I have pondered on this particular text from Sm sent to TM- I am going to try and post a link to it, but if it doesn't work, it is the one where he references to TM- I admit I made a horrible choice in choosing someone that is F'd up(he used actual word, I wont) and can make life waay better, blah blah.. here is link(I think)
http://imgur.com/a/1lVsi#75
It had bothered me from seeing it, what did he mean choose someone? was this some sort of sick game planned out even more in advance in some nefarious twisted sick game? that seems totally odd in referring to having an affair- you don't "choose" someone,(as in set out to choose someone specifically for an affair) I would think they just happen) and say their choice in THAT person was F'd up like that.
To me, what sounds more normal would be- I am sorry, I F'd up and so on along the lines of taking accountability for having an affair. Like, I messed up, I am sorry, I shouldn't have jeopardized our marriage, etc etc.. make sense? That one text couples with Saundra Rhodes saying this is the worst thing she has seen in 30 years or something to that affect.
ALL...just MY opinion.