I'm certain that most of the women in prison, the felons who give birth in prison, and those who have regular visits with their babies, toddlers, pre-post adolescent children would completely disagree with you. These are women charged, tried, convicted, and sentenced in a court of law. Terri has not been charged with a single thing by LE or convicted in a court of law. Her charges and convictions come from the people only. moo mho
I initially voted for "visitations if supervised," because I have always heard the maternal bond is so strong and important. Then, I read numerous queries that made sense and caused me to second guess my first reaction. I changed my vote to "undecided, need more information."
I have seen programs on television in which kids get to visit mothers in prison. Most of those individuals (at least the ones featured on the special I saw) were incarcerated for drugs, theft, and/or prostitution. These individuals had to meet certain criteria (counseling, child-rearing courses, etc.) to meet with their children.
TH is a unique situation IMO. I currently perceive her as manipulative based on her "fibs" about her "friendship with DY," her inflated resume, her sexting, and possible MFH. I am skeptical about her motives and want to know more about whether it is more damaging for a 21-month old to reunite with "Mom," then not see her for a while, etc. I would like to know what type of anxiety these could create. Would it make BabyK more anxious? Would it cause her to "backslide" emotionally?
We moved to Palo Alto, CA when our daughter was two. I was concerned because she would be leaving a play group/child-care program that she had attended since she was 1-year-old. (I worked 3.5 hrs./day and still feel guilty-LOL) I made a scrapbook filled with pictures of her friends, care givers, our old neighbors, etc. One day I found her on her rocking horse in the new family room, saying, "No more...(insert friend's name," No more...(another name). She would also look at the scrapbook for 30-40 minutes a day.
Soon, we became involved in a new playgroup; I wasn't working; and gradually, I realized, she hadn't looked at the scrapbook in several weeks, never mentioned the "old" friends again, and scampered on...I don't think she was scarred at all.
A friend who is a child psychologist always told me that "kids are much more resilient than adults can imagine." (I've tried to get ahold of her about Baby K, but she's out of the country for a few months.)
So, I do not think that Baby K will be damaged if the court takes its time and carefully evaluates the benefits and complications/negative aspects of TH visiting with Baby K. I would certainly not expect any decision until after the January hearing.