I agree, but I have a feeling this isn't the last witness to present a different take on the relationship as well as BC himself. At that point for the jury it comes down to who do you believe more.
I'm struck by the fact that since 2001 Nancy has wanted her green card so she could work. She told her family back in 2001 'she wasn't happy in N.C. because she didn't have a car, didn't have any transportation, brad was gone excessively, work, school, training for his ironman's, and she was and felt ALONE most of the time. I don't think brad ever wanted her to get that green card, hence his lack of helping through the cisco lawyers, I can't recall the type of attorney necessary for international matters of citizenship right now. Just taking a rain break from trying to get some gardening in today. Anyway, Brad admitted during his depostions that the ball was in 'his court' to get that paperwork in to the cisco attorney's, still, in 2008. Yes, nancy had an affair in 2001, too bad she didn't leave brad then IMO. He wasn't there for her, wasn't helping her to feel wanted, loved and cared for in a foreign country. Totally not the same thing, but when we moved down here when my first two children were toddlers, I felt that same loneliness for my life long friends, people to support me when hubby was gone out of town, etc. Anway, long story short, hubby and I had this 'go 'round'. He said "well I moved away from everyone too" to which I replied, 'in the first place, this was a large company move, we were one of about 125 families. I said 'most of *your* friends moved 'with you!' 'you still play cards with the same group of guys' 'you didn't have to make a whole new group of friends like me'. Plus you go to work all day, you go to school a couple nights a week, me, I take care of the house and kids, 24/7. I need more in my life then just that. yadda yadda yadda, so I can relate to nancy. In fact, I had a very dear friend I made down here, her husband worked for Dunn & Bradstreet IIRC. We became like sisters, until her husband got yet another job transfer. She cried & cried. Like nancy, she was one of my 'night time' friends. LOL, because after my kiids were in bed, when her husband was out of town, I spent a lot of time with her, expecilly in prep for the upcoming move. And I remember her saying to me 'I feel like part of the household, pack the furniture, pack the kitchen stuff, pack the clothes, pack the wife, and off we go to Louisianna, and *I* (her) don't get any say in the matter. "I'm just one more of the many things to move." Broke my heart to listen to her, as it waS also breaking my own heart to lose my 'sister' down here.
I simply have an ability to relate to all the tumultuous feelings I think nancy had going on deep inside her. Thankfully, my husband learned to step up to the plate and fill in the emotional gaps in me to make it possible for me too to grow and fluorish away from my life long friens and support system. JMO