The fact that she was just returning from her grandmother’s funeral could be relevant as to why she agreed to meet him at that hour. She could have been in a fog, not really thinking through things or caring about consequences. The grieving process is complex and everyone reacts differently. There is a correlation between grief and high risk behavior. (Speaking from experience, I’m not an expert.)
I suspect they had an online relationship that had been going on for a few months. She felt like she knew him and went to him for comfort at a time when she just needed someone, something other than going home to her apartment. It’s been reported that he was very charming. He probably said the things that she needed to hear at that moment, so she agreed to meet him.
I think you mean, when people are open to acting without empathy, or a care for someones life.
Careful or not, it is not the vicitms fault. It is the killers fault and their fault alone. People are murdered walking down the road, in home at bed, at work. No where is safe from these monsters.
Hopefully, they're announcing charges but they may also have another request for information from the public. MOOI'm curious what this update is - he still hasn't been arraigned on any charges yet, right? It seems unusual for the police to be giving the public an update without that happening IMO
It’s not “fault-finding” to assess behavioral risks. Children are kidnapped from their beds...that doesn’t mean letting a three year old walk alone unwatched and unattended in a crowded Walmart does not put that child at increased risk.
Most of us spent the formative years doing everything we can to reduce risk to our child. We watch for product recalls, we watch their diet, their internet usage, we buckle their seat beys, try to know their friends, stay up till they get home.
But we are NOT allowed to say certain interactions with strangers increase that child’s personal danger? We are NOT allowed to point to the loss of a lovely, intelligent young woman and say...”What can we learn from this?”
This desire to say all behavior is equal, healthy, and “the norm” now ...and claim that we have no personal responsibility to assess risk belies common sense. It is a false kind of empathy because we should care enough about each others safety to discuss risky behavior candidly.
We can do it without condemning each other.
We try to make sense of things from the predator viewpoint and victim in the comfort of your own home on a computer or phone or tablet but it's a different world at night when you're out and about.
5 star post!It’s not “fault-finding” to assess behavioral risks. Children are kidnapped from their beds...that doesn’t mean letting a three year old walk alone unwatched and unattended in a crowded Walmart does not put that child at increased risk.
Most of us spend the formative years of parenting...doing everything we can to reduce risk to our child. We watch for product recalls, we watch their diet, monitor their internet usage, we buckle their seat belts, try to know their friends, stay up till they get home.
But we are NOT allowed to say certain interactions with strangers increase that child’s personal danger? We are NOT allowed to point to the loss of a lovely, intelligent young woman and say...”What can we learn from this?”
This desire to say all behavior is equal, healthy, and “the norm” now ...and claim that we have no personal responsibility to assess risk belies common sense. It is a false kind of empathy because we should care enough about each others safety to discuss risky behavior candidly.
We can do it without condemning each other.
Hopefully, they're announcing charges but they may also have another request for information from the public. MOO
90% of the work that I do/have done throughout my adult life has been done in the hours of 9PM to 4AM. Many people such as myself prefer those hours as it is quiet, less to be bothered by and allows for one to focus more on the issue at hand rather than be knocked off track by the comings and goings during the day hours. Some call people like this "night owls" and it simply means they can focus better at those times.It's a proven fact human beings who arent working and maneuvering about past midnight are at a higher risk for bad.
It’s not “fault-finding” to assess behavioral risks. Children are kidnapped from their beds...that doesn’t mean letting a three year old walk alone unwatched and unattended in a crowded Walmart does not put that child at increased risk.
Most of us spend the formative years of parenting...doing everything we can to reduce risk to our child. We watch for product recalls, we watch their diet, monitor their internet usage, we buckle their seat belts, try to know their friends, stay up till they get home.
But we are NOT allowed to say certain interactions with strangers increase that child’s personal danger? We are NOT allowed to point to the loss of a lovely, intelligent young woman and say...”What can we learn from this?”
This desire to say all behavior is equal, healthy, and “the norm” now ...and claim that we have no personal responsibility to assess risk belies common sense. It is a false kind of empathy because we should care enough about each others safety to discuss risky behavior candidly.
We can do it without condemning each other.
At this point nothing would surprise me. MOOIs it possible there could be additional victims or dna located along with KL's remains? Or perhaps additional victims have come forward to add charges?
I dont want to argue. I may of come off as strong but Stmary pretty much hit the nail on the head.
Not trying to argue, discussion
But again, we have NO idea why they met at that time, or their relationship. So claiming it was risky behaviour is just incorrect at this point. Maybe once we know those details, we can decide whether it was truthfully risky.
I'm a total night owl, and I also horse show a lot and a lot of that involves me being out at 2 AM, 3 AM, often alone or driving alone.