I don't think he was really going to leave TM. That was just a lure. Remember, SM and TM were just out having sex all over town.
I think posters are being waaaay to easy on SM, almost making him look like a victim. I'm not buying it. Look, in January TM is self destructing and self medicating with booze. What's SM doing? Telling TM that he was a bad boy but he can fix it and they can have a great future together. This is not some abused spouse who is scared and running for his life. Nope.
I get why TM was angry, emotional and irrational. Not that I condone what they did, but I get it. SM not so much. His lack of emotions and any sense of responsibility scares me. He's playing a role and it looks likes he's gotten pretty dang good at it, because people are buying it. That's scary!
Get TM a fifth of Jim Beam? Maybe two. . .
With all due respect, either scenario could be true. sm could be the master manipulator, counting on everyone to believe he was being abused, and playing it to the hilt in the hopes it will translate into a get out of jail free card (or as close to it as his defense attorney can muster).
OR, as other WSers have alluded to, he could be one of the statistically fewer men who suffer from intimate partner violence. It is undeniable that it happens, and it is grossly underreported for the very reason that there are hardly any services for male victims, and even less for those with families. I speak from experience as I completed my externship hours in a DV shelter as an undergrad in Forensic Psychology. Men underreport for many reasons - and one of them is that the system (and society) often don't believe them. :moo:
Yes, I am speaking in generalizations, and the point is to extrapolate.
The tragedy of this case is that we have two defendants, and IMO, it's just a matter of time before they will turn on each other. The only
people who REALLY know what happened are the innocent parties. One has been missing since the middle of December, and has a family crying out for her return. They count the days she has been gone and hope and pray for news while silently hoping they don't hear the news every parent of a missing child desperately awaits.
I cringe at the thought that the others might be called as witnesses. It remains to be seen how far the manipulation will go, or if the absolute truth will prevail. More lies would be the ultimate exertion of power and control - and abuse. I pray to God it doesn't happen. There has been enough innocence lost in this case to last a lifetime.
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