to me it just screams so many things 1) a victim cannot overcome what was done to them and will become the abuser 2) gives the abused an excuse to become an abuser and 3) is an insult to all survivors on this board and anywhere for that matter.
i know it doesn't take much to get me going. even a post that is 3 years old
I remember when the banned poster wrote what they did.
Being an abused child myself for many years.... when that was said back then I must admit I saw red.:furious: It is so hurtful and cuts like a knife to the majority of survivors who have never hurt a soul their entire lives and never will.
It is erroneous misinformation that because a child has been abused they are predestined to become an abuser themselves. It is stereotyping because of what a few do. Like "going postal" doesn't mean that all post office workers are going to go in the post office and kill someone. There is evil all in this world. There doesn't have to be a rhyme or reason or profile that neatly fits for someone to become a vile predator of defenseless children. Many pedophile serial rapists and those who rape then murder children were never abused at all.
It isn't the path from which one came but the path they took once escaping the abuse. Unfortunately millions upon millions of children in our society are sexually abused every year. It it were remotely true that they would go on to be abusers then these millions yearly would become predators and we would see millions of cases each year but thank goodness we don't.
Most adults who were abused as children go on to be OVERPROTECTIVE of children to a fault. They don't offer up their defenseless children like sacrificial lambs to the devil personified.
It is the mindset of each of these twisted individuals that makes these vile sadistic things happen. They can come from dysfunctional homes or they can come from the big fancy home on the hill with the perfectly manicured home or anywhere in between. Their childhood can have abuse in it OR no abuse at all. There is no cookie cutter design for sexual predators. Sexual predators come in all shapes, sizes, education levels and backgrounds. There is no neat box that fits the child predator.
Right here on this site we have a sickening case where a supposedly respected Pediatrician for years did unbelievable sexual acts toward the young and innocent and IMO there will be no abuse in his background ...just his lustful perverted thoughts he wanted to satisfy.
As I have posted many times since researching the Sandra Cantu case this goes on much more than some may want to realize when it comes to a female sexual facilitator or pedophile. They are no different than the cunning male pedophile or the male kiddie *advertiser censored* addict. Both of them LUST for innocent little children and often times like in this case they pick the closest defenseless prey and that can be one of their own.
imo