...also, openminded1, there's "dance" and there's "dance"...
The type of dance I think of for kids is either classical ballet or modern dance, or folk/ethnic dancing such as Irish or Polish dancing, for example...
None of the classical dance forms I have listed above involve young girls in in appropriate costumes shaking their "biscuits"...
Now the other type of "dance" that you were referring to, we have never been involved with; perhaps it goes along with homeschooling and brewing your own beer? I dunno...
(Parenthetically, as this is not the topic of this thread, the reason that homeschooling desparately needs to be regulated is that there are many, many unqualified parents homeschooling their kids....It gets especially problemmatic the older they get. For example, I can teach someone up through the first semester of calculus in mathematics. That means that I am now only qualified to teach a high school sophmore or junior on the AP track even though I have a graduate degree. Frankly, most of the homeschooling parents I know are far less educated than I am, and I do not feel qualified to homeschool...enough said about the obvious).
As far as kids' activities go: The notion is to have children involved in extracurricular activities that are child and age-appropriate, and are things the child likes and will make them a more well-rounded person. While agree that any activitiy can be pushed and taken too far, there are some activities in and of themselves, such as pageants that are not even child-appropriate in the first place. My kids both play stringed instruments because they want to, and do the sports they want to. However, we are not at all aggressive as sports parents, and our kids truly do it for fun. My husband and I do NOT tell our kids things like they'd better do better or else, or they need to work harder so they can get a scholarship or play for X team....We do NONE of that. Last year, my son's hockey team (he's been on the same team for three years now), voted us the most easy to deal with hockey parents precisely because of our quiet involvement, and the realistic expectations we have for our kids...