I think Cooper was asleep at the time?
I don't know about the rest, Katy. I really am thinking it through, but entirely in the context of how it does or doesn't connect to the specific charges against RH.
More generally, about parenting and parental styles and choices, and being judged for them. When I was (very) pregnant with my son, I returned from lunch to find an article on my chair a concerned colleague had left for me. The article was about the "dangers" of co-sleeping, a term I hadn't even heard of before, much less thought about one way or the other. The article concluded-don't do it! Your baby could die!
Well, I gave birth to my son, and breast fed (for a very long time-- oh my! the grief I got for that choice, including my doctor -fired on the spot- telling me I should look for other sources of "emotional satisfaction"). Co-sleeping felt like the most obvious and natural choice in the world. The thought of isolating him even in the same room seemed cruel and unnecessary. I'll always cherish the sweet memories of those 2 years of having him sleep with us, his reaching up to touch my face in the middle of the night, the way as a baby baby he would curl his toes tight into my thigh, to keep as connected as he could possibly be.
Was I endangering him? Was co-sleeping a "selfish" choice? Not in a million years, but if you know anything about the "mommy wars" you know those choices are harshly judged and condemned by many moms.
What I'm trying to say is, I think it's a subjective expectation that parents are supposed to be emotionally connected to their children at all times, and that it was necessarily "damaging" to Cooper for his father to be on his phone as Cooper slept. Would it have been any different if RH had been on his phone absorbed with work research and emotionally detached from Cooper?