Your post triggered some other thoughts about JB's death and some considerations about PR, the cancer and PR's behavior within the childrens pageantry circuit.
A good friend who survived a brain aneurism in Africa, and a long recovery, commented in a blog how these encounters, which come to all of us eventually, bring fear, suffering, and sorrow. But they can also help us to focus on what matters most and nudge us towards seeing our lives from a bigger perspective than our day to day "to-do's" that so often dominate our attention. PRs life was also under a death sentence and her reactions were significant for other reasons.
PRs response to the recovery from cancer was to embrace her Christian faith thereafter. However, more ominously, there was a secondary response which was very prominent. As JR and some of PRs friends described, the cancer caused PR to virtually run at life. So much busyness that its evident even PRs folks observed that the kids were not receiving the structure they required and gave PR child rearing self-help books.
Further, the cancer seemed to enflame a competitive drive for success, especially in the pageant world through her daughter. Anyone here whove attended a competitive sport has viewed either tiger moms or overly vociferous sports dads. Some time back in 2013 Time printed an article about Stage Moms/Sports Dads. The article described a study of this phenomena and its effects on a mom or dad and child. (Ill use the mom analogy since this thread is in regard to PR.) Interestingly, the study showed that a mom could resolve her own issues by pushing a child to succeed where the moms life ambitions had not succeeded (Miss America, e.g.) Basking in childrens reflected glory, parents feelings of regret and disappointment may gradually resolve and make way for pride and fulfillment.
The effects of that resolution on a child (resolving a parent's need to succeed), however, may not be so positive. They may protest in conspicuous ways which disrupt the family dynamic. Unforgettable are JRs words on LKL when asked what JBR would have been like as a teenager. (BTW, BR was standing off stage during this conversation.) Instead of saying something like, JB would have been popular, succeeded in high school theater or succeeded in her academic studies, JR said, She would have been a handful.
Obviously, the family dynamic dam broke on Christmas 1996. Someone within the family dealt with that child in a violent way. All mho.