Yes, absolutely this. And it doesn’t necessarily contradict the following post about “baby daddies” culture etc either. I think some young women find themselves pregnant and it’s a very vulnerable experience so they adapt as best they can in the circumstances. They’re criticised for abortions and they’re criticised for keeping babies then being terrible at parenting.
Re baby daddy culture I see just as much controlling behaviour from the baby daddies as I do the mothers. It’s all power play, validation and control. For some men it’s a means of branding their women, controlling women and demonstrating virility, and for some women it’s about fighting for status in a culture where the baseline position is that you’re worthless. It’s all ugly.
That said, women have always been oppressed and controlled by reproductive status and means so it’s just the modern version of the oldest tale in the book. Toxic expectations for women and toxic expectations for men. I’ll get off my feminist soapbox now
