Marlap...thank you for sharing your story, I'm so sorry you had to go through that...I will post mine as well...
Right before I met my husband I ended an emotionally abusive relationship. My ex was not happy and wouldn't take no for an answer. He would show up at my work (i work for the state so thank god there was good security), called relentlessly until I blocked his number from calling me (verizon has this feature for anyone who may need it), drove by my house, and left me messages in writing basically blackmailing me with things that never even happened. It really traumatized me. My best friend is a DA in the SVU and encouraged me to call the cops and get a restraining order...I never did because I thought this would just make it worse...long story short, he ended up in jail. This idiot was hiding an opiate addiction and I had no clue. He also had emotional issues that he refused to address which was part of the reason our relationship fell apart. I felt like the biggest idiot because normally I can spot drug abuse in anyone (at least I like to think I can).
We never used to email, I totally forgot he had my email address, but one day about 2 years ago, I got an email from him saying he was sorry for everything and never meant to hurt me. I didn't respond, I changed my email address as GMAIL doesn't have a "block" feature. It was terrifying.
Two months ago I received a phone call from an unknown number. I didn't answer but when I googled the number it came back to a hotel in our area. I immediately thought of him. I looked him up on our database and saw he has a bench warrant out for his arrest. I called the hotel back and asked the front desk if I could speak to "insert his name here." they said they had no one there by that name. I'm still convinced it was him.
I think this experience is part of the reason I am so drawn to this case and seeing justice for travis. My ex put his hands on me once, but it wasn't really a hit or anything, he threw me against a bed and held me down. We were camping at a campground and he knew i was thinking of breaking up with him. I screamed for help thinking someone in one of the other cabins would hear and call 9-11 but no one ever came. It was absolutely terrifying. I cannot imagine the pain and anguish travis experienced. It truly hurts my heart