The jury (even the ones who wanted to sentence her to death) conceded that some of what TA said was 'abusive.' I don't shock easily at all, and even I was aghast at some of his words. Those words were abusive, and no one I know would ever put up with being called the things he said. I knew the moment I heard those email exchanges/text exchanges that a line had been crossed, especially in someone with BPD, and that was the beginning of the final spiral.
I do believe JA would have had trouble ever walking away, but had those words never been spoken, TA might have gotten to live longer than he did; perhaps he would not have been murdered at all, or perhaps she would have killed him eventually but later on. To pretend nothing abusive or nasty ever came out of TA's mouth is to deny his human frailty, something Travis didn't deny in himself. He was imperfect, and he was not merely a spectator, but a participant in a semi-secretive, dysfunctional situation that spiraled way beyond anything he could imagine, with a lethally disordered narcissistic woman who unleashed her inner rage killer.
