I'm here and been here from the start. :seeya:
Speculation on your part. Some are suggesting the photos were staged. There is no evidence that they were. None.
He obviously didn't get his daughter now either. He got supervised visits. There is obviously something wrong with him not getting full unsupervised custody.
Depends on what you consider evidence. For example, almost every picture is timed to specifically refute an allegation on SM's part. The dad's declaration stating in great detail exactly what the problems with the mother were, when combined with the timing of the photos, can be considered evidence that she might have staged them.
I suffer from severe panic attacks. They have a pretty significant impact on how I live, the things I can do. Not just the attacks themselves, which are horrid enough, but the fear that doing something might lead to an attack. My thoughts and fears are insane.
Crazy.
Not psycho mind you, I have no dead hookers in the trunk of my car, so I am pretty sure I am not psycho. Just crazy. Crazy is the word used by non-professionals like me to describe a mental illness severe enough that the victim has a real problem. Crazy. Psycho is the word used by folks like me for crazy people who use their cellars for more creative purposes. Or people who kill their kids. It's probably short for something, but who cares.
If you insist on medical terminology then I am sorry to disappoint you, but words like crazy and psycho are here to stay, they are shorthand, the same way that we type initials here rather than people's names.
MOOetc
This made me laugh. Especially the using the cellar for more creative purposes part. I have also suffered from panic attacks, anxiety disorder, agoraphobia, etc., since early childhood (to varying degrees and now controlled beautifully). I also refer to myself as "crazy".
So does my massive family in Spain. In fact, they don't call me by my name, they call me "La Loca". Some families and cultures are not as politically correct as others. I don't mind being called crazy (but I will respect if others do :innocent
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These two wouldn't known a good marriage if it smacked them in the face. It takes more than two people having chemisty it takes work by both.The beginning was shaky at the most ...then it went down hill from there playing out like a Greek tragedy. While these two lived out what could only be characterized as a farce of a marriage two innocent lives have been hung in the*
balance. They(let me make this very clear both of them) spent more effort on their vehicles,shopping trips,cleaning rituals,church,$$$ and*
homes than worring about leaving a 3 month old child in a freezing car for an hour. Sure they all apologize when their caught.Every child deserves to be given the best start in life you can give them. Sky and M deserved to feel safe and were failed miserably.
My rant is from having followed two local missing children cases Kyron's and now Sky's. I am sick of these p*** poor parents and their apologies,ignorance,selfishness,pointing fingers at each other,lack of common sense and excuses.MOO
Well, dad was nowhere to be seen when Sky disappeared, because he had been forced out of his children's lives based on allegations by the mother. Before that, it appears from the docket, news reports and his own statements that he fought like a tiger to protect his kids and prevent something like this from happening. So I'm having a hard time seeing how the finger could possibly be pointed at him.
As others have said, he wrote his declarations before Sky went missing. He's not casting blame now and talking about things he knew then but did nothing about. He has been fighting for over a year to keep his kids safe. But no one listened. I don't see that as pointing fingers. I see it as being a hero for his kids. Now his only "sin" is trying to answer questions posed to him about what he wrote in those declarations.
His job is to find his son not bash his soon to be ex wife on national television telling the viewers he wasn't allowed to use the commode. How does that help find Sky? Seriously. Who cares? I'm actually sick of seeing him. I think it's self serving and does nothing to help find Sky. He should do something productive like organize a search or call SAR organization.
Leave Julia to the experts and LE.
I have never heard him bash Julia. In fact, I have seen a few different interviews during which he deflected questions about her and her family and kept saying, "My only concern is for Sky right now. I want to keep the focus on Sky."
Here's dad going door to door to businesses, handing out flyers. Not a word about Julia:
http://redmond.komonews.com/news/911/689318-police-expand-search-missing-boy
Here he is handing out flyers and planning a search. He refuses to talk about the mother, saying he cannot use his small amount of energy on that:
http://www.king5.com/news/Father-of-missing-2-year-old-plans-out-Saturday-search-133734163.html
Several of us have expressed the opinion (assuming what we have heard about her mental issues is true) that while Julia might be guilty of harming her child, that she is also a victim of her illness and a system that failed to help her or her family.
This is not a pardon, nor does it excuse what she did (assuming she did anything), but a statement of reality. I would say that Julia slipped through the cracks in our mental healthcare system, but we are not talking about a system with a few cracks. We have chasms.
We could fill those chasms, but that costs money, and as a society we have other priorities. We care about American Idol, we care about blowing **** up on the other side of the world, we care about football and granite countertops and whether or not someone is gay. We care more about saving the endangered Snaperdoodle than whether every child has enough to eat.
We don't care about someone losing their home to foreclosure, or someone who's career just got exported to China. We don't care that there are millions of people in this country who's only form of healthcare is prayer. We don't care that there are a million American kids who went to bed tonight hungry, and who will get dropped off at school tomorrow after sleeping in their car. And if it's "only" a mental health issue? Well we damn sure don't care about that.
Our solution to mental health for most is prayer and prison.
And I think we can do better.
You are on a roll today. Wow.
I guess if you believe him, yes I could see how that would help you or others. I have a problem with his honesty. I think his appearances are self serving and only spark more outrage against a woman who may or may not have killed her child.
I think if LE hasn't figured out what happened, we have a huge problem. He should continue to talk to LE and stop appearing on tv with his divorce attorney by his side. Why does he need his attorney there anyway?
Parents snap and kill their children even with no mental illness. OCD may or may not have anything to do with Sky's disappearance. Perhaps she hated SM's guts and took it out on Sky. IDK and nobody knows what her state of mind was at the time.
It does concern me that the LDT test was inconclusive to the bruises question. Not to say he has anything to do with Sky's disappearance but maybe what Julia said about him may be true.
His child custody case, divorce and the CPS dependency cases are on-going. he is right to have his divorce attorney with him. Note that he is not his criminal attorney? And as for the LDT test results, they were not inconclusive as to whether HE caused the bruises. They showed he was not lying when he said he did not cause them. They were only inconclusive as to his possible knowledge as to how they got there. Since he believed Julia caused those bruises to frame him, I can understand that. See paragraph 52 of page 17 of his declaration:
http://images.bimedia.net/documents/Decl+of+Solomon+Metalwala.pdf
Yay!
I have not read all of the posts, but I have tried to keep up with this case. My thoughts are this....BOTH of these parents have issues. A court does not put a restraining order against a father for almost an entire year with NO EVIDENCE AT ALL just because his wife said he was a bad father. I truly feel for this family, but I don't think the entire truth has come out about the father. Something is not right here. The mother is obviously mentally ill. I have a good friend whose sister was diagnosed as bi-polar after the birth of her second child and it is very sad what they go through. A lot of the time they don't even know what they are doing. Family, friends and people close to this couple surly are helping the police put the puzzle pieces together.
What concerns me the most is the information in the declaration from December 2010 which states JB thought she might harm Sky and the close bond she has with the daughter. Everyone here figured that out before the declaration was made public. These words were written almost a year ago and the father's greatest fear seems to have come to fruition.....This is all too sad to comprehend. Sky.....where are you?
As a (female) family law attorney who has practiced family law for eight years, I can tell you that restraining orders are issued like hot cakes, even with little evidence, conflicting evidence, etc. Not by all judges and some do not issue them when they should, but it's usually the other way around. Judges fear being the one to fail to issue an order against a guy and then have to hear about a dead woman later on, so they err on the side of the mom/wife/girlfriend, usually. In this case, the judge chose wrong.
but that is better than zero time together.
