Your post is so spot on. It’s just heartbreaking how his parents do NOT want to believe he could have left and intentionally not contact them. I don’t blame them. As a parent, that would kill me.His poor parents. I'm a parent and this would destroy me.
But as a teen, I didn't take my parents' feelings or points of view into account very much. Not because I didn't love them - I think it's a brain maturation thing. An 18-year-old guy doesn't truly have the capacity to think ahead about consequences or realize what he's doing to his family. Especially if there's any depression involved; depression makes you think you're not important and no one will care if you disappear.
As for money - He did have other money in his room that was also gone, correct? So in total, he might have had several hundred dollars.
He's a middle child; the stereotype there is that he may have felt overlooked or that what he wanted wasn't as important as what other family members wanted. He went along to get along, maybe. And so it made sense for him to head out without telling anyone. He might be very good at hiding his feelings, wants or needs--because, right or not, he feels as if expressing them won't change anything--so it looks out of character for him to take off without telling anyone.
All speculation and MOO. I hope they find him soon.
The roommate became concerned so very quickly, something like 4 hours after seeing Owen last. This leads me to believe Owen had parents and friends really paying close attention to him, hovering, scrutinizing. If this was a long term pattern i think it could lead an 18 year old to explore a more secretive aspect of themselves (sexual, narcotics, hitch-hiking/trains). Pure speculation, but i never pursued living dorms because i knew they'd police my comings and goings, even kick you out for smelling a little pot smoke. If Owens expectations of respect and privacy were not met, maybe he was carrying some resentment thus no call or letter explaining movements.Your post is so spot on. It’s just heartbreaking how his parents do NOT want to believe he could have left and intentionally not contact them. I don’t blame them. As a parent, that would kill me.
The roommate became concerned so very quickly, something like 4 hours after seeing Owen last. This leads me to believe Owen had parents and friends really paying close attention to him, hovering, scrutinizing. If this was a long term pattern i think it could lead an 18 year old to explore a more secretive aspect of themselves (sexual, narcotics, hitch-hiking/trains). Pure speculation, but i never pursued living dorms because i knew they'd police my comings and goings, even kick you out for smelling a little pot smoke. If Owens expectations of respect and privacy were not met, maybe he was carrying some resentment thus no call or letter explaining movements.
Edit: no fun in this dorm environment, Owen couldn't even have a 1 night stand (normal for college) and show up the next morning
I was also wondering why we haven’t heard more from the Lacrosse Coach and team members? It seems very quiet for a team from a smaller private University? I would have expected to see something about the team searching or putting up flyers last weekend. Was he a team member at the time of his disappearance? Did they have tryouts and possibly he was cut from the team? I noticed the Coach did make a Facebook one time comment two days after Owen disappeared. This just seems odd to me?
Absolutely. I'm relieved. It also explains why Owen hasn't been seen or heard of - he is intentionally avoiding detection.
Yes. From all accounts this is extremely atypical behavior from Owen. While he is an adult with the right to lead the life he chooses, I think the circumstances surrounding his disappearance put into question his mental and physical well being. He still needs to be found. Everything we've seen from the family leads me to believe this could end well for Owen if he has managed to keep himself alive and well this long. I get the sense he well be welcomed back and supported through whatever crisis he is evidently experiencing.
Pure speculation, but i never pursued living dorms because i knew they'd police my comings and goings, even kick you out for smelling a little pot smoke. If Owens expectations of respect and privacy were not met, maybe he was carrying some resentment thus no call or letter explaining movements.
Edit: no fun in this dorm environment, Owen couldn't even have a 1 night stand (normal for college) and show up the next morning without family and police being notified. Just can't imagine him being pleased with this environment.
Yes to the bold.Although I agree that an internet search + watching Into the Wild should not automatically equal the conclusion that he voluntarily hopped the rails, there is a little more that leads police to believe that is a viable possibility. One - he lied to his roommate about where he was going. And mainly, two - he was ACTUALLY LAST SEEN in or very close to an area where freight trains are and depart from, no? While it should definitely not mean LE should shrug their shoulders and write him off, I think it can't be dismissed out of hand either just because it seems odd or our of character.
If there's one thing I learned following cases for a long time, it's never say never and that people don't know their loved ones as well as they think, sometimes to heartbreaking results.
I don't know if Owen's roommate was someone who knew him previously (has this ever been verified?). I imagine that several kids from his HS would've gone to UP (it's 20 minutes away from his neighborhood, taking city streets). I also know that he had friends at a few different high schools in town (through lacrosse, from growing up in same neighborhood, church etc) so any of them could've ended up at UP.
However, knowing some of his good friends at home, these kids care about each other a lot- this group has been friends for years and years. IF it was a friend he lived with, I am not surprised if this kid's radar was that Owen was acting off. I am also confident this crew wouldn't have been against a little pot smoking/drinking/etc- anything within the realm of "normal" for college would've applied here 100%. It would also explain calling his parents right away- these kids and their families know each other so well and would be comfortable talking to each other.
Again, all this only works if they knew each other previously. If not, then I could see where maybe there was pressure from a roommate etc. Does anyone know the dorm's policies? I know my school had substance-free dorms for kids who chose not to party, but again, knowing his friends I don't think he would've opted for that (but then again, I don't know him personally).