Steely Dan
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Second wives can be horrid.
When my Ex married Wife #2, they didn't like the fact that I existed and made my life h*ll.
One day, I had to ask if my Ex could watch the kids for me, my Mom wasn't available. When I went to pick them up, B*tch... I mean Wife #2 asked when I was going to pay her... excuse me?
If
1) you expected payment, it should have been mentioned up front.
2) Wife #2 needs to keep her mouth shut and let Ex speak to me about any issue(s) we may have and
3) If my Ex wanted to ever watch the kids on my time again, he'd better control Wife #2's mouth
Regardless, I NEVER asked them to watch the kids on my time again... because of Wife #2... She blew it... and Ex paid the price.
When ex hubby came to pick up the kids, you should tell the kids to go to his car and then privately tell him what happened. I'd indicate that you'll be more than happy to have him spend time with his children because they love him and despite your differences, you know he loves them. However, you'd prefer he keep the kids away from his new wife and the next time your mother can't watch the kids that you'll expect half payment for whoever you can scrape up. You'd feel safer leaving the kids with someone you barely know than his new wife. JMO Of course have a reliable backup first. :seeya: JMO