I don't agree on blaming the GP's it is not because of them that she won't speak Casey is Casey no one controls her
I agree with you. While much can be said about some of the kooky things CA and GA have said and done, I think that people are forgetting that KC is an adult and is responsible for her own actions. By this, I mean that I have heard people saying that CA and GA enabled her, did not check her behavior, or hold her accountable when she was growing up. We really don't know that for a fact. Regardless, she is an adult. They did the best job as parents that they could, but then it was time for KC to step up and make her own choices. I may be babbling here, but there comes a point in everyone's life that however they were raised, they have to make their own choices about what kind of people they are going to be.
My oldest dtr is 17, and I keep telling her that my window of opportunity is closing rapidly for having much more control of her. I have raised her and her sister in a loving, supportive, fun, Christian home. My husband and I made our family our biggest priority once they were born. They have never been hit, or verbally abused, and were hugged and kissed and told how wonderful they were on a daily basis. We also let them fail, and learn about consequences.
However, now she has to go out and make her way in the world. If she makes bad choices, or does things I do not approve of, I feel like I did my job as a parent, and she is now responsible for her life, not me.