smile or anything.
However, sometimes a person "knows" something without realizing it -- if you know what I mean?
We know that she ended her job in May (??) citing problems at home, and her employer has mentioned that she had problems at home, but doesn't say what they were. I do not believe she was aware of the affair at that time, but I think it had started by May or earlier, based on that website about running for epilepsy.
So...those problems may have been issues like GR not happy that she's outside the home doing her own thing...being over-controlling, perhaps over-critical. I remember when my sister's husband was cheating on her, he was super-critical of her during that time period -- he would be criticizing her housekeeping and such - probably trying to rationalize his bad behavior.
I find it interesting that GR portrayed her as being "depressed" but we also hear that she was losing weight, starting to dress up more when going out. That doesn't seem like the actions of a depressed person. Being forced to leave her job and stay at home all day with a husband who may have been overly-critical, demanding, and controlling may have made her depressed. But yet, she seemed to be coming into her own in some ways.
I sort of have the feeling that GR was the type of guy who wanted to have his cake and eat it too. He wanted Jenn at home -- a pleasant, accommodating type of lady who was a good cook and homemaker, and took good care of the kids, but he also wanted the excitement of an affair with a very thin, super athletic, perhaps more lively woman.
I tend to think that if anyone was wanting a divorce, it might have been Jenn rather than GR, but then I think about how devoted she was to the kids, and wouldn't have wanted to distress them, plus, she was an active Catholic.
At any rate, it seems that some sort of marital separation was imminent at the point that she was killed, regardless of who was initiating it, and how much she knew about the affair.
The question is...who killed her?
1) She probably did not kill herself or die accidently.
2) The theory of an unknown killer (perhaps met through gaming) is unlikely, since according to POB, she wasn't especially close to fellow gamers, and chatting was general in nature. The likelihood of her randomly encountering some killer between Sheff Road and Center Road is fairly ludicrous.
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