gitana1
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It is hard to psychoanalyze a person who has never said a word publicly. Even a professional would have to guess with so many unknowns in place.
"People who are overly narcissistic commonly feel rejected, humiliated and threatened when criticized. To protect themselves from these dangers, they often react with disdain,
rage
Narcissistic_rage , and/or defiance to any slight criticism, real or imagined.[11] To avoid such situations, some narcissistic people withdraw socially and may feign modesty or humility."
I have no evidence that before this happened that Terri Horman was ever reclusive or that she reacted abnormally due to the slightest criticism. By all accounts before this happened she seemed very outgoing and a woman who loved children and loved helping them in school. A selfless job imo.
I think it is logical to believe it was Kaine telling everyone... including Terri not to speakout.. for he himself didnt speakout for a long time... even though LE repeatedly said they had not advised the family not to speak out. He also told Intel not to be speaking with the press about Kyron and to this day I wonder......WHY? What could they have said that he wouldnt have approved of?
IMO
We sure don't have evidence of TH being reclusive prior to this. That's the point. The question was if TH is a narcissist, how she can remain so hidden and quiet. That was my answer. TH was not facing any real level of criticism, that I know of, before. She sure is now though. It could make sense that, if a narcissist, TH would hide now in the face of all the firestorm about her.
Bu the way, I worked as a preschool teacher/daycare worker for years. I was surprised to see that some of the people working in that field disliked children. These types could fool the parents but then I saw their real attitudes when the parents left. Not everyone who works with kids is selfless. But that's an aside.
I do not think it is logical to assume Kaine told everyone to be quiet. I think it is even less logical to state such as fact in these threads when nothing substantiates it. That's why I try to use qualifying language: "Assuming Kaine actually told TH to keep quiet..."
Instead, I think it is highly logical that LE told the people involved not to say much, or anything at all. That's what LE does until they are close to an arrest. Lukne, a poster here, stated she herself was told by LE not to talk about certain things to the media. Not Kaine, but LE.
I know some of us view TH as this passive wallflower controlled by an almost abusive Kaine and now criticized by him and his ex wife who abandoned her own kid. The rest of us see no evidence for that. Assuming Kaine ran the show and told everyone what to do as far as what to say, assumes the above-stated theory, IMO. But respectfully, I don't buy it. There is not one single thing that substantiates that, that does not come from TH and even her words do not paint that picture, IMO.
As far as the INTEL memo, I feel LE told Kaine and his family how to handle the firestorm of media sure to come. I'm sure Kaine, as the father of the victim, wanted to reiterate this to his co-workers so they would know he approves of the strategy. At that time, assuming LE was starting to look at TH, LE was in a precarious position. They were beginning, I think, to suspect TH but could not divulge that to the rest of the family for fear their investigation's focus would be blown wide open. How do you prevent that? Keep everyone quiet.
What's the alternative theory? Believing Kaine is the one who controlled the flow of information is to infer, IMO, that he had something to do with the disappearance of his child. Likewise then, DY and TY would as well since they went along with the plan. TH, well, according to the theory, she's a submissive and perhaps abused wife so she went along cause that's what she does. I think there is clearly not one iota of evidence or even rumor, hearsay, etc., that supports such a theory. These people lost their baby and are desperate to get him back. That's all. :twocents: