Troubled country singer Mindy McCready, RIP

[cluciano63]

I would have at least taken my pet to a shelter
At least he would have had a chance.

(I do not mean to dismiss the tragedy of Mindy's death...but the detail of her dog just shocks me.)

 

[Gypsy Road]

I'm with you Cluciano63. I can't wrap my brain around the fact that she looked at her dog and shot him dead.

I guess I have never come close to being that depressed. I could never hurt any of my animals. Ever.

 

[TexasLori]

I am so so glad she did not take her children with her.

 

[Roxye]

Those that are left behind, tend to suffer the most. :cry:

The survivors of suicide suffer for years, decades later. My Nanny killed herself in 1994. Everyday, I deal with the effects of what she chose to do.

I suffer from the same illness she was suffering. The fact she took her own life is the only thing that keeps me alive to this day.

Because of what I felt and still to this day feel because the most important person in my life chose to end her life instead of living another day, shapes me. It shapes how I deal with life, my son, my family!

As horrible as this may sound, if it wasn't for my Nanny killling herself in 1994, I would NOT be alive today. LITERALLY! I would have already taken my own life years ago! The lose I felt at her death taught me that I could NEVER make another human feel how bad I felt loosing her. My son might not even be here if she didn't kill herself, and even if he was, I might not be to teach him to be a understanding human.

Maybe this post has nothing to do with Mindy right NOW, but eventually, for her children, it WILL!

 

[Gypsy Road]

I'm sorry for your pain, Roxye. You've really been through it. Your nanny's death taught you so much...and she saved your life. And if you believe in God and Heaven - you WILL see her again. I truly believe that we will all meet on the other side. Again, I'm sorry for your pain.

 

[MsFacetious]

I think it's quite a stretch to say that Mindy would have killed her kids.
She had the opportunity to do that already and did not.

She certainly could have just waited until she had a chance (like Josh Powell) if she was determined to kill all of them.

There could be many reasons the dog was killed. Maybe the dog was already sick?
Maybe the dog was a shelter dog that would be put down if taken back?
Maybe she was concerned giving up the dog would alert someone to her plan and was determined to go through with it.
Maybe she was concerned the dog would attack anyone who tried to remove her body?

I'm not going to judge her.
I'm just heartbroken that she did this.
I wish this had just been another attempt.

Music is a huge part of my life... and so many of the singers who helped me get through my suicidal years... are now dead.

 

[Roxye]

I'm sorry for your pain, Roxye. You've really been through it. Your nanny's death taught you so much...and she saved your life. And if you believe in God and Heaven - you WILL see her again. I truly believe that we will all meet on the other side. Again, I'm sorry for your pain.

I have had many people try to tell me because she killed herself, my Nanny went to hell. I have never agreed with them. She was Godfelt her entire life! Lived a sin free life and raised 5 wonderful children along with many other grandchildren, and great grandchildren before she took her own life.

Thank you so much for understanding! It means so much to me that others understand mental illness isn't the end all be all. For some, it is the beginning of understanding and hopefully, change.

 

[Kimster]

Please continue here: [ame="http://www.websleuths.com/forums/showthread.php?t=199144"]Mindy McCready - Dead of Apparent Suicide - Websleuths Crime Sleuthing Community[/ame]

 

[jjenny]

I think it's quite a stretch to say that Mindy would have killed her kids.
She had the opportunity to do that already and did not.

She certainly could have just waited until she had a chance (like Josh Powell) if she was determined to kill all of them.

There could be many reasons the dog was killed. Maybe the dog was already sick?
Maybe the dog was a shelter dog that would be put down if taken back?
Maybe she was concerned giving up the dog would alert someone to her plan and was determined to go through with it.
Maybe she was concerned the dog would attack anyone who tried to remove her body?

I'm not going to judge her.
I'm just heartbroken that she did this.
I wish this had just been another attempt.

Music is a huge part of my life... and so many of the singers who helped me get through my suicidal years... are now dead.

Thankfully we will never know what she would have done if these kids were in her custody. I sure am glad that the judge removed her kids from her custody.

 

[Roxye]

Thankfully we will never know what she would have done if these kids were in her custody. I sure am glad that the judge removed her kids from her custody.

I am glad as well, but if my history tells a tale, in the long run, it wouldn't have made a difference for Mindy.

I lived with my Nanny for months before I moved to TN. 6 monthes after I left her and came back to visit to show her, I was doing good on my own, she killed herself. She knew, by God she just thought, she was no longer needed, so she thought it was okay to end her own life.

Maybe Mindy thought the same thing. She knew her kids were cared for by her family. Mindy went through so much from a child to adulthood, that much of the people here will never understand. She was abused and exploited to a degree that if far beond what some realize.

Mindy had the voice of an angel, but she had tales that got her there that would shame the devil. She had a tormented soul, and there are many who will pay for her's in the afterlife. IMO

 

[jjenny]

I was thinking about it potentially making a difference for the kids (not Mindy). She seemed to have been quite determined to kill herself.

 

[gitana1]

I would have at least taken my pet to a shelter
At least he would have had a chance.

(I do not mean to dismiss the tragedy of Mindy's death...but the detail of her dog just shocks me.)

I don;t know. I would rather my animals be dead than sit in a pound, wondering where I was, fruitlessly waiting for me to come get them. Wondering what they did wrong to deserve to be abandoned, given to a crummy home where it is neglected or abused, or never adopted at all, and just eventually, put to sleep.

Pets are not children. With kids, you can eventually make them understand that Mommy is in heaven and still loves them with all her heart. And you know they will not be put down because they can't find a home.

Being shot to death is the kindest death an animal can have, IMO. Kinder than being put to sleep at the one place they hate the most (the vet). And it is likely a kinder fate than many face on a daily basis, just being alive.

 

[Melanie]

Good point. Thank God her kids weren't with her.

Can you imagine! I just don't know my take on this - if she killed her boyfriend, or was distraught over losing her kids, or all combined. She had many bad years with drugs/alcohol, then losing her first son.

I would like to think she didn't kill her boyfriend - but one just doesn't know. Why would she kill her dog? And why shoot yourself in the face! That's not an easy death (some people actually survive doing so).

My heart goes out to her children. May she RIP.

MOO

Mel

 

[MissJ]

This young woman was a tortured soul who had attempted to self medicate for years. Apparently she could no longer face her demons.

 

[Roxye]

Being shot to death is the kindest death an animal can have, IMO. Kinder than being put to sleep at the one place they hate the most (the vet). And it is likely a kinder fate than many face on a daily basis, just being alive.

We just adopted a rescue. Keep in mind we have paid out our asses for the last three dogs we own. We now have two french bulldogs and a white golden retiever, plus the odd number of cats I continue to adopt every year because their owners want to just 'dump' them.

"White" (rescue) was never abused, but he was neglected. He will eat until he makes himself sick. This is sad. None of my other three dogs would ever do that. In fact, the golden, who is outside, with the cats, will let THEM eat her food when she if full.

Not ALL animals are as lucky as "White" and the cats I adopt. TOOOOOO many animals are mistreated from day one as "White" was, and others aren't cared for as my NOW cats have been.

I can't promise after I am 'gone', that they will still be taken care of as I have done. I know my child will, but my animals, not so much. People so to often see dogs and cats as dispensable. They aren't, to me of course, but others don't see them as family members as I and some of you do.

Sadly, I agree with you. It hurts my heart to say it., but after bringing "White" not abused, but neglected into out home, sometimes, sad as it may seem, death is better then waiting for your owner coming to 'get' you.

It is a very sad fact in our socitety that we don't treat our animals as well as we should. For that matter.... we don't treat our people as well as we should either!

 

[Kimberlyd125]

I would have at least taken my pet to a shelter
At least he would have had a chance.

(I do not mean to dismiss the tragedy of Mindy's death...but the detail of her dog just shocks me.)

You are assuming you would be thinking rationally.
I'm thinking she wasn't.

 

[oh_gal]

Re: Her dog

Do we know where she got the dog? Was it from the deceased boyfriend? If so, then perhaps she did have a hand in killing him, and didn't want his dog around, either.

 

[ScarlettScarpetta]

Re: Her dog

Do we know where she got the dog? Was it from the deceased boyfriend? If so, then perhaps she did have a hand in killing him, and didn't want his dog around, either.

This is one of the things that has me on the not suicide train.

What if some shot her dog then shot her making it look like suicide.

 

[arielilane]

Rest in peace Ms. Mindy. My deepest condolences to her fans, friends and family. Especially thinking of her children. My thoughts and prayers are with her children.

 

[belimom]

I don;t know. I would rather my animals be dead than sit in a pound, wondering where I was, fruitlessly waiting for me to come get them. Wondering what they did wrong to deserve to be abandoned, given to a crummy home where it is neglected or abused, or never adopted at all, and just eventually, put to sleep.

Pets are not children. With kids, you can eventually make them understand that Mommy is in heaven and still loves them with all her heart. And you know they will not be put down because they can't find a home.

Being shot to death is the kindest death an animal can have, IMO. Kinder than being put to sleep at the one place they hate the most (the vet). And it is likely a kinder fate than many face on a daily basis, just being alive.

bbm

OT: I agree with everything you say. We ended up adopted our dog partly to keep her from going with another family. I had gone to an adoption fair to get a (another) cat but saw this little puppy and just had to hold her. I had grown up with dogs and missed having a dog - but we were in a high-rise and couldn't due to the bylaws. While I was holding her, a family followed me around, saying if I didn't take her, they would. I talked to them: they had never had a pet, she would sleep outside, the parents didn't want a dog and were just placating their child. Aside from the fact that every time I tried putting her down, she literally 'held' onto me with her front legs, that did it for me. I adopted her and we moved out of the high-rise. She has been with us for 14 yrs now. She's actually sleeping on my bed at my feet right now. (ETA- however, Mindy McCready seemed very troubled - so we really don't know why she shot her dog... )

As far as putting dogs down at the vet, we have two friends who had their vet come to their home and put their dog down, in a favorite spot, surrounded by loved ones. I'm not sure if many people know that there are vets who do this and if yours does not, there are vets who specialize in this.