Thanks for posting!
I'll say this. I've followed this closer than any other crime in my lifetime. There are lots of reasons it's resonated with me: I am LDS; I live in Utah (other side of SLC from where Susan lived, but close enough); I am a little older, but close to the same age as Josh and Susan; I have two young children; I've gotten to know some of the related parties a little; and other stuff.
To make a long story short, I feel emotionally invested in this.
In addition, I've never seen a situation where someone has been treated worse than has Susan. I won't go through every level of it, because many here have followed it as closely as I - they know the score. But this poor woman can't defend herself. She can't protect what I have no doubt was her greatest asset, her boys. She can't defend her honor and reputation. She has been victimized over and over and over.
I'm also in SLC, albeit not WVC. I have lived in that area, before, though, when I first moved to the valley. Although I am not LDS, half of my family is, and so I understand the dynamics at work.
I knew Susan personally, and it makes it hard to see all this in the news, and know what could have possibly happen to her. It makes me positively ill to hear SP's mouth run about their "sexual" relationship.
I'll admit. All of that has made me think really negatively of all things Powell. I am human, and I desire to see injustices made just. In a post the other day, I referred to Josh as a "dirtbag." It's against the sites TOS, and it was redacted by a moderator. It was my mistake. That said, I thought the person who proclaimed, basically, OMG! OMG! YOU CALLED SOMEONE A NAME! IM TELLING! IM TELLING! was overreacting a little, too. I mean, we are all adults here, right? The same person repeatedly uses terminology that I find slightly offensive from a religious perspective; but Im a big boy.
I agree. Those posts are seriously unnecessary...there's a way to contact mods without broadcasting it. I just let it slip off like water off a duck.
I dont think you really believe that criticizing Josh reflects negatively on Susan, do you? If that was the case, every person who had ever been abused or murdered by a spouse must have somehow deserved it, right? I mean, they did marry someone who turned out to be a bad person, right? Surely, their spouses evil must have been lurking deep down inside when they were married. So, logically, they sort of got what they asked for?
THANK YOU!
I am a divorcee....not ashamed at all. I was very young when I divorced...22. Many people may not understand the dynamic at work in Utah and in LDS culture - getting married young is very, very normal. And, after having experienced this myself, I can say that you just don't know yourself at these ages and it's easy to get caught up in a marriage that you weren't emotionally ready for.
It seems easy to make a snap judgement about Susan's male of choice, but understand that she was 20 when she married him. At 20, do you really think she had the experience to know he was going to be this way? I was the same age when I married, and I can tell you, never in the world did I think he would cheat on me and turn into the horrible human being he did during our divorce.
The bottom line is that people change. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse. And sometimes, you wake up one day and wonder who the monster is lying next to you.
In closing, let me remind everybody that when Susan married him, she was 20. At her disappearance, she was 28. The maturity she attained between those years was vast. She earned her stockbroker's license, and had two children. She really grew up. That maturity led her to realize that Josh was never going to be the man she thought he would be, and that she wanted more.