logicalgirl
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That's a great question ! I certainly hope so.
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I find myself in the horrendous position of defending Cindy.
What she said basically,was that after a person dies they believe the spirit goes to Heaven and what is left is a shell. The context in which she used it (explaining Casey's reasoning for throwing Caylee in the woods) was beyond the pale ,but that is a valid belief at it's core ,IMO.
It's how we cope with leaving the body at the funeral home or in a grave or urn ,etc.....We have no choice but to separate the person from the body that no longer has life if we want to believe they continue on somewhere.
That said, as a mother, it was almost impossible to leave my son's body behind. I've told y'all stories about leaving the hospital and watching the casket closed ,so I won't repeat,but I can't fathom the concept that a mother would choose to leave their child's body in the woods to rot and be damaged by animals.
It takes time to mesh your beliefs about death and the afterlife, with how you actually feel in the days ,weeks and months after the death of your child.
It's not something your brain just automatically accepts across the board.You know the reality,but a part of you continues to want to "mother" or refuse to face reality.
Keep in mind ,I'm referring to typical loving parents,not a mother who murders her child after covering her face with duct tape,then throwing the child in the woods. I don't believe Casey ever loved Caylee with a mother's love.
And I have necklace with my son's ashes. My 3 daughters also have one and we wear them to special events. The decision to get a locket with ashes is obviously made at the funeral home ,a day or 2 after the death. I was in a highly emotional state,having a hard time letting my son (and his body) go. It seemed so special at the time and made sense,but I find it doesn't really bring me any comfort or acceptance. It's more of a symbol that we are always together in some way.
As I've said before,it may sound morbid to some,but nothing about my son is morbid or gross or weird to me, not even his ashes.
Tim Miller had the misfortune to be called by Cindy Anthony and dragged into this nightmare. The way they treated Tim Miller is one of the reasons this case became "must see TV" . They behaved badly ,not like any other family with a missing child.
I have a new perspective about the lawsuits. Maybe it's time to move on and make sure the Anthonys don't have another chance at a media run.
Let this end with the focus on Caylee ,not Casey and not her parents or any of the characters who made a career orbiting around this family.No more black cowboy hats or big white sunglasses.
"You are my Sunshine,my only Sunshine.You make me happy when skies are gray.You'll never know dear how much I love you.Please don't take my Sunshine away" :sunshine: One little girl who rocked our world :grouphug:
I cry every time I hear you speak about this - there are no words....:heartbeat: