My father would spank me .....
This was back in the 70's when it was ok. He never abused me in what I think of as abuse.....
He would say "Amraan" (ok, it was my real name) "when we get home I am going to spank you....."
We would get home an he would sit in my room call me in and plant a firm one on my butt.
I never detected that he was angry.
MY father also instilled the notion in me that I was smart and could do anything growing up.
The Florida school system still makes it legal in their school rules to paddle a child(corpral punishment) although only one county still does. (BTW that county has less issues within their school then any other)
DO you know that in the wild ... animals hit or bite their young (ok not advocating biting for humans) but I will say I once had the pleasure of having a neighbor who had a male and female monkey and they had a baby...... If the baby would get out of line the mommy monkey would spank it.
I have spanked my children .... rarely but still have none-the-less. I have found that they have favorite toys that can be taken away and that impacts their behavoir more then any well placed spanking...
I think there is a huge difference between abusing your child and a spanking.
THe problem is its a thin gray line... In my mind being angry and hitting your child is abuse... How do you prove legally someone was angry as opposed to just swatting a butt??
IN Florida I think its still legal to spank a child however it must be on the hiney with your hand (even though) the schools can with a very large wooden paddle.
I just want to say that even in the justice system punishment is meant to be fearful. Prison is a deterant because it instills fear. The death penalty is fearful, A spanking is fearful.
This was back in the 70's when it was ok. He never abused me in what I think of as abuse.....
He would say "Amraan" (ok, it was my real name) "when we get home I am going to spank you....."
We would get home an he would sit in my room call me in and plant a firm one on my butt.
I never detected that he was angry.
MY father also instilled the notion in me that I was smart and could do anything growing up.
The Florida school system still makes it legal in their school rules to paddle a child(corpral punishment) although only one county still does. (BTW that county has less issues within their school then any other)
DO you know that in the wild ... animals hit or bite their young (ok not advocating biting for humans) but I will say I once had the pleasure of having a neighbor who had a male and female monkey and they had a baby...... If the baby would get out of line the mommy monkey would spank it.
I have spanked my children .... rarely but still have none-the-less. I have found that they have favorite toys that can be taken away and that impacts their behavoir more then any well placed spanking...
I think there is a huge difference between abusing your child and a spanking.
THe problem is its a thin gray line... In my mind being angry and hitting your child is abuse... How do you prove legally someone was angry as opposed to just swatting a butt??
IN Florida I think its still legal to spank a child however it must be on the hiney with your hand (even though) the schools can with a very large wooden paddle.
I just want to say that even in the justice system punishment is meant to be fearful. Prison is a deterant because it instills fear. The death penalty is fearful, A spanking is fearful.