What must go through her mind every day? Is she just in complete denial ?
With these recent postings on CL we can only hope she is completely losing it and will confess.
Again, we cam hope.
Yes, I'd say she is in complete denial. She considers
herself a victim. By describing herself as a "nice polite girl" she makes herself sound young - child-like, even - and innocent. Maybe she posted an old picture of herself because psychologically she's reverting back to an earlier, more innocent time in her life. Notice she refers to her children as babies, although M is no longer a baby. She's definitely not living in the present.
She will have to face reality sooner or later. If anyone does answer her ads, they will want to know where her babies are. But, I suppose she will accuse her "abusive" ex-husband of snatching them from her. Well, she may cling to her little fantasy world tooth and nail, but eventually it will cave in on her.
A little OT: I have a friend from college who was apparently a victim of abuse by her ex-husband. I say "apparently" because I haven't seen her in 30 years and didn't hear from her for long periods of time - for more than a decade until she called with her story of abuse a few years ago. I have no reason to doubt it, and would rather give her the benefit of the doubt, but now realize that she plays up her victimhood to try to get whatever she wants. She told me of one neighbor who helped her for a while and then was suddenly "mean" to her. She told me how cruel the courts were to her when she sued her ex (whom she had filed a restraining order against) for more financial support so she could make mortgage payments. Since she didn't have a working car to go to the store regularly, I sent her supplies. She began asking me for specific (costlier) items, including office supplies for her court documents in which she would inform the judge that his rulings were erroneous. I spent more on items for her than I spend on myself. I even sent her money for some mortgage payments when she called crying hysterically because she didn't have the money to make any more payments. After she had nearly exhausted her appeals in court at the state level, I found the court documents on the Internet and understood why the judges were denying her case. She wasn't producing the documents they were requesting to support her claims. She was eventually fined for filing a frivolous suit. I asked her at one point if she could sell her house and use the money to buy a less expensive home. She admitted she could move into an apartment, or she would probably qualify for subsidized housing, but she wasn't willing to move someplace where she might have to endure noisy neighbors. Well, gee thanks, I have lived in subsidized housing for more than 17 years (I do understand my friend's concerns because my neighborhood was overrun with drug activity for a few years and I've had some very loud, obnoxious neighbors) and will likely never own a home, but she expected someone (me, even) to pay off her house. She also admitted that a church she attended for a while was giving her money until she stopped going because they advised her against filing the suit against her ex-husband. She said they were very cruel to her. Really? They were cruel to her for giving her money? Because they advised her against filing a lawsuit that they deemed no-win (and were correct)?
I mention this because I see the same mindset in my friend and in Julia. As far as they're concerned, anyone who does not agree with them or see from their viewpoint is treating them cruelly. They are always the victim in their own eyes and will never see themselves as anything else. While my friend was very possibly abused by her ex, in the decade before learning of the abuse I wondered how he was putting up with her because she could be contentious at times. In fact, when I didn't hear from my friend all of those years I assumed she was miffed at me. The last time we'd talked, just before the turn of the millennium, she was infuriated with me because I didn't share her concerns about the "inevitable" fall of our society that would result from the inability to set the date on computers to the year 2000. She told me to move back in with my mother, sell my car and buy a motorcycle, buy a gun, grow our own food and stock up on supplies. Lol. I would never condone a man abusing a woman, but I have to wonder whether her controlling behavior incited her husband's wrath. Julia doesn't realize how fortunate she was to be married to such a patient man. The next man she finds may not be so patient with her.
