Mamta's mother says if they can bring her granddaughter back to Nepal, they will. Much more in the article; sounds like Mamta had MIL troubles. Lengthy article. MOO
AUG 25, 2024
Mamata’s parents and other kin are suspicious of foul play in her mysterious disappearance.
kathmandupost.com
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“We have no idea about our daughter's condition or if she is even alive,” said Mamata's father, Kamal Kafle. “It's been so many days, and we haven't received any news.”
To gather information about the disappearance, Mamata's mother, Geeta Kafle, and brother, Mahesh Kafle, are making arrangements to travel to the US, according to Kamal. Speaking to the Post, Kamal expressed his growing concern: “We haven't learned anything about her condition; our hearts are pounding heavily. As soon as all the necessary arrangements are made, we plan to leave for the US immediately.”
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So some other questions coming to my mind:
1) Mamta graduated from her nursing program in Bangalore, an Indian IT hub, which is rapidly growing and well-off. Think of our Silicone Valley or even Seattle, you can imagine the type of people Mamta was exposed to. I don't know where in Nepal she lived, but IMHO, highly likely, she was very educated and open to the world.
2) now, Kanchanpur, the part Naresh was from, is SW part of Nepal, and I understand that clinging to Chhaupadi traditions would be unsurprising there. He moved to the US, true, was in the army, and then, failed police academy...probably, intellectually he was way lower than Mamta. Her mom says that they didn't know him. Believable.
3) To be honest, I wonder if the marriage was that much arranged. There are dating apps for any country, religion or community. Even for Muslims in Central Asia. While any culture conforms to own religious/cultural norms, progress is speeding things up. I doubt that Mamta never saw Naresh before marriage or that she had no say in it. It doesn't seem so at all from what her mom's account. Mamta was probably early and educated Gen Z, Naresh, an early millennial, from a more parochial culture, obstinate, paranoid and with a controlling, difficult mom from an uneducated part of the country?
I think Mamta would fit into US culture to a T. And her husband probably felt it, was jealous, foresaw that she'd leave him (I wish she lived to it!), be an independent woman and a good nurse, and he felt incompetent and humiliated in comparison to her.
Naresh killed her because while he limited Mamta in everything - money, car, food, house, time allowed to work, impregnated her, was sending her out of the house during menstruations, stole her green card - she still managed to advance in her career, and life, and make friends. Naresh was sitting in his "solely owned" house and using his "solely owned" Tesla and felt what he really was - a total loser.
I also wonder if she had her period when she was killed? Her friends may know.
Putting it all together, I seriously doubt it is a good idea to send the child back to Nepal. Her mom was withstanding the torture to be able to escape the controlling environment. Mamta's parents invested into the education of their only daughter. Does anyone see my point?
