fran
Former Member
Remember, JY himself said (half jokingly) that he "married up". I think PY resents that sentiment. MY is definitely not the daughter-in-law PY would have wanted for her son, that much is clear. On the other hand, its usually the mother's mother who is closer to and more involved with the grandchildren. Agree on CA btw.
There's that saying that when your daughter gets married, you gain a son. When your son gets married, you lose a son. Or something like that.
OTOH, I loved my MIL and she felt the same about me. She never would have gotten upset if we spent the Holidays with my family. She also would have invited my family to her home for the Holidays if she knew there was a problem about which family to spend it with. As a matter of fact, she did have my family over and liked my mother and dad.
As a MIL, for both a DIL and SIL, I was always cordial with their parents and did get along and visited with them.
JMHO
fran