Understanding The Anthony's Parenting Style

[claudicici]

"sex is an escape from reality"
I don't quite agree with that quote.KC did not live in reality,so why would she need to escape it?
I think it was more about getting approval,which she didn't get from ca.


"Lee:
To be fair I won't say much about Lee except he has shown some level of dysfunctionality and in not as great scale he lies to cover for the others. He did move out of the house a while back, so as it stands he is the only member of this family on better path where he can actually wake up and gain control of the situation for himself; saving himself from the dysfunctionality of the home."

I think Lee has some real anger issues....
.....that laugh scares me....

 

[OneLostGrl]

Thank you for the wonderful post. I wonder how many times in Casey's and Lee's past did Cindy feel the need to come to the rescue. I wonder how often Cindy went to their schools when they were younger. This behavior had to be going on for quite a while.

We have a thread here that someone started.. they personally knew one of Casey's teachers. The teacher described Cindy just as we would expect- calling the teacher, yelling at HER for Casey's bad grades (I don't recall exactly what the issue was -a test- or something), hovering- "helicopter parenting" was the word she used to describe Cindy. No surprise, right?! LOL

Something funky was up with Lee when he was young, he was quite ill for awhile, it was discussed in one of Cindy's LE interviews and has been discussed here but I missed the exact nature of his illness.. I understand it was kinda serious..

 

[OneLostGrl]

"sex is an escape from reality"
I don't quite agree with that quote.KC did not live in reality,so why would she need to escape it?
I think it was more about getting approval,which she didn't get from ca.


"Lee:
To be fair I won't say much about Lee except he has shown some level of dysfunctionality and in not as great scale he lies to cover for the others. He did move out of the house a while back, so as it stands he is the only member of this family on better path where he can actually wake up and gain control of the situation for himself; saving himself from the dysfunctionality of the home."

I think Lee has some real anger issues....
.....that laugh scares me....

As usual, Great post.. and as I'm finding is often the case, I agree with you!

Lee is a strange dude- far stranger (non-human) than Casey, IMO.

 

[gitana1]

Any comments anywhere about the Anthony's appearance at the vigil for missing kids attended by Hayleigh Cumming's mom? I wonder how they can't look at the grief displayed by Hayleigh's mother and instantly recognize the difference between her reaction to having a missing child and casey's reaction (or lack thereof). Seeing the desperation and horrific pain in that mother just must cause them to make comparisons. What do you all think?

 

[SoSueMe]

Any comments anywhere about the Anthony's appearance at the vigil for missing kids attended by Hayleigh Cumming's mom? I wonder how they can't look at the grief displayed by Hayleigh's mother and instantly recognize the difference between her reaction to having a missing child and casey's reaction (or lack thereof). Seeing the desperation and horrific pain in that mother just must cause them to make comparisons. What do you all think?

Maybe they made the comparison or maybe not. I doubt they were in that "mode" at the vigil. They will make any excuse for KC's behavior IMO.

Along those lines, I must say I am a little sick and tired of hearing "everyone grieves differently" when talking about KC. Yes, everyone does grieve differently, but not to that extent. It would seem to me that grieving would fall into different ranges, but not totally out of the spectrum.

 

[cecybeans]

Maybe they made the comparison or maybe not. I doubt they were in that "mode" at the vigil. They will make any excuse for KC's behavior IMO.

Along those lines, I must say I am a little sick and tired of hearing "everyone grieves differently" when talking about KC. Yes, everyone does grieve differently, but not to that extent. It would seem to me that grieving would fall into different ranges, but not totally out of the spectrum.

Yeah, one would expect even "ugly coping" would look at least like someone is not coping well, instead of someone behaving like they are having the time of their life and can hardly wait to commemorate it with a "Bella Vida" tattoo.

 

[karenmamo]

How many times in interviews has Cindy denied any controlling actions toward KC !!
"That is Casey's choice." (?)
"She is an adult, I don't make decisions for her." (?)
etc.
Yet in so many of the statements and depos, others say just the opposite. Cindy knows what is being reported by others about her actions to control KC and yet she makes a big deal to get her word in that she in no way got into KC's decisions. (We know this is NOT true--and so does she.)
Cindy has just protested way too much IMO.
Now why the need to keep doing this?
Does this have something to do with Cindy's guilt? I just don't understand. Can anyone kick this around as to why?
TIA

 

[SoSueMe]

How many times in interviews has Cindy denied any controlling actions toward KC !!
"That is Casey's choice." (?)
"She is an adult, I don't make decisions for her." (?)
etc.
Yet in so many of the statements and depos, others say just the opposite. Cindy knows what is being reported by others about her actions to control KC and yet she makes a big deal to get her word in that she in no way got into KC's decisions. (We know this is NOT true--and so does she.)
Cindy has just protested way too much IMO.
Now why the need to keep doing this?
Does this have something to do with Cindy's guilt? I just don't understand. Can anyone kick this around as to why?
TIA

Most people that I know that are controlling always deny they are controlling. I think CA feels the need to prove to people that she was not that controlling of KC. I think it does two things. One, she may feel that it absolves here of any blame in Caylee's death. I don't believe she is responsible for Caylee's death, but I do think she is responsible for not getting KC the help she needed and enabling her lying ways. Two, legally, this is CA's way of not answering questions. I don't believe her for an instant that she didn't question KC more than she did about her job, who was taking care of Caylee, who she was dating, etc. KC couldn't even go out without calls from CA demanding to know where she was and telling her to come home.

 

[Judelize]

An incident with some friends this weekend gave me new insight as to how the A’s still support their evil daughter.
My friends had 4 sausage dogs and a golden retriever, “Buddy”.
Buddy goes crazy at times, no one knows why. He got hold of Noenoe, one of the sausages, and ripped him apart. Noenoe was in ICU for 2 days, but passed away. My friends were heartbroken. I mentioned that perhaps they should give Buddy away, as he had killed their darling Noenoe, and could possible still kill one of the others. To my dismay they would hear nothing of it. Buddy was their dog, he had been VERY bad, but they still loved him and wanted him as theirs. Then I realized that if my friends felt this way about a dog, the A’s would obviously feel even stronger about their own flesh and blood, and would love and support her irrespective of what evil wicked deeds she is guilty of, including taking away the other love in their life.IMO

 

[Mare10]

I believe that CA wanted to control KC but never could. I believe that she berated KC for every failure (failure- not living up to CA's expectations). I think that CA was the type of mother that would tell her child to make the bed, the child does, she inspects it and it's not perfect, therefore, the mother unmakes the bed and re-makes it, tells the child that they can't do anything right, child feels horrid and stops trying, starts lying. IMO she is also the type of mother that in the outside world, never holds her child responsible. Everything the child did was an accident or someone else's fault. IIRC, when KC was short credits and could not walk with her senior class, CA went up to the school and it became quite heated there. IMO, that shows me the two sides of the family, what happens behind closed doors and what happens in the outside world, two faces. I feel that CA is condescending as well, I can hear her say, Sweetie, you are a failure, you can't do anything right. Sweetie, that doesn't quite fit the other words that follow.

 

[Ripley007]

An incident with some friends this weekend gave me new insight as to how the A’s still support their evil daughter.
My friends had 4 sausage dogs and a golden retriever, “Buddy”.
Buddy goes crazy at times, no one knows why. He got hold of Noenoe, one of the sausages, and ripped him apart. Noenoe was in ICU for 2 days, but passed away. My friends were heartbroken. I mentioned that perhaps they should give Buddy away, as he had killed their darling Noenoe, and could possible still kill one of the others. To my dismay they would hear nothing of it. Buddy was their dog, he had been VERY bad, but they still loved him and wanted him as theirs. Then I realized that if my friends felt this way about a dog, the A’s would obviously feel even stronger about their own flesh and blood, and would love and support her irrespective of what evil wicked deeds she is guilty of, including taking away the other love in their life.IMO

I can just hear the Dog Whisperer Now...Buddy has not been given enough excerise to burn off his energy...and has been allowed to express his agression to the detriment of one of the little sausage dogs. I'm betting he would agree and predict another fatal incident if something doesn't change. Good luck convincing your friends. Love is Blind. Ignorance is Stupidity. JMHO!

 

[Just Jayla]

How many times in interviews has Cindy denied any controlling actions toward KC !!
"That is Casey's choice." (?)
"She is an adult, I don't make decisions for her." (?)
etc.
Yet in so many of the statements and depos, others say just the opposite. Cindy knows what is being reported by others about her actions to control KC and yet she makes a big deal to get her word in that she in no way got into KC's decisions. (We know this is NOT true--and so does she.)
Cindy has just protested way too much IMO.
Now why the need to keep doing this?
Does this have something to do with Cindy's guilt? I just don't understand. Can anyone kick this around as to why?
TIA

Maybe she thinks she can reach just one potential juror with her lies, someone not as up to speed as we are here...she knows most of the rest of us are onto them.

 

[Just Jayla]

I can just hear the Dog Whisperer Now...Buddy has not been given enough excerise to burn off his energy...and has been allowed to express his agression to the detriment of one of the little sausage dogs. I'm betting he would agree and predict another fatal incident if something doesn't change. Good luck convincing your friends. Love is Blind. Ignorance is Stupidity. JMHO!

Dog Whisperer might also say that Buddy, like KC, needed a calm and assertive alpha figure. Unlike the A's, dogs establish a binding hierarchy that is enforced with disciplinary measures and expectations that each member of the pack/family fulfill their role. Absent a strong alpha/owner/MOTHER & FATHER (CA & GA), Buddy and KC were bound to spontaneously, anxiously and brutally attack and assert their own dominance.

 

[claudicici]

...she knows what she did....she feels guilty,imo,that's why she denies...

 

[Just Jayla]

Dog Whisperer might also say that Buddy, like KC, needed a calm and assertive alpha figure. Unlike the A's, dogs establish a binding hierarchy that is enforced with disciplinary measures and expectations that each member of the pack/family fulfill their role. Absent a strong alpha/owner/MOTHER & FATHER (CA & GA), Buddy and KC were bound to spontaneously, anxiously and brutally attack and assert their own dominance.

Sorry to quote myself, but I gave myself a chuckle when thinking about the pun...Buddy and the Spiteful Bi**h-How fitting!

 

[Amil]

OneLostGirl---- are you my sister??

 

[NocturnalLady]

How many times in interviews has Cindy denied any controlling actions toward KC !!
"That is Casey's choice." (?)
"She is an adult, I don't make decisions for her." (?)
etc.
Yet in so many of the statements and depos, others say just the opposite. Cindy knows what is being reported by others about her actions to control KC and yet she makes a big deal to get her word in that she in no way got into KC's decisions. (We know this is NOT true--and so does she.)
Cindy has just protested way too much IMO.
Now why the need to keep doing this?
Does this have something to do with Cindy's guilt? I just don't understand. Can anyone kick this around as to why?
TIA

Because she doesn't want to be perceived as controlling. And also she knows that others view Casey's actions as wrong and Cindy wants to distance herself from having any responsibility for that.

 

[MAMABEAR]

Hey---OneLostGirl---are you Amil's sister??
I am very nosy and I wanna know to. LOL

 

[OneLostGrl]

Because she doesn't want to be perceived as controlling. And also she knows that others view Casey's actions as wrong and Cindy wants to distance herself from having any responsibility for that.

I agree. If she created this person, what does this say about her? What does this make HER? She, IMO, plays this game to keep from having to face who she is, what she is.

 

[OneLostGrl]

OneLostGirl---- are you my sister??

lol, naw my sister still lives in the land of denial. :blowkiss: