Random thought on DE's statement about giving NL a "side hug".
Say that did happen. When giving, receiving, or even witnessing a side hug, someone typically seems to act awkward, anxious, nervous, uncomfortable. I'm not saying that 100% of the time that's how it is but usually at least to me side hugs come with tense or skittish characteristics. Maybe I'm the only one that sees it that way. My point .. IMO if DE actually gave NL the side hug, I find it hard to perceive him as a charming, manipulative, Rico Suave type that took control of the situation. This was not written to defend DE in any way, but to point out my opinion that I do not think he was captain of the ship.
I'm thinking this side hug thing is all about not seeming like a pedophile. He seems more embarrassed about anyone thinking he was sexual with NL than a murderer.