mysteriew
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I'm as delighted as anyone here to see SP wearing orange, but I feel awful for these two boys. First they lose their mother, then they're moved to a new state and a new house and the lethal psychodynamics of BizarroPowellWorld, where they witness police raids and the arrest of their paternal grandfather, and finally are removed from the home and their father -- who they must view very differently than we do, and undoubtedly love -- by CPS.
I cannot imagine how frightening, disorienting and despair-making this must all be. Who could forget it?
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I worry less what the boys have been told about their mother and more about what they may have seen. But whatever they have seen or heard they have had time to begin coping with it in their own ways.
But when I think of them in foster care I can only compare that to where they have been living in the past two years. With a father worried about legal issues, a grandfather who was into peeking and according to reports was anti-govenment, outspoken and maybe imprudent about what he said and who was present when he said it. Foster care comes out on top.
Yes best case would be for them to be with their grandparents, but at the same time I don't want to see them in the middle of a custody battle between father and other grandfather right now. Being in foster care means they are kept out of completely unless they are seeing a guardian ad litum or called to go to court. And foster parents are trained to handle kids who come from even more stressful situations than these boys came from. So I have to trust that the boys are better off right now than they were last week. And that perhaps in the next hearings they may get visitation or even temp custody assigned to the grandparents.