Yeah, the poor woman had to make due with only $300 per week, which didn't have to go to paying bills. Oh the horror.
ETA: My post has nothing to do with the murder. It has to do only with someone having to live off of $300/week where it doesn't have to go to rent, utilities, car payments, etc.
I haven't posted much but I've followed this case since the beginning. I walked away right after the verdict was read but it is heavy on my mind so I came back to take a quick peak. (I don't post usually because I find it hard to juggle homeschooling, motherhood, taking care of my house wife duties, spending time with my husband, etc... so while I read, I avoid commenting.
Anyway, I don't know how to quote more than one post so just to add to whomever commented above about victims of domestic violence and whether or not NC was abused...
I'm a survivor of domestic violence but not in the sense of a husband/wife relationship. My dad was abusive, manipulative, controlling, angry, and violent. I lived in that house with him for 21 years and have now been out of it and married for 10 years. He died suddenly 8 years ago and I still carry the burdens of all of his abuse. By God's grace I have forgiven him and have grown to love and miss him. (He became a born again believer just weeks before he died.) But my husband can attest to the fact that as far as I have come, I still look in the mirror and 10 years later I sometimes see the worthless, ugly, stupid, unlovable, piece of crap that he spent my entire life convincing me that I was. I don't carry it on my shoulders like I used to but sometimes it sneaks up on me. I have learned how to put it down and go on with my life.
I simply don't see an abused victim in NC. I see a lost, confused, and unhappy woman in NC that hadn't found her way in life but not an abused woman. I look at my mom whom defended us no matter the consequences, whom I watched my dad literally try to choke to death, and I see an abused, controlled, manipulated woman but I just don't see it in NC.
I'm conflicted b/c I don't know if BC killed her or not. I think her story is so incredibly tragic and it breaks my heart. I cried like a baby when her sister was on the stand. I'm so sad for her family and those babies of hers. I know statistically speaking, BC likely killed her but I also know that something doesn't fit here and I can't place it.
As far as the $300 a week and the reason I quoted you ncsu95....I think everyone needs to stop trying to use that as an example of controlling. I think it's absurd and it doesn't help the BDI side at all. Sheesh!
I know some people live in a world where that is not enough but I'm here to tell you, $300 a week for groceries and whatever else you want to spend it on is a lot of money. My husband is a foreman in a construction type of field and he does not work during the winter due to the materials he works with not setting up properly when it's under 40 degrees. He used to make a salary year round and he used to work 70-80 hours a week in the summer but have 2-3 months off in the winter.
Well, his company has been struggling and 2 winters ago they took him off of salary and he has not had any overtime in the summer to compensate. Well, the first winter was rough because he was put on a seasonal/temporary type of unemployment and it was a significant loss of income but we managed. But the second winter, because of the way they figure the unemployment and because there were 3 months with 0 income figured into that, his check was cut all the way down to $354 a week.
We are a family of four that survived for 3 months on $354 a week and we paid our mortgage, electric, propane, water, car insurance, internet, and groceries with $354 a week! It was tough and it sucked but we did it and we made it and I can honestly say that I just do not see complaining about having $300 a week for groceries and whatever else. It baffles me and confuses me and I simply don't see what there is that everyone is trying to make this into such a shocking thing of abuse and control. I just don't get it.
Ok, I have peaked in and now I'm stepping back out because I have a dear hubby that wants to spend some time with me! Later y'all!